PAST – PRESENT – FUTURE

    PAST – PRESENT – FUTURE      Yesterday…                            Today…                             Tomorrow Last week...                              Today…                            Next week Last year…                               Today…                            A year from now… See Read more [...]

I AM SOOOOOOOOO SORRY!

      Do any of these statements sound familiar? You’re such a loser You never get anything right You’re so stupid No one will ever love you You always mess up You’re a failure You’ll never be happy You’re no good You’re worthless…fat...old…ugly…fill in the blank….. Do you ever notice saying any of these things to yourself, or about yourself? Would you ever say any of these mean things to a friend? And, as a good friend, would you make especially sure to say Read more [...]

Lost & Found

All these opposites:  Lost  Found Thick  Thin All  Nothing Light Dark Happy Sad This list is endless…so, feel free to add your own…. Is there some particular reason to see everything as either or?  Why go from one extreme to the other?  Can lost really mean misplaced…or discarded…or used up?  Is there anything between all and nothing? The point here is to notice when we get stuck interpreting what we see…what we experience…what we feel , as all this or all that…black or white… We Read more [...]

FEELING STUCK?

    Feeling Stuck? Fresh out of ideas…can’t move forward…zero energy…all is blah… We feel stuck in the muck…can’t move…ugh! We may feel stuck…but the world…the universe…is in constant motion…and, even if we can’t feel it…we’re along for the ride and in motion too… This moment is not exactly like the moment before…the earth has rotated…ever so slightly…we’ve breathed a new breath…a new exchange of oxygen and carbon dioxide…a breeze ruffles the Read more [...]

Snap Out of It!

Snap out of it!  This is not being said in a spirit of being mean or harsh or uncaring….  Sometimes we get so stuck in the story of our broken relationship…the unfairness of it…the pain…fear…regret…anger…betrayal…disappointment…All that ____________ (fill in the blank)  And, really…it’s not so unusual to get stuck in our stories…after all…they’re so REAL to us…This is what’s happening, right?  But…is it ALL that’s happening?  Is your life defined solely Read more [...]

NOBODY WINS THIS ARGUMENT

        When feeling really really really unhappy with circumstances as they are, we want change…we want improvement…and we want it NOW!  RIGHT NOW!!! …and that makes perfect sense…who wants to sit in the middle of a situation that is so dissatisfying…so painful…so disappointing…so NOT the way we want things to be, without wishing it to be different????? Here’s the thing, though…When we argue with this moment…when we fight what is, we’re just spinning Read more [...]

I LIKE MYSELF!

I LIKE MYSELF!  Here’s a suggestion that will raise your spirits, your confidence and your self esteem…every day!  Each time you’re in front of a mirror…shaving…putting on makeup…checking out your outfit…stop for a moment. Look yourself in the eye and, sincerely and with conviction, say:  I LIKE MYSELF – I LIKE MYSELF – I LIKE MYSELF  Smile when you say it…Even if you don’t feel like smiling…Even if it’s a fakey smile…Make a smiley face…Make yourself look happy.  Read more [...]

How do you define “Romance”?

How do you define “Romance”?   Is the definition of “romance” always something that involves two people?  Two people in love?  …and today is Valentine’s day…and maybe there isn’t a romantic partner on the horizon???  Is this an iron clad recipe for disappointment and despair? Let’s test the Sassy Zen spin here and consider the possibilities of a different point of view.   If you were romancing someone, what would that look like? What would it feel like to be Read more [...]

Hello, sadness…

To be sad FEELS like something HUGE…Turbulent emotions…grief…deep searing pain… …it’s active…we cry…we wail…  Being depressed, on the other hand,  feels blah…just a heavy draggy weight…doesn’t feel sad…doesn’t feel happy…nope…doesn’t feel like much of anything actually…just this constant disconnection…to people…events…ideas… …no anger…no pain….just this continuing sense of being burdened…  Sad and depressed are not the same thing…  Sad sings Read more [...]

No Date on Valentine’s Day???

  Right…so here we are…first days of 2014…already stressing about spending Valentine’s Day alone….boo-hoo…(???)…Flip this! No Date on Valentine’s Day???   (boo-hoo) Boo-Hoo????   …au contraire!  Alone…at peace…grateful for all of life’s abundance…luxuries…a bath…or a shower…prepare a delicious dinner for yourself…pour a glass of wine…or a cup of tea…a beer…Think about activities that don’t require the company of another…a great DVD?... a Read more [...]