YOU WANT ME TO DRIVE WHAT???! With a Yours, Mine, and Ours Family

      I have a stepdaughter, two children from my previous marriage, and a 21 month old with my husband.  Four was the perfect number and we were all done having children. We had the great yours, mine, and ours family. I started feeling a little under the weather and could not shake it.  This had to be because I’m so busy at work, taking care of all the children, animals, and trying to keep the house picked up, a social life, and starting a new business.   This horrible sick Read more [...]

Keeping Your Children Out of the Icky Side of Divorce

  Here are a few bits of advice for keeping your children out of the icky side of divorce regardless of how long it has been since you separated or divorced.   1. When spending time with your child, don't speak negatively about your former spouse. 2. Do not argue with your ex in your child's presence, and especially avoid arguing when talking about the child. 3. Make sure you always arrive for visitations on time consistently so as not to offer any ammo for your ex. 4. Avoid talking Read more [...]

Learn from your mistakes, we are all HUMAN!

    Most people have a tendency to let their mistakes define them yet most experts say to embrace and learn from them. You may think the breakup was entirely your partner’s fault (which is not always the case, even when an extra-marital affair took place); but either way, there are still things to learn from the experience. In some cases, we punish ourselves for our partner’s mistakes by putting up walls around us so nobody can hurt us again. Before you use this tactic, ask yourself Read more [...]

Relationship — Were you one of the lucky ones who stumbled on Mrs. / Mr. Right soon after your divorce or their divorce?

    Does everything about him/her feel right yet you are starting to doubt yourself and your feelings only because of other people’s judgment?  Does your relationship feel right yet you still wonder?  Watch for clues that your relationship is going too fast.  You know or should know if you have become the rebound person.  Many friends, family member’s even complete strangers will advise you not to date a divorced man or woman until at least a year after his or her divorce, that Read more [...]

Should I Have Stayed or was it Best to Go?

    If you are visiting this website for the first time  and you keep thinking to "Should I Have Stayed or was it Best to Go?" this article is worth reading… The decision to stay in or leave an unhappy marriage or relationship was one of the most difficult choices that you ever had to make, especially when children are involved. Many make this decision based on what they believe is in the best interest of the children. They believe that an intact family, regardless of severe marital Read more [...]

Not a social butterfly? That’s OK!

    Not a social butterfly?  That’s OK! Here are a few tips for you…   1. Fess up. Do not pretend to be a social butterfly – there is nothing wrong with being introverted! Tell your date if you are someone who seeks friendship first or needs time to fall in love. Doing this, you may scare away a few of the flakes and instead attract people who will really understand and like you.   2. Meet at location where you feel comfortable. If you don’t like loud places, Read more [...]

Think before you tell your date too much about your children

  Always remember that initially the person you are dating is most likely a stranger. No matter how trustworthy they sound, you need to be careful not to give out too much personal information. This especially goes for information regarding your children. If you come to realize that you are dating an unsavory character, you will probably regret telling that person about your kids school, schedule, activities, and so on. Think before you tell your date too much about your children. When referring Read more [...]