Are You Stuck in Your Story?

We’re always telling a story about what happened…what is happening and what will happen.  Two or more people experiencing the same event are all going to tell a different story about it.  Why?  Because everyone notices different things…everyone interprets it differently…everyone is putting their own spin on it.  Someone may get fired from a job and sees it as a catastrophe…the end of the world as they know it…a disaster…and they begin to tell a really sad and scary story about Read more [...]

VISION (have one!)

    …and why do we need a vision?  BECAUSE a vision is about looking forward…looking up …a vision is about creating a bigger, better, brighter future in our mind’s eye…  …AND we need a vision BECAUSE do we really really really want to keep looking back over our shoulder…sighing and crying in our pillow over what might have been…what should have been…???  …really???...  Well…if so, isn’t that choosing to remain unhappy?  And we want to make that choice…because……………………..?????  We Read more [...]

I AM A MAGNIFICENT AND RADIANT BEING!

        Doubting your worth?  Doubting your value? Have you surrendered your power to someone else?  Maybe to someone who doesn’t love you?  Someone who’s abandoned you?  …and now…because this person no longer values you…because this person is gone you feel discarded…lost…insignificant???  Close your eyes…take a deeeeeeeeep breath…put your attention on your heart…your bruised and aching heart…  Take another breath and send it as pure love and Read more [...]

EXTREME SELF CARE

    When it feels like life is kicking your butt…  When you’re feeling down & defeated…  …You may feel like curling up into a ball of misery and pulling the covers up over your head…  …and…you know?...  For a minute there, that might be OK… Burrowing  into your cave to lick your wounds….  BUT…  Don’t stay there too long…  What you really really really NEED when you’ve had the rug pulled out from under you, is lots and lots of TLC…Tender Loving Read more [...]

Free Gift From Sassy Zen and Divorced and Scared No More

  Welcome!! It is time for you to Survive and Thrive!!! Please enjoy this E-book as our Gift to you from Sassy Zen and Divorce and Scared NO More.   Get the SASSY ZEN TEXT E BOOK 2 for Free! [freebiesub download="http://divorcedandscarednomore.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/SASSY-ZEN-TEXT-E-BOOK-2.pdf"] DivorcedAndScaredNOMore.com is a resource site designed to help women and men feel supported through articles, poetry, videos, and radio shows. Need tips to heal that broken heart Read more [...]

HEARTBREAK HOTEL

Seems that everybody…at one time or another…gets to spend time in Heartbreak Hotel.  That’s why they write songs about it…  Here’s one…  (from the movie, Postcards From the Edge)  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kc-hMePuYSY   he cool thing about this song is that it’s about checking out of Heartbreak Hotel.  Life events may have caused us to check into Heartbreak Hotel… Why not?  Things fell apart…OF COURSE we’re going to spend some time there!  The question is…how Read more [...]

STRIKEOUT!

Sooooooooooo...…let’s contemplate strikeouts… Once upon a time there was this major league baseball player.......  …and he struck out 1,330 times?!?!?   GADZOOKS!  He can’t have been very good…I mean, really…that’s an awful lot of strikeouts…  But…wait…These are BABE RUTH’S stats!  …and he held a home run record that wasn’t broken for over 40 years…  …714 home runs!...Wow!  But…what about striking out all those times???  What’s up with that???  Well…in Read more [...]

Make the Minutes Count

    24 hours in a day translates into 1,440 minutes.. OK, so let’s say we’re sleeping during approximately 480 of those minutes…(assuming we’re getting a good night’s sleep…and that’s nothing to sneeze at)…that leaves us with, plus or minus, 960 waking minutes…every day!!!… All righty then…so what?  …sooooooooooooo…during how many of those minutes will we choose to spend thinking unhappy thoughts? During how many minutes will we elect to live in misery…fear…sadness…rage…confusion…defeat??? In Read more [...]

THE END OF THE WORLD?

  Here we are…some big huge important thing in our life has ended…and now we feel like we’re staring at a blank wall…an empty space…a void…a whole lot of nothing…now what?????  THE END OF THE WORLD? Are we feeling scared?...sad?...frustrated?...angry?...and worst of all…hopeless???? Let’s make peace with the emptiness…and not run and hide from all those unpleasant emotions… Let’s acknowledge…”YES…I’m scared and sad and frustrated and angry”…Without adding Read more [...]

CAN YOU TURN IT AROUND???

      CAN YOU TURN IT AROUND??? Often, we find ourselves stuck on a thought…WHY?  WHY?  WHY???... * D * I * V O * R * C * E * This awful thing…this terrible…sad…unfair…situation…WHY…WHY…WHY did this happen to me??? What would it look like if we turned it around?  What if, instead, we contemplated… Why did this happen FOR me??? What could possibly be the benefit?  Could this conceivably turn out to be a blessing in disguise? Does this experience contain any Read more [...]