Rejection, part two

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project As pointed out in the comments to part one, my first post about the rejections inherent in the men-approach-women-wait model was focused entirely on how bad it hurts for men to suffer the inevitable multiple rejections inherent in that model. That’s true, and it’s part of why it was titled “part one”. A word to my fellow men: fellas, as we get together over our cigars and brandy in the billiard room, let us take a moment away Read more [...]

Why do Some Married People Find it Acceptable to Poke “Fun” at Their Partners in Public?

  Please read my Editors Note at the end of this article.       Why do Some Married Women Find it Acceptable to Poke Fun at Their Husbands in Public? By Gint  Aras   I noticed that several married women I know on Facebook posted this joke on their timelines in recent days: Woman’s Ass Size Study There is a new study about women and how they feel about their asses. The results are very interesting. 10% of women think their ass is too skinny 30% of women think Read more [...]

Baby Brings Dad Unusual Attention from Beautiful Women

Photo by Gint Aras Originally appeared at The Good Men Project on  October  26, 2012 Writer Gint Aras probes the odd phenomenon  of babies attracting babes…to his wife’s amusement Prior to having Kira, my first child, I used to imagine what attention a baby  might attract in public. I was mostly curious but also mildly anxious. I live in Oak Park, Illinois, a suburb boasting good schools, beautiful parks  and playgrounds, and a diverse culture of bookworms and patrons of the arts,  Read more [...]

Five Important Things Women Don’t Know About Men

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project It’s true, men are complicated and confusing. Noah Brand clears up five common misconceptions. The title is, to be fair, an overgeneralization. These things are not universally true of all men, and there definitely are women out there who know and understand some or all of them. By and large, though, these are five areas where communication between the two most popular genders tends to break down on grounds of incomprehension. Women, Read more [...]

My Husband Would Feel Fury and Frustration

  A separated woman recalls teasing and insulting her husband in front of others. — Reading Gint Aras’ The Butt of the Marriage Joke, about wives who make fun of husbands online, got me thinking and remembering. Posting tasteless memes seemed like child’s play compared to what I used to unleash on my partner. I am a separated 32 year old woman. I used to bash my partner verbally, in his presence and with an audience. I was the purveyor of silly jokes about men and husbands, thinly Read more [...]

Genetic Despair: Depression and Me

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of The Good Men Project   Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.   This is the fourth in a series of essays on depression by some of the Good Men Project’s most valued voices. The first three parts are here, here, and here.   One cold morning in the early 1930s a Kansas farmer waded out into the middle of a creek on his property, put a gun to his head, and killed himself. He left behind a family, including a teenage boy who I Read more [...]

What Led You To Her? Decisions Made In Childhood?

    Our emotional histories depend on little decisions which, however small, are irreversible.  ___ One of the questions people often ask a married man is, “How did you meet your wife?” The question is loaded, of course, and an answer like, “Well, I was hanging out at this party in Linz and ran into a girl in a kitchen,” won’t suffice. Emotional histories fascinate us; the question is asking for a rich narrative. It’s a disguise for this: “What led you to fall for her?” ♦◊♦ I Read more [...]

Dragging A Drunk Husband Home

      by Gint Aras     When married couples make scenes in public, the rest of us are left pondering.     Last weekend I was seated in the patio of a Vilnius café with some friends. It was rather early on a pleasant evening, not yet eight o’clock. This café is frequented by a large variety of people, young and old, locals and tourists, some well dressed, others unbathed bohemians. You can eat a good, modestly priced dinner there, or you can order a Read more [...]

Why Being a Good Man is Definitely a Feminist Issue

    By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project   Noah Brand makes the case that gender theory applies to both genders.     This article is a response to “Why Being a Good Man is Not a Feminist Issue” by Tom Matlack.   The reason I agreed to come on board as editor-in-chief at the Good Men Project is that this site is doing something nobody else is doing, at least not on this scale. Its core mission is born of personal and transformative experience Read more [...]

How to Write a Love Sonnet

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project        It’s cheap, it’s shockingly easy, and it’s disproportionately impressive. English-speaking culture has canonized the sonnet as the greatest expression of love, because English-speaking culture has a crush on William Shakespeare like you would not believe. Shakespeare’s legendary series of sonnets, as well as the coded use of sonnet form in Romeo and Juliet, has cemented the sonnet’s reputation as the top-shelf Read more [...]