Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Yet, after the divorce many times she felt so alone and scared. Even though, she had lots of friends, a wonderful family and a great church, it seemed she searched for someone who understood her roller-coaster of feelings. At times, she felt like no one understood the pain and fear she was feeling. She like many, did seek professional help and encourages others to as well. It can be a wonderful experience to expedite the healing process.
Although her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher has dyslexia yet always enjoyed writing and decided to share with others the things she learned while rebuilding her life. The logo for the websites inspiration was a set of broken pilot wings (her ex-husband is a pilot).
After healing was accomplished, Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. One case in point is dating; there was not an internet back then, and cell phones didn’t exist. Like many, she initially was scared but being a smart businessperson she set up a plan of how to date yet continue to keep her and family safe.
The desire in creating the website, Divorced and Scare NO More, was to try and help others help themselves through shared experiences. She knew many experienced some of the pain and sorrow she had felt, and believed that together people can learn and share to reduce the fear and anxiety of our lives.
The launch of Divorced and Scared No More.com was November 2012 (Tasher’s 50+ Birthday) and quickly received a worldwide following. As she started sharing her experiences, others in-turn shared some of their stories. Many have allowed her to share those experiences, but out of respect for their privacy, some of the information has been changed. The intent of the site is for people to share only what they are comfortable with, without fear of reprisals.
Tasher as well as all contributors on the website share because they have “been there and done that” and understands how it FEELS. This is a shining example of how people have taken the lemons they were given and turned them into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet.
Her view is for people to take the ideas and either accept or reject them to fit in their personal situation. No two people will have identical situations, but in time, her hope is that our shared experiences will guide others through this time in their life with the least amount of trepidation.
Tasher’s quest to help others forgive the past and rejoice in their new life did not stop with the website. She has contributed to DivorceSupportCenter.com, HopeAfterDivorce.org, The Good Men Project, Single Sassy Mom (dot) com, , John Brislin Show – Founding Fatherism, “David Essel Alive!,” is heard on iheart radio, Guest Co-Host on Single Again Now What and guest appearances on Developing a New YOU and
The Divorce View. She is also involved with the Tough Angels Organizations The WeddingRings Project and Wings of Hope.
Tasher is single and a mother of three adult children and a proud Grammy to three grandchildren and two step grandchildren. She lives in Houston, TX near her daughter, two grandchildren, three dogs, three cats, two fish and a bunny. She is involved in various animal rescue organization in the Houston area. You can follow Tasher on FB Divorced and Scared NO More and Twitter @Divorced_Scared.
Unless otherwise stated, the contributors are not professionals on this site. As stated previously Tasher has dyslexia; spelling and grammar are NOT her strong suit. With that in mind this website is not perfect and will have errors.
Thanks for stopping by and if there is anything you see that can improve the site please don’t hesitate to share thoughts and ideas.
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