Lessons Learned From a Divorce

    Simply because you are feeling emptiness in your life right now, does not indicate that nothing is happening. Consider this a time-out, a time for sowing the seeds for new growth.  It is the time to learn crucial lessons learned from your past relationship. In order to totally accept a break up and move on, you need to understand exactly what happened and acknowledging the part you played. It is very important to understand how the choices you made impacted the relationship. Knowing Read more [...]

Emotions: Threat or Menace?

  Image courtesy of farconville / FreeDigitalPhotos.net By Noah Brand Dozens of posts on this blog so far, and we haven’t talked directly about what I see as the most pervasively damaging issue affecting men in our culture. It’s the one at the root of many of the other problems we suffer, and is perhaps the most intransigent and resistant to change. So yeah. Let’s talk about the fact that men aren’t allowed to have a full emotional range. Yes, okay, “allowed” may be putting Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Please Learn to Notice What “Actually Is”

  No one has that perfect life which begins with "Once upon a time" and ends with "Happily ever after." Life begins with "Welcome to the struggle" and ends with "You are lucky to have survived the journey." This is how things go. As we grow up, we learn to accept that we always cannot have everything that we want in life. People take a lot of time in doing that. People are so busy nagging about what "could have been" that they many-a-times fail to notice what "actually is." Life isn't about Read more [...]

Should I Have Stayed or was it Best to Go?

    If you are visiting this website for the first time  and you keep thinking to "Should I Have Stayed or was it Best to Go?" this article is worth reading… The decision to stay in or leave an unhappy marriage or relationship was one of the most difficult choices that you ever had to make, especially when children are involved. Many make this decision based on what they believe is in the best interest of the children. They believe that an intact family, regardless of severe marital Read more [...]

When Did You Figure Out What Marriage Isn’t?

Originally appeared at The Good Me Project January  17, 2013 Article By Gint  Aras An informal survey among married (and  divorced, and separated, and remarried) men. I recently asked men the question When did you figure out what marriage  isn’t? The question yieled some interesting e-mail exchanges and  coffeehouse conversations. Here’s the list of most intriguing answers. Lewis: Before I got married, thank  God! Trace: Early on. Most people  probably think it’s going to be Read more [...]

A Lesson on Compassion From a Child

  My friend Terry told me a story the other day that honestly made me realize the amount of compassion a children have in comparison to many adults. When Terry’s son, Phil, was young they had an elderly couple as neighbors and the husband passed away.  Being a very religious family Phil asked Terry why when he had gone to heaven and everyone was sad.  Terry was not sure how to answer, but explained it as best he could.  Terry told his son that the widow was sad as she missed her husband Read more [...]

Survivor, NOT a Victim

    I don’t think anybody realizes how much you had going for you until you lost it all. You really do lose track of reality and what the real, true meaning of life really is. Bear with me..... I am the most down to earth person there is, kind hearted, would bend over backwards to do anything for anyone, no questions asked, count me in, call me anytime, day or night. I have always put others needs before mine. I am also one of those women who prefer using my heart, brains and personality Read more [...]

21 Through 46 Character Traits of a Narcissists ….

Character Traits of a Narcissists...   21. Secret life. Hides money, friends, and activities. 22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disrupt for no reason. 23. Moody - switches from nice person to anger without much provocation. 24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations. 25. Seldom expresses appreciation. 26. Grandiose. Convinced they know more than others and is correct in all they do. 27. Lacks ability to see how they come across to others. Defensive when Read more [...]

10 Ways to Please Yourself

     10  Ways to Please Yourself 1  Stop doing things you don’t want to do 2  Communicate clearly 3  Stop people pleasing 4  Say what you really mean 5  Trust your instincts 6  Never talk yourself down 7  Follow your inspirations 8  Don’t be afraid to say NO 9  Don’t be afraid to say YES 10  Be kind to YOURSELF     Would you like to support DASNM?  If so, it is easy, just use this link  Amazon Purchases in support of DASNM.com  A small percentage Read more [...]

Scared?? No More!!

  Today really is the first day of the rest of your life! Life can be good after a divorce and maybe even better than your life before! Right NOW is the time to learn from your mistakes and start moving on.  This is your time to understand...  Scared?? No More!! I was married on January 14th, and after 26 years of marriage, I was divorced on January 14th. One of my cousins told me my ex-husband had given me two of the happiest days of my life all on the same date! At first I thought she Read more [...]