Breaking a Few Eggs

    It’s almost impossible to make an omelet without breaking a few eggs and if you are just ending your relationship, you will almost certainly be feeling palpable trepidation for what has happened. If you believe you have did all you could to make things work and if you believe that you will be healthier, happier, calmer, safer or more, the other side of the relationship, then you have to trust your instinct and slowly and steadily, put one foot in front of the other and make it Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Intimacy and Trust after Divorce”

    Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Intimacy and Trust after Divorce” Originally aired July 25, 2012           Podcast: Play in new window | Download   Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman joins us today and our theme is Intimacy & Trust. Juliana helps us figure out the true meaning of intimacy. Intimacy is emotional, spiritual and physicalall at the same time. By revealing trust in our partner, we open ourselves to a more special relationship. Building Read more [...]

Timetabling a Divorce is Tricky

    Chartered psychologist Felix Economakis famously said “The end of a relationship has a number of stages, similar to those of grief, namely denial, anger, bargaining, depression then acceptance.”  Timetabling a divorce is tricky why do so many try to do it? I might contend the order of a couple of them, but essentially I’d say he was right on the money. I would also add how lovely it would be if you could add ‘relief’ to the end of the list; oh, if only life were that Read more [...]

“An Affair to Remember”

        Daffodils were blooming in an unassuming spring I did mine my own way and baby did her thing Violets blue outgrew grass beneath sarcastic feet Our spirits knew in silence that our bodies were discreet Red roses posed as lilies thorned & shrouded Causing bride & groom to feel a little crowded Each took on a burdensome September Donning Autumn’s fatal fall into an affair to remember…   …An unfair really it was crazy To push up daisies And Read more [...]

Significant Dates Change Color

    After a divorce, previously significant dates change color and feel a little strange, mostly because you’re not sure how you are supposed to feel about them. That date stays on the calendar and comes around every year! The birthday of your ex is a good example. What do you do? Send a card, don’t send a card; to be honest, that’s an easy one to deal with by comparison to your wedding anniversary. Whether you spent a year together or three decades or more, that date signifies the Read more [...]

Social Networks and Online Dating

  The distinction in between social networks and online dating services is the fact that online dating sites normally charge a fee, where social networks are complimentary. Many individuals are now choosing to make use of social networking services as an alternative to online dating sites. Several well-liked online dating services such as Match.com, Yahoo Personals, and eHarmony.com are seeing a reduction in members, where social networks like Meetup.com and Facebook are experiencing a boost Read more [...]

Make the Minutes Count

    24 hours in a day translates into 1,440 minutes.. OK, so let’s say we’re sleeping during approximately 480 of those minutes…(assuming we’re getting a good night’s sleep…and that’s nothing to sneeze at)…that leaves us with, plus or minus, 960 waking minutes…every day!!!… All righty then…so what?  …sooooooooooooo…during how many of those minutes will we choose to spend thinking unhappy thoughts? During how many minutes will we elect to live in misery…fear…sadness…rage…confusion…defeat??? In Read more [...]

Dragging A Drunk Husband Home

      by Gint Aras     When married couples make scenes in public, the rest of us are left pondering.     Last weekend I was seated in the patio of a Vilnius café with some friends. It was rather early on a pleasant evening, not yet eight o’clock. This café is frequented by a large variety of people, young and old, locals and tourists, some well dressed, others unbathed bohemians. You can eat a good, modestly priced dinner there, or you can order a Read more [...]

“I Surrender & Release”

  “I Surrender & Release”   Sometimes I struggle for inner peace Then I surrender & release Only to find my peace of mind Pieced out and heading east   Today my best direction Happens to be west Even harder now to reunite with the peace I once possessed   My quest is As it should be Difficult and I knew it would be Nothing short of my Entire life’s increase Such is the price you pay for inner peace So I surrender & release       Follow Read more [...]

A Divorce Party?

      There’s a growing trend in the US for a divorce party at some point after the divorce is final and they seem to be catching on and gathering strength in the UK too. Whilst I understand the significance of celebrating the fact that this unpredictable period is over, I’m not entirely sure I get wedding ring coffins and black iced cakes with plastic icons of dead grooms perched on the top, but it seems the commercial wheels still turn even for the most morose of life events. The Read more [...]