Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Promise is a Big Word

Promise is a big word, if you break it, it will also break a lot of other words as well. One example is trust. When we break our promises we must be careful because along with broken promises comes a lot of other things. We have to be careful what we promise to people in our lives because not only may we be able to break their trust, but we may also break their hearts, their minds, their will, and their spirit when we aren't able to follow through with what we initially promised. Delivering in Read more [...]

Ex Insults Your Sexual Performance

  If your ex lashed out with insults about your sexual performance or pleasing ability, throw that thought out with your next bag of trash. It is likely to be as off kilter as the Leaning Tower of Pisa. Insults that cut below the belt have a clever way of niggling away at your very core, but their vitriol is likely to have been fuelled by the stuff that powers them; bilious spite. The truth is, if your existence has descended to this level of horror, there is only one way it can go, back Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Letting Go

  Letting go is one of the biggest challenges that you have to face in life. It’s risky and aggravating sometimes because really, most people don’t like the change right? But change is good. It could be about letting go of  that favorite toy, clothing, game, that person you love (for the best or the worse), your old house, your routines/habits, a loved one’s death, etc.   Everyone goes through... the feeling of detachment; some people seem do not understand others struggle Read more [...]

Infidelity and Dealing with Reasonable, Emotional and Wise Mind States

The emotions felt by the hurt partner immediately after finding out about an affair are simply overwhelming There are emotional stages of processing an affair and they similar to those dealing with death of a loved one. You have lost something you cherished and even if the relationship is saved it will never be the same. The difference in death and infidelity is when a person died they did not choose to leave you but in the case of infidelity they did choose to leave you. Accepting you were second Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Exfoliate Your Ex Completely and Utterly off Your Skin

        If you’re feeling the need to get that ex completely and utterly off your skin, put together a kitchen cupboard exfoliant and head towards the bathroom. Using deliciously edible and completely natural foodstuffs, concoct a gentle scrub to rub all over your body to remove the dead skin cells and sad recent memories. Choose from honey, coconut, porridge oats, grated chocolate, granola, banana, cream, yoghurt, sugar, salt, mixed spice, avocado, or whatever else Read more [...]

Alterations to Eating Regimes are Best Done When You Are Settled

  Cut yourself a large slice of calorific slack while you coast through your divorce and the aftermath.   This isn’t the best time to embark upon a diet of any sort, however much you feel you need to slice a few pounds off your mid or any other regions.   Radical alterations to eating regimes are best done when you are in a settled, confident and committed frame of mind. You need dedication to stick to any new eating plan and if you falter, which you are likely to do (we Read more [...]

Communication

        Many times when couples are having problems in a relationship, unfortunately communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding or creating a new type of relationships, just as communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind.     Healing in the relationship cannot Read more [...]

We All Are a Day Closer to our Ultimate Sell-by Date

    There’s nothing more sobering than having to watch someone you love stand on the edge of death following an accident or beset with illness. It certainly helps you put inane divorce matters into perspective. Their impending demise can be completely debilitating for you, yet has a persuasive way of making every moment in time count, in an inescapable way. An ex crowing their bitter screech, or whining on like a cow in labor, stands far less chance of penetrating your protective Read more [...]

It’s Impossible to Control a Narcissist’s Behavior

  It’s important to understand that it’s impossible to control a narcissist’s behavior. Neither the narcissist’s spouse nor children are responsible for his/her behavior. Narcissists are who they are. The best the other parent can do for their children and themselves is to separate themselves as much as possible from the narcissist. First and foremost, former spouses of narcissists need to seek professional support for themselves and their children. It’s important that both children Read more [...]

It’s Easy to Feel Emotionally Scarred

        It’s incredibly easy to feel emotionally scarred by the actions of an unpleasant ex but don’t be frightened off of other members of their gender for life. Take things as slowly as you need to once you’ve come to terms with your divorce and remember that being in a relationship isn’t a necessity, but it can be a wonderful place. Learning to trust again, allowing yourself to love again and letting down the barriers enough to let a new partner into your life Read more [...]