Patriarchal Marriage- Healthy Courtship vs. Artificial Intimacy

    Part of your healing should be learning what a healthy relationship has and does not have. Very often people get out of an abusive relationship and unfortunately get into a carbon copy of what they just got out of.   HEALTHY COURTSHIP The common goals of the patriarchal marriage would be agreed to by both partners before the relationship became committed. These are the perpetuation of the family unit through procreation and economic success through a predetermined division Read more [...]

Types of Marriage Models / Healthy Courtships – Companionate Marriage / Artificial Intimacy

Types of Marriage Models / Healthy Courtships  - Companionate Marriage / Artificial Intimacy   Healthy Courtships 1. Both partners would experience a mutually satisfying, personally, fulfilling, romantic relationship 2. No defined duties; roles would vary or would be negotiated between both partners 3. Due to honest basis of relationship there would be no peak honeymoon and the inevitable disillusionment after the honeymoon fades. 4. Marriage would be marked by true intimacy between Read more [...]

Run From the Always Right Person

      “Get the facts first. You can distort them later.” -  Mark Twain   The last man I dated told me the first night I meet him that he was always right, no ifs, butts, or maybes. I thought he was joking, he even laughed when he said it. Well oh my, he really was serious. Come to think of it my ex-husband would also say he was always right. Maybe there is a trend here I need to learn from. With both men, if we ever disagreed they would push their point even if they Read more [...]

Settle?

Self-reflection Following a Divorce Taking a good sober look at oneself following a divorce is scary but necessary.   Why do so many of us get stuck in a relationship filled with boredom, anger, disrespect, sadness and even violence? Is it because we, for whatever reason, settle? We become attached, afraid to leave, afraid that we might never find love again and end up alone. For most people, the root of this problem is usually a lack of self awareness: we know ourselves too poorly. Understandably, Read more [...]