Don’t Give Bad Comments Any Value

    We have all heard someone say something to someone else that made us cringe as we heard it. Maybe it was a guy talking down to his girlfriend or a student bullying one of their peers in class. This is something so common during and after a divorce between not only you and your ex it may even include the ex-family also.  While this can be hard to hear, it may not always be what it appears. When a person treats another human in a derogatory way, there can be multiple reasons for Read more [...]

A Mentor… is the Fastest Way to Get Extraordinary Results

  Are you a single again after 5, 10, 20 or 30 years of marriage? YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am with you every step of the way!  A Mentor... is the Fastest Way to Get Extraordinary Results     Are any of the following concerns keeping you up at night? - How do I communicate or deal with my ex when it comes to our children? - Will I always feel this lonely? - I can't seem to get out of my own way or move my life forward. Help! - What do I really want to do with my life? What's my Read more [...]

The Addition of Simple Honest Dialogue with Your Children

    If you have children, it really doesn’t matter how old they are, if you are the other side of their maternal/paternal relationship, you will come up against tricky verbal walls. Those walls can be incredibly hard to overcome and you may find yourself questioning your methods in dealing with situations that arise in everyday life. Simple conflicts can find emotions inflated when you assume the role of absent parent. Your choices are to pass responsibility off for fractious events Read more [...]

Holding on to Anger is Like Grasping a Hot Coal

It is held that Buddha said “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” It is very easy to feel angry about your situation as you go through the emotional roller-coaster that is divorce. “Why did my ex leave?” or if you were the one who left “Why did they behave in such a way that I had to leave?” You can find simple answers to any question such as this, but the simple answers will not remove your Read more [...]

The Crazy Psychiatrist

        Barbie called and told me she decided it was time I started dating, and she had found this fabulous man for me. He is a very well known, published and respected psychiatrist. He also owns several facilities in multiple states. She asked me if she could give him my number, and I said sure, what do I have to lose? He called me, and we ended up talking on the phone for a couple weeks and I must admit, he seemed pleasant, so I decided to join him for lunch. Every time Read more [...]

Positive Thinking: Really Make it Work For You

      Become more optimistic and successful! Watch as we share the 3 key steps to take in order to really make "positive thinking" work for you. It takes more than just thinking positively.       Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their Read more [...]

LOVE: Words vs Actions?

      "I Love You", very nice to hear, but does he/she really? Do you REALLY love them? Join us here to see the facts about love.       Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional potential in their business and personal life. The Read more [...]

Why do Some Married People Find it Acceptable to Poke “Fun” at Their Partners in Public?

  Please read my Editors Note at the end of this article.       Why do Some Married Women Find it Acceptable to Poke Fun at Their Husbands in Public? By Gint  Aras   I noticed that several married women I know on Facebook posted this joke on their timelines in recent days: Woman’s Ass Size Study There is a new study about women and how they feel about their asses. The results are very interesting. 10% of women think their ass is too skinny 30% of women think Read more [...]

Three Types of Tears

Crying is a very common pastime when you are clenched in the wiry grip of divorce but did you realise that there are three types of tears. Firstly there are basal, which lubricate the eye keeping it clear of dust. It’s a fluid not dissimilar to blood plasma. There are also reflex tears which come to wash out irritants like onion juice, they are also linked with coughing, vomiting and yawning. The third type are emotional tears, more often provoked by sadness and stress but also from being enormously Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Dealing with the Pain of Divorce”

      Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Dealing with the Pain of Divorce” Originally aired August 23, 2012   Podcast: Play in new window | Download         In this show of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we consider pain. Whether physical or through something like divorce, hurt is a power to be reckoned with. Dr. Banschick shares his own story of a recent back pain that left him incapable of dealing with things he used to take for granted, such as walking, Read more [...]