Answers to my Question “What is a Soul Mate?”

  “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and make you look deep inside.”     Your life is a puzzle and a soul mate is the piece to the puzzle that make Read more [...]

Things Do Go Wrong in Life If You Need Help it’s Just a Phone Call Away

    Things may be going wrong in your life now. I know life will get better. Life isn't always FUN; it isn't always FAIR. You have to take one day at a time. You must learn from your mistakes in order to have the knowledge and ability to find true happiness. Wouldn’t it be nice if life came with an owners manual? Not only would we know what could happen to us; we would also know how to fix it. All we can do is face it head on, and handle everything to the best of our ability, Don't Read more [...]

Spy Gadgets of Today

Spy Gadgets of Today People are always asking me how cool it is to be a Private Investigator. They ask what is the most exciting investigation I have been on? They ask if I have caught people cheating? Then eventually it comes up to what kind of cool spy gadgets do you have? This is usually where I giggle a little and tell them I think the coolest gadgets on the market record video when no one is aware. Now as far as how cool it is to be a Private Investigator I love it because I get to help people Read more [...]

Dating While Separated? REALLY? Let’s See.

  Dating while separated......a difficult transition, and decision.....watch...share.. Watch, as we discuss the no- nonsense approach to the world of dating.       Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional potential in their business Read more [...]

Are They Lying To Me?

    If you have someone you are dating, or maybe you are falling in love, or maybe would like to take it to the next level. Is it hard to trust them? Trust is a very difficult thing especially if you have even been mistreated in any way or cheated on or lied to before. Some people are compulsive liars. They cannot help but try to make anything and everything they do seem amazing and very worthy of your praise. I will be the first person to say that trust needs to be earned by everyone Read more [...]

5 Tips That Will Help You with That First Date

    We all get a little intimidated on a first date. If you have been out of the dating world for a while, it is even harder to get back in the swing of things. Here are some tips I used for my first dates. 1. Keep your expectations realistic: We all have flaws and you and your date are no exceptions. Remember NO checklists but do have your deal breakers. Ask yourself these three questions first: Do I like them? Are they easy to talk to, and you feel comfortable? Is there any attraction? Read more [...]

Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]

Missing the Physical Aspects of a Relationship is Normal

      Missing the physical aspects of a relationship is normal. How you handle it could send you down a path you don’t want to be on. With the loss of any long-term relationship, you'll encounter things you start to miss. Such things as, a loving hug from the opposite sex, a smile when a person watches you walk up, the list goes on and on. Fortunately soon after my divorce, an excellent friend sat me down and said “guard against becoming ripe for the picking.” I really Read more [...]

Single and Dating with Children

  Single again and dating is tough enough but when you have children keep these things in mind! Dating is tough, but in many ways it is more difficult for those who are divorced. Combined with the fears of being out of practice there are often children's feelings to take into consideration. Just how can a single parent enjoy a new romance without lying awake during the night worrying about doing emotional harm to their children? Oprah Radio host Rabbi Shmuley said “Bring your children Read more [...]

The Ties that Bind

The Ties that Bind Recently my wife and I were discussing how couples relate to each other in times of severe stress or tragedy. What we discovered is that men and women handle stress and tragedy differently. Men may not want to talk about it, while a woman usually needs to talk and share her feelings. We realized that many couples have ended marriages because they did not feel supported and could not give their spouses the space needed to grieve differently or in a way that was conducive to whom Read more [...]