Post Divorce Christmas Part 4 – Divorced Parents and Christmas with Children

  Divorced Parents and Christmas with Children The first thing you should know is that you are not the only one spending the holidays alone. Christmas and other seasonal holidays can be difficult if you are newly divorced. It can be tougher when there are children involved. It is tough but do-able. Separated families often feel that someone else is having a better Christmas than them. This is not true. They may also feel distressed worrying about their children especially if they are spending Read more [...]

The Stress and Anxiety Over the Divorce Will Fade

    Making the decision to get divorced can be one of the hardest decisions you have faced.  Confusion, fear, anger, disappointment are all feelings you may experience.  Often you aren't just thinking about yourself and wondering about your own future, but are concerned about your spouse, their family, your family, possibly your children.  The Stress and Anxiety Over the Divorce Will Fade! It's okay to be scared.  It's okay to experience a wide array of emotions.  There's nothing Read more [...]

Abbreviations used by MEV

    Here is a list of the abbreviations used by MEV. "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations: N/NPDer - Narcissist P - Psychopath NP - Narcissistic Psychopath NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder PA - Passive Aggressive NS - Narcissistic Supply APD - Antisocial Personality Disorder BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder Bi-P - Bi-Polar NC - No Contact NW - Narcissist Wife NH - Narcissist Husband XN - Ex Narcissist XNW/WNH Read more [...]

“Blink” and “A Can Of Whoop Ass” by Tony Haynes

     “Blink” Believe me, in the blink of an eye Life can end and send one off to glory It’s up to us to link and ink our own life story Now blink & link with me – in sync with our youth Keep the ink distinct… …And link love with the truth     “A Can Of Whoop Ass”   A can of whoop ass doesn’t really   Come in a can And a can of whoop ass is Never closed   Opening a can is Fundamental   Whoop ass is as I suppose Hardly Read more [...]

“I Can’t Help But Feel Connected”

               “I Can’t Help But Feel Connected”   I can’t help but feel connected Necessarily in some way Special, shielded & protected In my quest through every day Gladly part of something greater Narrowed down and then selected I with the world of my Creator Feel I truly am connected I can hear the wind, smell the flowers Cry out when oceans are in pain And I’m in touch with higher powers Need I furthermore explain? To Read more [...]

Try to be Guided by Them

As kind and thoughtful as you hope to be towards your children during a divorce, it is next to impossible not to cause them to feel a slice of angst, guilt or straightforward pain. Their anguish doesn’t disappear as soon as the divorce is over either, there is an adjustment period to get through and that can be as long as the proverbial length of string. If you try to justify your actions towards your ex to them, it can have a completely negative effect. Their age and maturity has nothing to Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Light Some Candles

The early evening can be one of the most troublesome periods of the day. The circumstances are perfect for letting a ripe imagination run away with itself, but you’d do better devoting energy to recharging your batteries at the end of a volatile day. Lighting a few tea light candles can mark the passage into the evening with a bit more serenity and calm. They are often used in churches and people are encouraged to light them for loved ones who have passed away or are ill. If you’re in a good Read more [...]

When I Figured Me Out

I used to Solve mysteries in my mind I was The greatest at who-done-it of   All time   But there was just one mystery All along that alluded me Destiny till then had been unkind   The clues were in my face I didn’t see the signs My breakthrough came like rain bringing an End to drought…   …The last case was closed For good, when I figured me out     Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Is Your Ex a Narcissist or Just an Asshole?”

Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Is Your Ex a Narcissist or Just an Asshole?” Originally aired April 26, 2012 Podcast: Play in new window | Download             In the revised DMS-Five edition, narcissism will no longer be considered a mental disorder as it has been in the past.  With this removal this question comes to mind, “If my ex isn’t a certifiable narcissist, is he/she just an asshole?”     Dr. Banschick breaks down the facts and explain narcissism as we once knew Read more [...]