You Will Get Over It, In Your Time, In Your Way

  ‘Divorce is crap - get over it!’  It’s a strange take on what could easily be termed one of the most stressful life events, ever, but this is advice that may well be sent your way from acquaintances who have suffered terribly inside their own divorces. For some people, there are no soft boundaries for self-exploration during this difficult time, they prefer to take a cut and dry approach, hence the sharply direct tone in their words. Unemotional pragmatism is all they need to get Read more [...]

Infidelity and You

It comes with many names, and rarely is it ever accepted – infidelity is one of the single worst acts somebody can commit in a relationship. Trying to deal with the act of cheating, or adultery, can be quite a difficult thing to deal with. The emotional dilemmas as well as psychological barriers it can creates in someone’s mind can be very hard to get over. Whether you have been the victim of infidelity, or have left a relationship because of your own actions, trying to understand just why Read more [...]

Are There Substances That May Block Us From God?

      In our desire to connect more deeply with God, we may be unaware that certain substances actually create a block to our experiences.  If you remove these substances the clarity of purpose, clarity of connection , clarity of communication is so much more readily available.     Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Read more [...]

Rosalind Sedacca from the Child-Centered Divorce Joins the Divorce View Today

  Welcome to The Divorce View Radio Talk Show with your co-hosts, Joanie Winberg and Lisa LaBelle Today's special guest is Rosalind Sedacca from the Child-Centered Divorce     January is dedicated as International Child Centered Divorce Month. Sadly, January has the largest amount of divorces filed. Rosalind and Joanie offer tips on the following topics: - Who is the adult? Are your children parenting you through the divorce or are you parenting your children? - Your kids Read more [...]

You After Divorce: a Chinese Vase

Recovering after a divorce is hard. Not only do you have to deal with the ensuing emotional roller-coaster and recovery process, but also with an awful feeling of something having broken inside of you. And it’s no wonder, after divorcing, something indeed broke, and that is that innocent thought of Until Death Do Us Part. You come to realize that that is a very rare flavor of marriage, and you might even start doubting yourself and your ability to obtain it…you might blame your former spouse, Read more [...]

Tempting to Offload Divorce Angst

  It’s awfully tempting to offload divorce angst, onto somebody who really is on your side. Indulging the urge to do so is fine, providing that person isn’t your solicitor.   It’s an expensive mistake to use your solicitor as a counselor and to be honest, unscrupulous ones are unlikely to encourage you to stop. Divorce and the ancillary pain that goes with it, is part of their regular day at the office but never forget, your time is their money.  They may feed from the morsels Read more [...]

Flax Carrot Apple Muffins

Combine 1 ½ cup Flour ¾ cup Flaxseed meal ¾ cup oat flour (by grinding oats in blender) ¾ cup brown sugar 2 tsp baking soda 1 tsp baking powder 2 tsp cinnamon 2 cups pureed or shredded carrots (the first few times I pureed so the kids wouldn't notice the carrots) 2 cups shredded apple   In separate bowl ¾ cup low fat milk 2 eggs 1 tsp vanilla   Combine dried ingredients with the wet. Add 1 cup dried cranberries   Combined just until moistened. Fill muffin Read more [...]

You Can Live a Stress Free Life

  The great spiritual teacher Ram Dass, offered some amazing thoughts during a lecture on living a stress free life, , that I share here. How do you know when you are there?  Listen to an enlightening answer to that question that I learned from Ram Dass.         Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Read more [...]

Insults Can Cut Below the Belt

    If your ex lashed out with insults about your sexual performance or intimate pleasing ability, throw that thought out with your next bag of trash. It is likely to be as off kilter as the Leaning Tower of Pisa. Insults that cut below the belt have a clever way of niggling away at your very core, but their vitriol is likely to have been fueled by the stuff that powers them; bilious spite. The truth is, if your existence has descended to this level of horror, there is only one way Read more [...]

Things You Should Know about Hoovers and Hoovering

  Hoovers and Hoovering are terms that came from the popular vacuum cleaner brand. Hoovering is the behavior common among abusers that is seen when the victim threatens to get out, or actually gets out of an abusive relationship. The abuser will suck the victim back into the relationship by playing with one’s weaknesses. It can be done by giving the victim gifts, promises, acts of affection, and compliments.   Hoovers and Hoovering have been made possible because of the fear of being Read more [...]