Relationships – Domestic Violence

    When you are young everything revolves around relationships...your relationship with your family, your relationships with your friends and peers, and your romantic relationships.  As we age and grow into who we are as people it is natural for the focus to be less on relationships with others and more on the relationship we have with ourselves; however, even as adults that often isn't the case. In our society we put a lot of emphasis on romantic love.  We watch romantic comedies, Read more [...]

Survivors of Domestic Violence, Let Your Story Empower Others

  Stories of Survivors: Stories of those who have overcome abuse As many of you know I am a private practice clinician  an author, and a tv show host...what you may not know is that my greatest passion is connected to a fight against domestic violence and serve as the Executive Director of a domestic violence organization, Acts of Random Kindness (or ARK.) ARK is in the process of collecting stories of survivors of domestic violence in various stages of rebuilding their lives and recovering Read more [...]

The Right to Feel is Violated by Emotionally Abusive Behavior

    A right that everyone has in relationships, which is violated by emotionally abusive behavior is the right to feel: You must learn the difference so you will not keep getting into abusive relationships.   The Right to Feel - In a healthy relationship, each person is able to recognize what they are feeling at any given moment and feel it safely. They can talk about it with other trustworthy people. They are able to anticipate and fulfill their own needs. They are able to notice Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 4 – Discovering Your Lost Self: Bye Bye Co-Dependency!

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   A lot of people stay in abusive relationships because of the fear of being alone or not being loved by other people. They will say for the longest time that they want out, but they end up not leaving. There are some people who do leave, but they tend to repeat the same self-destructive attitude in their new relationship. Co-dependency Read more [...]

Stages of Healing from Abuse and Trauma

The journey to healing and recovery from abuse is long, sometimes painful, and VERY challenging. The journey is different for every victim/survivor. However, we each go through similar emotions manifested from our pain and confusion. The following lists the stages/emotional patterns in our healing process. As we heal, we oscillate between all of these. So don't worry if you keep revisiting "anger" or "bargaining." It happens. It's how our mind process the trauma and helps us heal. DENIAL Shock Read more [...]

Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 1

Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article. The symptoms of abuse are not always easy to spot and recognize. Even if you’re not in an abusive relationship it’s important to be aware of how to spot those who are being abused, how to deal with being abused, and how to cope with divorce that involves abuse. Many times when there is verbal or emotional abuse there are no Read more [...]

Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder

  Here are some traits of a person with Borderline Personality Disorder - MEV "Always" & "Never" Statements - "Always" & "Never" Statements are declarations containing the words "always" or "never". They are commonly used but rarely true. Anger - People who suffer from personality disorders often feel a sense of unresolved anger and a heightened or exaggerated perception that they have been wronged, invalidated, neglected or abused. Baiting and Picking Fights - Baiting and picking Read more [...]

The No Contact Rule!

      The No Contact Rule!   1. No calls, no texts, no emails, no smoke signals, no carrier pigeons. Make a list of every nasty hurtful thing they said and did to you and keep a copy near every communication device you own. 2. No “accidental” meetings (if you can help it). Change your routine. Go to the gym at a different time or on different days. Find an alternate sports pub. Go to a different grocery store. Yes, it’s unfair that you have to change your lifestyle Read more [...]