Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.
- Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples.
- Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you.
- Limit contact with the abuser.
- Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse
- Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused
- Hang up the phone if you are abused.
- Try to keep any Read more [...]
Originally posted 2013-03-19 20:34:52. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Exposing ourselves to our ex pathological leaves us WIDE open to be sucked in again. Remember they have the ability to hypnotize us and place us in a trance-like state VERY quickly. Confronting our ex-pathological leaves us wide open for re-victimization.
Psychopaths absolutely HATE to be exposed face to face. Confronting our ex-pathologicals puts us in danger of severe wrath and retribution at the hand of someone who has absolutely no empathy for anyone and who is prone to rages Read more [...]
Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem Thoughts that inspire exploration and reflection (again, compliments to my beautiful therapist)
Happiness can be defined in many ways, but what IS it that gives us this wonderful sensation that emanates from deep within ourselves? The answer comes from deep within.
Self Esteem or Self Respect is not given to use through praise, gifts or attention. It’s about ourselves learning how to do things for ourselves, how to be responsible Read more [...]
Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs
Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you
Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you
Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior
Expect you to jump at their every need
Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs
Has high need for attention:
Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]
It is important to point out that labeling my ex's behavior as the result of a disorder awards him too much sympathy and leniency. He, and all other narcissists (N's) or Borderlines (BPD's) and sociopaths, know exactly what they are doing. While their inclinations are driven by a tragic psychological disorder, their actions are chosen. They choose to abuse! Plain and simple. If you're not sure about this and want to believe that their behavior is beyond their control, ask yourself Read more [...]
Originally posted 2012-11-19 19:52:37. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
The 5 Stages of Grief - Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and Acceptance - were first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to describe a process which many people go through when dealing with a significant tragedy or loss.
The 5 Stages of Grief are:
With divorce in a way, we face a death - death of the dream of our future home and the expectation of being loved the way we deserve by the one we thought was Read more [...]
Character Traits of a Narcissist
1. Self-centered. Their needs are paramount.
2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.
3. Unreliable, undependable.
4. Does not care about the consequences of their actions.
5. Projects his/her faults on to others. High
blaming behavior; never his/her fault.
6. Little if any conscience.
7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.
8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.
9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger Read more [...]
Originally posted 2012-12-19 20:15:59. Republished by Blog Post Promoter