Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

S.O.S. Chili – Failproof Spring Cleaning in Less Than 20 Minutes!

  By Gretchen Schiller “This chili is fantastic!” The Trader Joe’s employee eagerly agrees and gets his spiel underway, “And it’s low-fat, cheap and has lots of protein!” He had me at low-fat. The six cans of chili for only $5 dollars didn’t hurt his pitch either. I enthusiastically pile six cans into my cart. Well, stamp “SUCKER!” on my forehead and call it a day. Can’t wait to get home and enjoy my new favorite Turkey Chili for dinner! An hour later. Dinnertime. Huh. Read more [...]

Try this Today: Secret Wink

By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Secret Wink. A secret sign between you and your munchkin. Over a year ago… “Ya know, Sweetie, I was thinkin’ about it Read more [...]

Okay, Ladies, Woman Up…Father’s Day is Coming!

  By Gretchen Schiller Last year on Father’s Day it had been a year since Charles and my divorce. It took me awhile to come up with a gift idea that Ana Lu could make for him. This is perfect for single moms on a budget who are trying to think of a thoughtful gift. Really, for all of us busy moms and consequently last minute shoppers. It has sat on the shelf in his house ever since. Only 15 bucks, easy peasy and he loves it…     • Go the the store and buy a window Read more [...]

Online Dating Mission : FAIL

      by Gretchen Schiller   Did someone sign me up for the FBI and forget to tell me? Worse, forget to give me one of those cool jackets? Because online dating is without a doubt a FBI manhunt. An endless, exhausting pursuit for the “Most Wanted” man: dangerously loyal, wickedly intelligent, and terrifyingly thoughtful with a bold appearance that is a proven threat to all single women. I’m a diligent special agent. I adhere to the manhunt dress code. Shower, put Read more [...]

Small Packages

  By Gretchen Schiller “I tired, Mommy.” Three-year-old Ana Lu leaned into me and wrapped her arms around my leg. “I know, Sweetie, me too,” I replied. This was the sixth apartment we’d looked at today. Ana Lu had hit her limit two apartments ago. I hit mine six apartments ago. The landlord jostled the key and opened the door. Ana Lu froze. I knew what she was thinking. Ick. I agreed. Ick. I gently nudged Ana Lu through the threshold of the door. We had to do the obligatory walk Read more [...]

Who’s on first – Naughty or Nice? Five ways to make it easier to choose “Nice.”

    By Gretchen Schiller Abbott and Costello: Who’s on first. What’s on second. I don’t know is on third. Why’s in left field. Tomorrow’s the pitcher. Today’s the catcher. Naturally, Who’s on first. I don’t give a damn’s the shortstop. Co-parenting Team: Who’s at mom’s home? Who’s at dad’s home? What’s the plan? I don’t know if we will all be together Christmas day. Why’s this so complicated? Tomorrow will be easier. (Wel-l-l-l. Let’s make that next Read more [...]

“I Miss My Daddy!” In the Wake of Divorce

By Gretchen Schiller | originally posted in Sassy Single Mom Jul 1, 2012 | “I sad you and Daddy no same house. I want cry. I so sad. I want cry, Mommy. But I can’t. I weally-weally want cry. I try. I try but I can’t. But I weally want to.” ~Ana Lu (Ana Lu said this twice in a five day span.) Last summer Ana Lu and I were at the park with her mini-soul mate, Matthew. It was one of those rare days when they were both super grouchy with one other.  They were so salty. The goofballs Read more [...]

The Peaceful Pretzels

    By Gretchen Schiller “POUNDER of MINI PRETZELS!” The over-sized bag screams at me while I hurry down the chip aisle in the supermarket. Ugh, nothing smaller? I scan the other bags of pretzels, to the right, to the left, and see that half of them scream “POUNDER!” and the other half with a more modest label – “16oz” – for the same ginormous bag of pretzels. This is far too many pretzels for just Ana Lu and me. Yet Ana Lu likes to have a few pretzels in her lunchbox Read more [...]