10 Reasons You Know You Are a Single Mom

    By Gretchen Schiller "10 Reasons You Know You Are a Single Mom" is a list compiled by 2 crazy single moms, Gretchen Schiller and Karen Martin. Gretchen publishes at www.facebook.com/SassySingleMomStillSmiling and Karen publishes at www.facebook.com/GoSingleParents. You Know You Are a Single Mom When… 10) You haven’t shaved your legs in so long that your daughter asks you why you have “whiskers” on your legs. 9) You notice your adult dinner conversations about current Read more [...]

Co-Parenting Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households

  When working out a co-parenting agreement, it is essential to have clear lines of communication open between the ex-spouses. It is very important to work the agreement out together if the desired effect is making co-parenting work. Other than that, the same rules of parenting in one household apply to households with a co-parenting arrangement. Ex-spouses should respect each other and they should not complain about the other parent to their children. The children should not act as messengers Read more [...]

Try this Today: Daily Notes While out of Town

    By Gretchen Schiller This “Try this Today” tip is from when I went out of town for a Writer’s Conference. I did not plan on sharing the daily notes I wrote for Ana Lu because, well, quite frankly, because I didn’t think of it. So I’m going to throw my “artistic license” card on the table, confess that I deviated from grammar, etc. and trust that you all won’t be a bunch o’ haters while reading my messy-mommy-notes. Because although I didn’t plan on sharing them, Read more [...]

Child’s List of Wants & Children’s Bill of Rights

  By Gretchen Schiller What I need from my mom and dad: A child’s list of wants     I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please write letters, make phone calls, and ask me lots of questions. When you don’t stay involved, I feel like I’m not important and that you don’t really love me.   Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong Read more [...]

OUCH. I Did Not Remember Tripping

  By Gretchen Schiller OUCH. I did not remember tripping. But suddenly my mouth was filled with dirt.  And there I was flat on my face. The cold earth assaulted my cheeks.  The gritty feel of dirt blackening what had once been a bright white, loving smile repulsed me. Unwelcome flavors of filth and grime swirled together, pouring down my throat, filling me with garbage. I felt nauseous. I began swallowing the darkness. The debris moved swiftly through my body, with incredible intention Read more [...]

Custody Calendar for Your Child

    By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Custody Calendar for Your Child Adult children of divorced parents shared that one of the greatest challenges Read more [...]

Did You See a Ghost Too? Divorce is a Marriage That Has Sadly Died.

By Gretchen Schiller Despite Life-Saving Measures After all logistical matters of divorce are settled: separate homes, bank accounts, phone bills and papers signed, then… silence. Similar to weeks spent organizing a funeral for the death of a loved one, busily contacting family and friends, choosing a date for a memorial service, finding a funeral home, writing an obituary, then… silence. We grieve the loss of our loved one that passed away; we ache for them and forever feel the void Read more [...]

Try This Today Series: Don’t Ditch the Photographs!

    By Gretchen Schiller | Feb 27, 2013 | Try This Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Photographs Our immediate instinct after divorce is to remove all of the photos of our ex-husbands Read more [...]

Co-parenting a Child with Someone who Suffers From a Personality Disorder

    Co-parenting means sharing physical or legal custody of a child when you are separated or divorced. Here are a few things to consider when you are Co-parenting a child with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. Personal Safety - Personal Safety is a list of actions that are designed to keep situations from escalating and to make sure that Physical, Emotional and Verbal abuse is avoided or stopped at the first moment it begins to happen. It contains ideas on when to Read more [...]

Buzzz: A slam dunk for better co-parenting in under 2 minutes

Article by Gretchen Schiller | Originally posted on Sassy Single Mom Nov 30, 2011 Buzzz. Pause. Buzzz. My phone vibrated on the kitchen counter. A Text. Cool! I press the green conversation bubble. A photo of my sweet Ana Lu pops up; she is smiling at me. She’s at the park with her father. Her dimples are in full glow as she whizzes down the slide, both of her little arms raised up high in the air. My heart is flooded with relief. She’s okay. She’s having fun. She’s happy. I know Read more [...]