Do we Sacrifice Ourselves to Stay in a Relationship?

      Do we Sacrifice Ourselves to Stay in a Relationship?  Sacrifice is a word that most people are scared of. Sacrifice is called selflessness. Meaning you're willing place your partner's happiness above your own (LOVE). Of course, you're going to run across a person(s) that'll take advantage of it and/or not appreciate it, but those are the chances you take in relationships. It's all 50/50 whether or not it works out, but you can't stay sulking, and thinki...ng you feel like Read more [...]

Texting during Sex? Would someone do this?

      Just when you think you've heard it all, a client comes in to share a story that even shocked me. Watch this video, but please do not repeat it! Learn from other peoples mistakes, but please do not repeat them. Love is the answer. But Texting during Sex? Would someone do this? Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and Read more [...]

Take Time Each Day Just for You

      Try to seek out the peace and comfort that lies in your own silence.   Take Time Each Day Just for You! At certain stages after your divorce, it will seem like you have noise and chaos raining down on you from all angles, and if you’re busy at work, or have your hands full with children, it’s virtually impossible to turn the noise off. Find a pocket of the day where you are likely to remain undisturbed, switch all telephones to silent, and play a game of patience, Read more [...]

Relationships – Domestic Violence

    When you are young everything revolves around relationships...your relationship with your family, your relationships with your friends and peers, and your romantic relationships.  As we age and grow into who we are as people it is natural for the focus to be less on relationships with others and more on the relationship we have with ourselves; however, even as adults that often isn't the case. In our society we put a lot of emphasis on romantic love.  We watch romantic comedies, Read more [...]

Are You Sexually Compatible?

      Are You Sexually Compatible? Sexual compatibility, as we describe here, can deepen the love connection between two people.     Hi, I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional potential in their business and personal life. My Read more [...]

WWE Wrestling and Life: Illusion? Reality? Are You Stuck?

Many people look at WWE wrestling as illusion, pretend. Is it? Is life an illusion too? Let's see.  There are people in you life struggling with the reality of their challenges.  Yet there are other people who create an illusion of problems in their lives.  Take a moment and think about which you might be doing?     Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Read more [...]

300th Divorce Coping Tip of the Day

  This is actually the 300th Divorce Coping Tip of the Day that I’ve written. I think the essence of today’s sentiment would like to encourage you to take one day at a time. If I’d thought for one minute that I’d even be able to fill 300 slots with ideas and advice on getting through divorce, I’d have stumbled at the first block. Take all of your best intentions and convert them into bite-sized chunks, be they carving a route through a day filled with more angst than you can Read more [...]

Your Ex is History Don’t Bring Them on Your Date!

  Your Ex is history so don’t bring them on your date! Regardless of how much effort we may make toward leaving our past in our past, we are haunted because of it. We have been troubled by an affair our ex had, or we have been frightened of the raised voice that accompanied a meltdown that lead to physical or verbal abuse. Without realizing it, many individuals develop an inclination to hightail it away from people who even just in the slightest way remind them of their ex-spouse. This Read more [...]

Clean Break Orders

Clean Break Orders are agreements that have been stamped and sealed by the courts and they state that neither party has grounds to make a financial claim on their ex, once their divorce has settled. It stands firm even in the event of an untimely death soon after the divorce and is generally suitable if there are no children under 18 that need providing for. If one of the parties earns considerably less than the other, a court may rule the balance of equity be more favorable towards them by Read more [...]

Should Former Lovers, Become Friends? Or let it go?

As I work with clients who struggle in new relationships, a major block for many of them is their unwillingness to be friends with past lovers. Watch how resentments from the past, hurt us in love today.       Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own Read more [...]