Apply a Liberal Sprinkling of Patience

  Whether you’re 5 minutes past separation from your old spouse, knee-deep in divorce or 5 years the other side of your Decree Absolute, when it comes to dealing with an vexing ex, you’ll do well to apply a liberal sprinkling of patience.   Trouble is that’s far easier said than done.   There are limited things that enable aggravated patience levels to decrease; a dogged determination to rise above their pathetic behavior so they don’t bother you anymore and the simple Read more [...]

In the UK Apply for the Decree Absolute Within 12 Months

  In the UK once you’ve received your Decree Nisi, you really are jumping over the final fences. You must wait 6 weeks until you apply for a Decree Absolute, which is the legal document that officially signifies the end of your marriage. It is hoped that during this period you will discuss finances and start to put into practice the arrangements you’re making for shared care of children if you have any. However, it is more usually spent ticking the hours and minutes off until you are Read more [...]

Enjoy the Cleansing Process of Reclaiming Your Space

  If you have a garden shed full of your ex-partner's tools and DIY equipment and they have no interest in removing them, it's worth exploring the less painful routes to ridding yourself of them and ceasing those constant, niggling reminders. Whatever you do, don't throw the items out with the rubbish! A little bit of internet research will uncover several charities who would benefit enormously from your generosity and would be delighted to take them off of your hands.  A great many of them Read more [...]

Resounding Naughty Smash!

      If your ex left in a rush, they might also have left you with the responsibility of clearing out their stuff. Think about the spaces you most commonly frequent in your home and remove the items with the worst associations to your ex, paying immediate attention to your kitchen cupboards. You probably have countless cups of tea or coffee and just seeing their crockery can physically hurt.  If you have unwanted possession of their favorite beverage mug, bowl or snack plate, Read more [...]

Reinvention is an Interesting Concept

    Reinvention is an interesting concept and not an event that needs to sit on-hold now is the time for you to grow. You don’t have to take Madonna’s hard line on things and make yourself over into a completely new being every couple of years, but a bit of dusting down and shaking around can be a very positive phase to embrace. New colors, new fabrics, new wardrobe, new music, even new friends can blow a breath of fresh air into your mind, body and your attitude to life and towards Read more [...]

Can’t Cope With All The Curved Balls Of Divorce?

    Occasionally you may feel you simply can’t cope with all the curved balls your divorce hurls at you. This type of occurrence doesn’t happen exclusively during the period immediately surrounding and enclosing your divorce. Indeed, you may find yourself in a mental fix, months or even a couple of years after everything has settled; such is the power of the act itself. When this happens, break the day into manageable chunks and concentrate on what you are going to do between Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Promise is a Big Word

Promise is a big word, if you break it, it will also break a lot of other words as well. One example is trust. When we break our promises we must be careful because along with broken promises comes a lot of other things. We have to be careful what we promise to people in our lives because not only may we be able to break their trust, but we may also break their hearts, their minds, their will, and their spirit when we aren't able to follow through with what we initially promised. Delivering in Read more [...]

Ex Insults Your Sexual Performance

  If your ex lashed out with insults about your sexual performance or pleasing ability, throw that thought out with your next bag of trash. It is likely to be as off kilter as the Leaning Tower of Pisa. Insults that cut below the belt have a clever way of niggling away at your very core, but their vitriol is likely to have been fuelled by the stuff that powers them; bilious spite. The truth is, if your existence has descended to this level of horror, there is only one way it can go, back Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Letting Go

  Letting go is one of the biggest challenges that you have to face in life. It’s risky and aggravating sometimes because really, most people don’t like the change right? But change is good. It could be about letting go of  that favorite toy, clothing, game, that person you love (for the best or the worse), your old house, your routines/habits, a loved one’s death, etc.   Everyone goes through... the feeling of detachment; some people seem do not understand others struggle Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Exfoliate Your Ex Completely and Utterly off Your Skin

        If you’re feeling the need to get that ex completely and utterly off your skin, put together a kitchen cupboard exfoliant and head towards the bathroom. Using deliciously edible and completely natural foodstuffs, concoct a gentle scrub to rub all over your body to remove the dead skin cells and sad recent memories. Choose from honey, coconut, porridge oats, grated chocolate, granola, banana, cream, yoghurt, sugar, salt, mixed spice, avocado, or whatever else Read more [...]