Oops, I Acted Like an Idiot

  By Gretchen Schiller Poised for a Fight Ana Lu and I walked up the stone pathway to the house. Charles greeted us at the door and invited both of us inside, knowing I needed to pick up a box that was in the garage. The first thing I noticed upon entering was that Ana Lu’s little desk had moved again. I made a bee-line for it. Picked it up and moved it back to its original place in the corner.                                                 Read more [...]

Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]

Communication With Ease (even with your ex)!

  Have you ever asked yourself these questions concerning your ex, children, co-workers or even your boss? - Why did you do that? - What were you thinking? Trying to understand another person's behavior can be very stressful and frustrating.  The first step to help you deal with your frustration is to remember that everyone is unique. We all see the world from a different perspective. With that being said, would it be fair to say that if I understand you and you understand me, chances are Read more [...]

Etiquette in Divorce for The Cheater

As the aggressor in a divorce, the cheater should really have no right to be getting in there and using underhand tactics. As somebody who broke the rules in their marriage, resorting to less than friendly tactics and petty, vindictive moves is not going to help anything move on. Remember – you broke your ex’s heart. You cannot possibly expect them to be alright about this, can you? They will be hurt and smarting, and some ex’s in this situation will react in an immature manner. Rather than Read more [...]

Baby Brings Dad Unusual Attention from Beautiful Women

Photo by Gint Aras Originally appeared at The Good Men Project on  October  26, 2012 Writer Gint Aras probes the odd phenomenon  of babies attracting babes…to his wife’s amusement Prior to having Kira, my first child, I used to imagine what attention a baby  might attract in public. I was mostly curious but also mildly anxious. I live in Oak Park, Illinois, a suburb boasting good schools, beautiful parks  and playgrounds, and a diverse culture of bookworms and patrons of the arts,  Read more [...]

Try this Today: Secret Wink

By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Secret Wink. A secret sign between you and your munchkin. Over a year ago… “Ya know, Sweetie, I was thinkin’ about it Read more [...]

Think you’re too old to start over? Think again!

  It comes as a shock, doesn't it, the end of a marriage or long-term relationship? Whatever happened, whichever one of you decided to call it quits or whether it was an amicable, mutual decision, the gargantuan life changes that ensue can feel quite overwhelming. There are probably questions swimming around and around... What happened? Why me? What next?!  Think you're too old to start over? Think again! Time will help with these questions but meditation will give you peace of mind in the Read more [...]

Okay, Ladies, Woman Up…Father’s Day is Coming!

  By Gretchen Schiller Last year on Father’s Day it had been a year since Charles and my divorce. It took me awhile to come up with a gift idea that Ana Lu could make for him. This is perfect for single moms on a budget who are trying to think of a thoughtful gift. Really, for all of us busy moms and consequently last minute shoppers. It has sat on the shelf in his house ever since. Only 15 bucks, easy peasy and he loves it…     • Go the the store and buy a window Read more [...]

Who’s on first – Naughty or Nice? Five ways to make it easier to choose “Nice.”

    By Gretchen Schiller Abbott and Costello: Who’s on first. What’s on second. I don’t know is on third. Why’s in left field. Tomorrow’s the pitcher. Today’s the catcher. Naturally, Who’s on first. I don’t give a damn’s the shortstop. Co-parenting Team: Who’s at mom’s home? Who’s at dad’s home? What’s the plan? I don’t know if we will all be together Christmas day. Why’s this so complicated? Tomorrow will be easier. (Wel-l-l-l. Let’s make that next Read more [...]