Etiquette in Divorce for The Cheater

As the aggressor in a divorce, the cheater should really have no right to be getting in there and using underhand tactics. As somebody who broke the rules in their marriage, resorting to less than friendly tactics and petty, vindictive moves is not going to help anything move on. Remember – you broke your ex’s heart. You cannot possibly expect them to be alright about this, can you? They will be hurt and smarting, and some ex’s in this situation will react in an immature manner. Rather than Read more [...]

Baby Brings Dad Unusual Attention from Beautiful Women

Photo by Gint Aras Originally appeared at The Good Men Project on  October  26, 2012 Writer Gint Aras probes the odd phenomenon  of babies attracting babes…to his wife’s amusement Prior to having Kira, my first child, I used to imagine what attention a baby  might attract in public. I was mostly curious but also mildly anxious. I live in Oak Park, Illinois, a suburb boasting good schools, beautiful parks  and playgrounds, and a diverse culture of bookworms and patrons of the arts,  Read more [...]

Try this Today: Secret Wink

By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Secret Wink. A secret sign between you and your munchkin. Over a year ago… “Ya know, Sweetie, I was thinkin’ about it Read more [...]

Think you’re too old to start over? Think again!

  It comes as a shock, doesn't it, the end of a marriage or long-term relationship? Whatever happened, whichever one of you decided to call it quits or whether it was an amicable, mutual decision, the gargantuan life changes that ensue can feel quite overwhelming. There are probably questions swimming around and around... What happened? Why me? What next?!  Think you're too old to start over? Think again! Time will help with these questions but meditation will give you peace of mind in the Read more [...]

Who’s on first – Naughty or Nice? Five ways to make it easier to choose “Nice.”

    By Gretchen Schiller Abbott and Costello: Who’s on first. What’s on second. I don’t know is on third. Why’s in left field. Tomorrow’s the pitcher. Today’s the catcher. Naturally, Who’s on first. I don’t give a damn’s the shortstop. Co-parenting Team: Who’s at mom’s home? Who’s at dad’s home? What’s the plan? I don’t know if we will all be together Christmas day. Why’s this so complicated? Tomorrow will be easier. (Wel-l-l-l. Let’s make that next Read more [...]

“I Miss My Daddy!” In the Wake of Divorce

By Gretchen Schiller | originally posted in Sassy Single Mom Jul 1, 2012 | “I sad you and Daddy no same house. I want cry. I so sad. I want cry, Mommy. But I can’t. I weally-weally want cry. I try. I try but I can’t. But I weally want to.” ~Ana Lu (Ana Lu said this twice in a five day span.) Last summer Ana Lu and I were at the park with her mini-soul mate, Matthew. It was one of those rare days when they were both super grouchy with one other.  They were so salty. The goofballs Read more [...]

Favoritism/Special Treatment

  Several moms/dads are upset because they are dealing with this unfortunate situation. This is a difficult obstacle to tackle because there may be numerous reasons why mom/dad may be showing favoritism. Guilt and feelings of loss can cause a parent to engage in favoritism without being aware of it. They try to make the most of their little bit of time with their child/ren pleasant and memorable that they fail to realize they are creating an unbalanced situation with all of the children involved. Read more [...]

The Peaceful Pretzels

    By Gretchen Schiller “POUNDER of MINI PRETZELS!” The over-sized bag screams at me while I hurry down the chip aisle in the supermarket. Ugh, nothing smaller? I scan the other bags of pretzels, to the right, to the left, and see that half of them scream “POUNDER!” and the other half with a more modest label – “16oz” – for the same ginormous bag of pretzels. This is far too many pretzels for just Ana Lu and me. Yet Ana Lu likes to have a few pretzels in her lunchbox Read more [...]

The Lighter Side of Divorce

At DivorcedandScaredNoMore.com, we have often discussed the perils of divorce and the impact it can have on your life. The effects can be so serious; it can leave you with long-lasting effects that you will permanently change you. However, not everything has to be fatal and final – with a more positive outlook, and some perspective, it can be easier to laugh your way through life after divorce rather than cry! Rather than remembering “that” time of year as the day the fat lady stopped singing Read more [...]

Spring Cleaning for the Soul

  With it being spring time, we begin to think about tasks around the home we have put off all winter: cleaning out the garage, washing the windows, and the like.  What we don't commonly think about is taking time to clean the clutter we have accumulated within ourselves over the previous year.  Just as spring ushers in the rebirth of flowers and new life in nature, so too can we usher in new health and a rebirth of purpose. Spring is the perfect season to take the time to evaluate those Read more [...]