Find Yourself Depleted of Funds

  If you’ve been a non/low wage earner in your relationship and you suddenly find yourself separated and depleted of funds, the first thing you need to do is find out where you stand financially by getting a clear picture of what you are entitled to. The Citizen’s Advice Bureau is an extremely useful organisation (UK) but it can take some time to get an appointment in which to lay out all the facts for a comprehensive assessment. If you have most of your financial information to hand Read more [...]

Want more Success? IT’s time, to “Get Big”

Want more Success? IT's time, to "Get Big". We'll show how. Create the success you desire, Success, in any area of life, can be yours.         Hi, I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional potential in their business and personal life. My Read more [...]

What to do on D

  There’s a growing trend in the US for divorce parties and they seem to be catching on and gathering strength in the UK too. Whilst I understand the significance of celebrating the fact that this unpredictable period is over, I’m not entirely sure I get wedding ring coffins and black iced cakes with plastic icons of dead grooms perched on the top, but it seems the commercial wheels still turn even for the most morose of life events. The Unitarian Universalist Clergy actually has a service Read more [...]

Can an Addict be Free of Addictions, Desires, Cravings, Forever?

    Can one be fully free of addictions, desires, cravings, forever? We answer this question daily asked by clients with all sorts of addictions.  My answer might surprise you.         Hi, I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional Read more [...]

The Darkness & Light Poem

  B y now you should know of L ight & darkness and that each can’t E xist without the other S till with darkness & light S omething breathes and believes yet something smothers I t is in light that we find our way back home N othing lost in darkness is fearless, it is frightened G od is love and God has brightly shone S o the damned & condemned… …Can be enlightened   Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out  these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Read more [...]

“Why am I Attracting Unhealthy People to Date?”

    "Why am I attracting alcoholics and addicts or unhealthy people to date?"  Yes, there is a very good reason we attract alcoholics and addicts to date. Co- Dependent?????         Hi, I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional Read more [...]

Apprenticeship

  Consider your married years as an apprenticeship to finding the real you and uncovering your full potential. I often think that the troubles we experience during divorce are so unique and sometimes so devastating, it might be easier to scoop the entire event up and file it under, ‘Forget the lot!’ But if we do that, we run the risk of forgetting some of our great awakenings too. Everyone we interact with, including our ex, has an influence on us, even the blooming solicitor you’re Read more [...]

Suicidal Feelings Are Very Real and Should Not be Ignored

  A few months back, I posed the question of what you should do if your ex throws a protest threatening suicide; tonight I’ve decided to tackle what you should do if you’re the one harbouring the darkest of thoughts. Suicidal feelings are very real and should not be ignored or taken lightly. Generally, they don’t go away of their own accord, they aren’t headaches. Whatever you feel the reasons are for you feeling that way, bad treatment by your ex or indeed, guilt for bad treatment Read more [...]

A Workbook / Working It Out On Paper / Questions We Can Ask Ourselves

Feel free to answer these 7 questions. Fill in the blanks and be honest with yourself.     1. What could we have done differently?   2. What was the turning point that made us stop getting along?   3. What can I take with me into my next relationship?   4. What baggage will I leave behind?   5. Can we be friends and on what level?   6. What does being friends with an ex really mean?   7. Did we ever really know each other at all?   Follow Read more [...]

Pang of Barbed Hurt

  Trust me when I tell you that it is possible to feel a pang of barbed hurt when other people make light of your useless ex. I’m not entirely sure why it happens, especially if the ex has been a particularly masterfully useless waste of space, it just does. The best way to deal with exterior comments is to do your level best to let them wash over you. It was somebody else’s conversation after all, you just caught wind of it, you didn’t initiate it and you probably didn’t need reminding Read more [...]