Psychopathy Checklist of H. Cleckley and R. Hare

    The below traits are based on the psychopathy checklists of H. Cleckley and R. Hare. Related Qualities of the sociopath: Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them... Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them Authoritarian Secretive Paranoid Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired Conventional appearance Goal of enslavement of their victim(s) Exercises despotic Read more [...]

Come to Terms with The Narcissist Never Loved You

      In order to come to terms with The Narcissist Never Loved You, you must understand why he or she acts the way narcissists do. The narcissist does not operate as what we know is a ‘normal’ human being. - The narcissist has no desire to allow love, teamwork and co-operation into his or her life. - The narcissist believes he or she has to remain ‘separate’ in order to survive. -The narcissist needs to dump his or her internal torment onto an intimate partner and make Read more [...]

It’s Impossible to Control a Narcissist’s Behavior

  It’s important to understand that it’s impossible to control a narcissist’s behavior. Neither the narcissist’s spouse nor children are responsible for his/her behavior. Narcissists are who they are. The best the other parent can do for their children and themselves is to separate themselves as much as possible from the narcissist. First and foremost, former spouses of narcissists need to seek professional support for themselves and their children. It’s important that both children Read more [...]

A Relationship With an Abusers?

  If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you may be/have been in a relationship with an abuser.   •Are you now or have you ever been in a relationship with someone who abuses you emotionally? •Are you always walking on eggshells around your partner, worried that anything you say or do could incite their anger and rage? •Does your partner criticize everything you do or say? •Does your partner try to isolate you from your family and friends? •Does your partner make Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Abbreviations used by MEV

    Here is a list of the abbreviations used by MEV. "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations: N/NPDer - Narcissist P - Psychopath NP - Narcissistic Psychopath NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder PA - Passive Aggressive NS - Narcissistic Supply APD - Antisocial Personality Disorder BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder Bi-P - Bi-Polar NC - No Contact NW - Narcissist Wife NH - Narcissist Husband XN - Ex Narcissist XNW/WNH Read more [...]

MEV Shares Her Letter ” A Beautiful Journey”

    "A Beautiful Journey" is a letter which I have typed out that my favorite shelter worker wrote me this morning, on my final day living at this women’s' shelter. It is words that can help us all. Enjoy My dear MEV, Your journey is the journey of a beautiful woman who inspired and gives compassion and ideals. I admire your strength even when you carry burdens and hardships. I admire your commitment to make things right and your ability to move forward and round up energy, even where Read more [...]