A Relationship With an Abusers?

  If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you may be/have been in a relationship with an abuser.   •Are you now or have you ever been in a relationship with someone who abuses you emotionally? •Are you always walking on eggshells around your partner, worried that anything you say or do could incite their anger and rage? •Does your partner criticize everything you do or say? •Does your partner try to isolate you from your family and friends? •Does your partner make Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Abbreviations used by MEV

    Here is a list of the abbreviations used by MEV. "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations: N/NPDer - Narcissist P - Psychopath NP - Narcissistic Psychopath NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder PA - Passive Aggressive NS - Narcissistic Supply APD - Antisocial Personality Disorder BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder Bi-P - Bi-Polar NC - No Contact NW - Narcissist Wife NH - Narcissist Husband XN - Ex Narcissist XNW/WNH Read more [...]

MEV Shares Her Letter ” A Beautiful Journey”

    "A Beautiful Journey" is a letter which I have typed out that my favorite shelter worker wrote me this morning, on my final day living at this women’s' shelter. It is words that can help us all. Enjoy My dear MEV, Your journey is the journey of a beautiful woman who inspired and gives compassion and ideals. I admire your strength even when you carry burdens and hardships. I admire your commitment to make things right and your ability to move forward and round up energy, even where Read more [...]

Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]

Guidelines to Follow if Still Have to Be In Contact with Your Abuser

  Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.    - Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples. - Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you. - Limit contact with the abuser. - Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse - Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused - Hang up the phone if you are abused. - Try to keep any Read more [...]