NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Did They Choose to Abuse? Ask Yourself Two Questions

    It is important to point out that labeling my ex's behavior as the result of a disorder awards him too much sympathy and leniency. He, and all other narcissists (N's) or Borderlines (BPD's) and sociopaths, know exactly what they are doing. While their inclinations are driven by a tragic psychological disorder, their actions are chosen. They choose to abuse! Plain and simple. If you're not sure about this and want to believe that their behavior is beyond their control, ask yourself Read more [...]

1 Through 20 Character Traits of a Narcissist

     Character Traits of a Narcissist   1. Self-centered. Their needs are paramount. 2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds. 3. Unreliable, undependable. 4. Does not care about the consequences of their actions. 5. Projects his/her faults on to others. High blaming behavior; never his/her fault. 6. Little if any conscience. 7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others. 8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others. 9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger Read more [...]

Relationships – Domestic Violence

    When you are young everything revolves around relationships...your relationship with your family, your relationships with your friends and peers, and your romantic relationships.  As we age and grow into who we are as people it is natural for the focus to be less on relationships with others and more on the relationship we have with ourselves; however, even as adults that often isn't the case. In our society we put a lot of emphasis on romantic love.  We watch romantic comedies, Read more [...]

Survivors of Domestic Violence, Let Your Story Empower Others

  Stories of Survivors: Stories of those who have overcome abuse As many of you know I am a private practice clinician  an author, and a tv show host...what you may not know is that my greatest passion is connected to a fight against domestic violence and serve as the Executive Director of a domestic violence organization, Acts of Random Kindness (or ARK.) ARK is in the process of collecting stories of survivors of domestic violence in various stages of rebuilding their lives and recovering Read more [...]

The Right to Feel is Violated by Emotionally Abusive Behavior

    A right that everyone has in relationships, which is violated by emotionally abusive behavior is the right to feel: You must learn the difference so you will not keep getting into abusive relationships.   The Right to Feel - In a healthy relationship, each person is able to recognize what they are feeling at any given moment and feel it safely. They can talk about it with other trustworthy people. They are able to anticipate and fulfill their own needs. They are able to notice Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 4 – Discovering Your Lost Self: Bye Bye Co-Dependency!

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   A lot of people stay in abusive relationships because of the fear of being alone or not being loved by other people. They will say for the longest time that they want out, but they end up not leaving. There are some people who do leave, but they tend to repeat the same self-destructive attitude in their new relationship. Co-dependency Read more [...]

Stages of Healing from Abuse and Trauma

The journey to healing and recovery from abuse is long, sometimes painful, and VERY challenging. The journey is different for every victim/survivor. However, we each go through similar emotions manifested from our pain and confusion. The following lists the stages/emotional patterns in our healing process. As we heal, we oscillate between all of these. So don't worry if you keep revisiting "anger" or "bargaining." It happens. It's how our mind process the trauma and helps us heal. DENIAL Shock Read more [...]