Take Time Each Day Just for You

      Try to seek out the peace and comfort that lies in your own silence.   Take Time Each Day Just for You! At certain stages after your divorce, it will seem like you have noise and chaos raining down on you from all angles, and if you’re busy at work, or have your hands full with children, it’s virtually impossible to turn the noise off. Find a pocket of the day where you are likely to remain undisturbed, switch all telephones to silent, and play a game of patience, Read more [...]

Relationships – Domestic Violence

    When you are young everything revolves around relationships...your relationship with your family, your relationships with your friends and peers, and your romantic relationships.  As we age and grow into who we are as people it is natural for the focus to be less on relationships with others and more on the relationship we have with ourselves; however, even as adults that often isn't the case. In our society we put a lot of emphasis on romantic love.  We watch romantic comedies, Read more [...]

WWE Wrestling and Life: Illusion? Reality? Are You Stuck?

Many people look at WWE wrestling as illusion, pretend. Is it? Is life an illusion too? Let's see.  There are people in you life struggling with the reality of their challenges.  Yet there are other people who create an illusion of problems in their lives.  Take a moment and think about which you might be doing?     Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Read more [...]

300th Divorce Coping Tip of the Day

  This is actually the 300th Divorce Coping Tip of the Day that I’ve written. I think the essence of today’s sentiment would like to encourage you to take one day at a time. If I’d thought for one minute that I’d even be able to fill 300 slots with ideas and advice on getting through divorce, I’d have stumbled at the first block. Take all of your best intentions and convert them into bite-sized chunks, be they carving a route through a day filled with more angst than you can Read more [...]

Your Ex is History Don’t Bring Them on Your Date!

  Your Ex is history so don’t bring them on your date! Regardless of how much effort we may make toward leaving our past in our past, we are haunted because of it. We have been troubled by an affair our ex had, or we have been frightened of the raised voice that accompanied a meltdown that lead to physical or verbal abuse. Without realizing it, many individuals develop an inclination to hightail it away from people who even just in the slightest way remind them of their ex-spouse. This Read more [...]

Clean Break Orders

Clean Break Orders are agreements that have been stamped and sealed by the courts and they state that neither party has grounds to make a financial claim on their ex, once their divorce has settled. It stands firm even in the event of an untimely death soon after the divorce and is generally suitable if there are no children under 18 that need providing for. If one of the parties earns considerably less than the other, a court may rule the balance of equity be more favorable towards them by Read more [...]

Should Former Lovers, Become Friends? Or let it go?

As I work with clients who struggle in new relationships, a major block for many of them is their unwillingness to be friends with past lovers. Watch how resentments from the past, hurt us in love today.       Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own Read more [...]

Survivors of Domestic Violence, Let Your Story Empower Others

  Stories of Survivors: Stories of those who have overcome abuse As many of you know I am a private practice clinician  an author, and a tv show host...what you may not know is that my greatest passion is connected to a fight against domestic violence and serve as the Executive Director of a domestic violence organization, Acts of Random Kindness (or ARK.) ARK is in the process of collecting stories of survivors of domestic violence in various stages of rebuilding their lives and recovering Read more [...]


Pressure. Pressure. Pressure. One oppressive word with an overwhelming and incredible ability to make you feel it bearing down upon your very soul. It can make you choose shorter paths just to bring things to a welcome end, it can cause you to make irrational decisions to spite your ex, it can make you do things completely out of context and character and it can lose you tens of thousands in your financial settlement. So what’s the secret to coping with it and not cutting off your nose to spite Read more [...]

Steve is Home Alone! The History of Divorce Source Radio

    Podcast: Play in new window | Download Joanie and Lesley are absent, and Steve is “home alone” and taking care of the show. Steve Peck Joanie is visiting her grandson, and Lesley was going to be on the show with Steve until Lesley woke up and couldn’t talk. (Can you Imaging that.) As An Alternative to making our listeners wait another week for the next show, Steve has decided to go it alone and reads and answers listener emails. Steve also talks about: The history of Divorce Read more [...]