Abbreviations used by MEV

    Here is a list of the abbreviations used by MEV. "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations: N/NPDer - Narcissist P - Psychopath NP - Narcissistic Psychopath NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder PA - Passive Aggressive NS - Narcissistic Supply APD - Antisocial Personality Disorder BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder Bi-P - Bi-Polar NC - No Contact NW - Narcissist Wife NH - Narcissist Husband XN - Ex Narcissist XNW/WNH Read more [...]

Having Your Smart Phone Work for You

They passed the email stage of getting to know you and you feel comfortable giving them your cell phone number, let your smart phone help you. Smart phones have many areas in the address book you can put information about the person. Here are a few things I do, and it has served me very well over time.   Start by putting the person’s name in, first name in its location. The last name is a little different;  first put in the last name then follow it with where I meet him and his username Read more [...]

Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]

Change is NOT Allowed – Enjoy Dating

    Be yourself and don’t be with someone that you want to “change!” Unfortunately, many believe they ought to concentrate on the good aspects of your potential partner and overlook the tiny problems which are not compatible. Many take this a step further and do not communicate to the new partner issues that they're feeling. The notion of picking your battles is definitely an important part of the way you approach conflict in marriage because there will almost always be some Read more [...]

Guidelines to Follow if Still Have to Be In Contact with Your Abuser

  Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.    - Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples. - Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you. - Limit contact with the abuser. - Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse - Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused - Hang up the phone if you are abused. - Try to keep any Read more [...]

Genetic Despair: Depression and Me

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of The Good Men Project   Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.   This is the fourth in a series of essays on depression by some of the Good Men Project’s most valued voices. The first three parts are here, here, and here.   One cold morning in the early 1930s a Kansas farmer waded out into the middle of a creek on his property, put a gun to his head, and killed himself. He left behind a family, including a teenage boy who I Read more [...]

Help in the Fight to End Domestic Violence

One year ago I had the idea to collect stories from survivors of domestic violence and put them into a book. The focus of this project is not to make money, but to make a difference in a fight that is so near and dear to my heart. Being a clinician who has done a large amount of group work, one thing I have found to be amazingly true is that we learn more from other people who have been through the same thing than “experts.” That is a major reason that I wanted to do the project, but there Read more [...]

Why Men (or Women) Don’t Approach You

    This list was created for many common mistakes people make at clubs. Unless you work there, being at a club or bar, you will find only about 5% of the time a person could approach you. The other 95% is everywhere else in your life. Try to incorporate these ideas into your everyday life, you will be surprised how many new people you meet. Surrounded by people of your same sex: This is the most common reason I have heard from men as to why they don’t approach women in bars or clubs. Read more [...]

The Secret to Long Term Love! Watch, and Share.

  We have the answer to creating a long term love relationship! If you're ready, watch, think, act...make this your reality.       Hi I am David Essel, M.S. the Author 7 books and counting, National Radio and Television Host, Master Life and Business Coach, Adjunct Professor, All Faiths Minister, Addiction Recovery Coach and International Speaker. My mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional potential in their business and personal life. The 100% purely Read more [...]

What to Wear?????

    While preparing for any date, one important task is deciding what to wear. Of course, you should dress appropriately for the activity in a dignified manner. Something many people don’t consider is keeping track of what they wore and when. You may think I’m being silly right now. How would you feel if this happened to? During the fifth date, you realize the shirt you are wearing was worn on the first and third date with them. They might wonder if you own any other clothes! To Read more [...]