What to Do during the Holiday Season

"Research data show that loneliness is a killer. Even bigger than cigarettes. If the thought of holidays without your ex evokes emptiness and sadness for you, know that you don't have to stay in that state and suffer. Our emotional state is largely influenced by our perception and actions. You don't have to be helpless. Think about some of the practical advice below. The following remarks written by Tasher will help you put things into perspective." Latica Mirjanic, MA Psych, Upper deck self Read more [...]

Taking a Look at Oneself Following a Divorce Is Scary

Understandably, self-reflection is scary. For most people, the root of this problem is usually a lack of self-awareness: we know ourselves too poorly. However, self-reflection is a must for those of us who have been through a divorce. We must learn from our mistakes and heal the wounds. The person we are today is the result of past events and decisions we have made. In order to move forward from a breakup, you must accept exactly what happened and acknowledge the part you played in it. It Read more [...]

“U” Come before Your “X”

"Why do we all want a great relationship? Because we get love, affection, attention, a sense of belonging, feelings of safety etc. from it. When relationships end, we still have this need within us. Since not fulfilling this need is very painful, our mind makes us feel like we did have love, attention, affection, a sense of belonging, feelings of safety etc. in our relationship. Moreover, now we miss that so much. Your mind tends to push all of the dirt under the carpet. Take some mental energy Read more [...]

Do You Love More and Get Less?

"When you love more and get crumbs from your partner, you may even feel happy. You may live for that one second of his/her attention. That one moment of love and that one moment of how things should be are exactly what you're looking for, and dying for too. Have an honest look. Is that really 100% commitment from your partner? Or is 30% enough for you? Think about it, because it's going to shape your next relationship. The following remarks written by Tasher will help you put things into perspective." Read more [...]

Facing Loss

              "Loss is often one of the most heartbreaking aspect of divorce. Facing fear or emptiness may be so severe that you feel like life has lost value, and you're running on autopilot. At this stage, crying is characteristic for women (on average) and alcohol abuse is more (on average) characteristic for men. Social support is very important, even when you have a strong urge to withdraw from others and can barely get out of bed to Read more [...]

Denial After Divorce

        "Going through pain may start with denial. Its' function is to silence strong emotions until the time you will be ready to face them. The following remarks written by Tasher will help you put things into perspective." Latica Mirjanic, MA Psych Have you ever thought to yourself, “Oh my goodness, how did this happen? How did I get here?” Going through a divorce is never easy, and whether or not it was your idea, you need time to heal. It is very painful Read more [...]