What to Wear?????

    While preparing for any date, one important task is deciding what to wear. Of course, you should dress appropriately for the activity in a dignified manner. Something many people don’t consider is keeping track of what they wore and when. You may think I’m being silly right now. How would you feel if this happened to? During the fifth date, you realize the shirt you are wearing was worn on the first and third date with them. They might wonder if you own any other clothes! To Read more [...]

Answers to my Question “What is a Soul Mate?”

  “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and make you look deep inside.”     Your life is a puzzle and a soul mate is the piece to the puzzle that make Read more [...]

Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community

  I posted my Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community before, but learned the link did not work.  As such I got a copy of the mp3 from the organization that hosted the talk and I up loaded directly to the site and undated the post. This is a recording of a talk I was asked to give to an international audience for Better than Ever After Divorce.  Dee Adio-Moses asked me to talk on the topic after interviewing me about my book on her radio show.  Some of the topics Read more [...]

Rejection, part two

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project As pointed out in the comments to part one, my first post about the rejections inherent in the men-approach-women-wait model was focused entirely on how bad it hurts for men to suffer the inevitable multiple rejections inherent in that model. That’s true, and it’s part of why it was titled “part one”. A word to my fellow men: fellas, as we get together over our cigars and brandy in the billiard room, let us take a moment away Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Late Night Call May be Reaching Out for Help or Something Else

      There are few topics I’m reticent to dip into because of the enormity of them. This is one such and if this tip is relevant to you, please seek further advice and assistance, it is not something you need to deal with on your own. The divorce is over and you get a late night call from your ex saying, “I can’t live without you. You can’t do this to me, I’ll kill myself.” Where on earth do you go from here? Threatened self-harm or suicide is indeed a cry for Read more [...]

Dating after Divorce: Most Common Dating Mistakes by Women

Taking a plunge into the dating world again after a divorce, you may find yourself making the same dating mistakes over again. These are some of the most common dating mistakes committed by women. It is important to recognize and understand them so that you will avoid repeating the same in your next dates. 1.    Approaching Men First. Although most conventional dating advice encourages women to take the first step by flirting and striking a conversation, most of the women, who are struggling Read more [...]

If They Show You Attention DOES NOT Mean….

    The first person that shows you attention may not be the right person for you! Many people find themselves going through a string of unhealthy relationships, which are not fulfilling. This happens very often because after a divorce it is very common; to feel starved for attention and become attached to the first person who shows them attention. Just a simple touch or smile when someone has not received one for months or years may be mistaken for a potential relationship. Unfortunately, Read more [...]

T’s Top 10 SAFETY TIPS for Online Dating

The Internet is still pretty safe, even for seniors, according to WiredSafety.org. People are emailing, private messaging, chatting with one another, and making cyber-dates. Online dating will be a fun and fulfilling if you take a few precautions to ensure your safety and success. ■ Do Not Give Out Personal Information - Use a third party email address instead of one with your own and do not link it to any of your accounts. For example, set up a Google account without any of your personal information Read more [...]

Talk and Get to Know Who You’re Dating

    Take time and talk get to know who you’re dating.  Make sure you’re getting to know important details of each other’s lives and date intentionally. Here are things to ask and or discuss with them. Finding out someone is not a good match for you is better earlier than later. 1.Discuss your beliefs, both those from childhood and any current beliefs. 2.Talking about upbringing can reveal a lot about how your date sees the world and what he/she believes a healthy relationship Read more [...]