Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]

Divorced? Survive and Thrive After Divorce Boot Camp for Men and Women

Divorced? Survive and Thrive After Divorce Boot Camp for Men and Women As a Divorce Mentor and CEO of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children, I hear many of the following questions from my clients after divorce... "Now what?, Will I ever get my life back?, Will I ever be happy again?". Unfortunately, there isn't a step-by-step manual to answer these questions and to help you get back on track after your divorce. We can only wish. Wish no more. That's why as a corporate trainer Read more [...]

What Led You To Her? Decisions Made In Childhood?

    Our emotional histories depend on little decisions which, however small, are irreversible.  ___ One of the questions people often ask a married man is, “How did you meet your wife?” The question is loaded, of course, and an answer like, “Well, I was hanging out at this party in Linz and ran into a girl in a kitchen,” won’t suffice. Emotional histories fascinate us; the question is asking for a rich narrative. It’s a disguise for this: “What led you to fall for her?” ♦◊♦ I Read more [...]

Is It Okay to Date More Than One Person?

When I was young, if a boy liked a girl, he asked her on a date. In the event that the girl was interested in him, she would accept the invitation. For some reason, we were expected to continue seeing each other and to try to make a relationship work. I know many people still practice this type of dating ritual, and many others married the wrong person because of it. Just because you went out for coffee does not mean that your date is the right person for you. There is nothing wrong with dating more Read more [...]

Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community

  I posted my Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community before, but learned the link did not work.  As such I got a copy of the mp3 from the organization that hosted the talk and I up loaded directly to the site and undated the post. This is a recording of a talk I was asked to give to an international audience for Better than Ever After Divorce.  Dee Adio-Moses asked me to talk on the topic after interviewing me about my book on her radio show.  Some of the topics Read more [...]

Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]

Assessing Emotional Maturity By, Justin Nutt, LMSW

    “Maturity of mind is the capacity to endure uncertainty.” - John Finley All too often emotional maturity is viewed as a given attribute that a person achieves based on their chronological age. But the truth is that young or old, 6 or 60, isn’t what defines the emotional maturity of a person. The maturity of a person isn’t something that magically is bestowed upon a person when they enter puberty, graduate high school, or turn 21, it is something that comes from within and Read more [...]

INSTEAD OF WORRYING ABOUT FINDING SOMEONE NEW, FOCUS ON YOU!

When people find themselves single again, it can be a scary experience.  Often in the grips of change and loneliness, we find ourselves wondering about the “whens”, “wheres” and “hows” of finding someone new.  However, jumping right back into another relationship is not always beneficial to everyone involved, most importantly-yourself. Before getting involved in another relationship right away, we need to do what is best for us, which is to heal completely.  It is necessary to be Read more [...]

Is your life out of balance? Find the Right Life Balance

The Right Life Balance To achieve the right balance, you first need to know your values and priorities so you can allocate more time to those areas when time is limited. To prioritize what really matters to you, start by paying attention to what makes you truly happy or instantly brings a smile to your face. People often look at work/life balance as having an equal balance between the two. They view it as a balanced scale. Unfortunately, this belief does not take into account your life's purpose Read more [...]

Five Important Things Women Don’t Know About Men

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project It’s true, men are complicated and confusing. Noah Brand clears up five common misconceptions. The title is, to be fair, an overgeneralization. These things are not universally true of all men, and there definitely are women out there who know and understand some or all of them. By and large, though, these are five areas where communication between the two most popular genders tends to break down on grounds of incomprehension. Women, Read more [...]