Dating is a Time to Have Fun and Meet New People!

    Dating is a time to have fun and meet new people. It should not be viewed as the express lane to your next relationship or marriage. Each date should be viewed as another opportunity to find out more about what you do and do not want in your new life. Accept as many dates as you want but remember it’s just a date. This date is just one evening of your life, and if you don’t hit it off or you do not go out with them again, it is okay. There is always tomorrow, and good things Read more [...]

HOPE is just a phone call away. Help is Available if you Need it!

      If you’re feeling hopeless, HOPE is just a phone call away. No matter what problems you are struggling with, hurting yourself isn’t the answer.   The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is here to help.  By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. For Hearing & Speech Impaired with TTY Equipment: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889)   If you are in a relationship that is violent, Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Beware of Scammers

There are so many out there that have fallen victim to someone who has came into their lives and have tried to rob them of everything, they try to control every ounce of you. I am living proof of how someone got taken by a  Scammer. You never think or expect yourself to fall victim to one of these ,but believe it or not it does happen to us especially when your at a low point in your life. Here are a few signs of what to look for in a Scammer: Very Charming and extremely loving Unemployed Read more [...]

Abbreviations used by MEV

    Here is a list of the abbreviations used by MEV. "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations: N/NPDer - Narcissist P - Psychopath NP - Narcissistic Psychopath NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder PA - Passive Aggressive NS - Narcissistic Supply APD - Antisocial Personality Disorder BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder Bi-P - Bi-Polar NC - No Contact NW - Narcissist Wife NH - Narcissist Husband XN - Ex Narcissist XNW/WNH Read more [...]

Having Your Smart Phone Work for You

They passed the email stage of getting to know you and you feel comfortable giving them your cell phone number, let your smart phone help you. Smart phones have many areas in the address book you can put information about the person. Here are a few things I do, and it has served me very well over time.   Start by putting the person’s name in, first name in its location. The last name is a little different;  first put in the last name then follow it with where I meet him and his username Read more [...]

Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]

Change is NOT Allowed – Enjoy Dating

    Be yourself and don’t be with someone that you want to “change!” Unfortunately, many believe they ought to concentrate on the good aspects of your potential partner and overlook the tiny problems which are not compatible. Many take this a step further and do not communicate to the new partner issues that they're feeling. The notion of picking your battles is definitely an important part of the way you approach conflict in marriage because there will almost always be some Read more [...]

Guidelines to Follow if Still Have to Be In Contact with Your Abuser

  Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.    - Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples. - Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you. - Limit contact with the abuser. - Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse - Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused - Hang up the phone if you are abused. - Try to keep any Read more [...]

Genetic Despair: Depression and Me

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of The Good Men Project   Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.   This is the fourth in a series of essays on depression by some of the Good Men Project’s most valued voices. The first three parts are here, here, and here.   One cold morning in the early 1930s a Kansas farmer waded out into the middle of a creek on his property, put a gun to his head, and killed himself. He left behind a family, including a teenage boy who I Read more [...]