A Relationship With an Abusers?

  If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you may be/have been in a relationship with an abuser.   •Are you now or have you ever been in a relationship with someone who abuses you emotionally? •Are you always walking on eggshells around your partner, worried that anything you say or do could incite their anger and rage? •Does your partner criticize everything you do or say? •Does your partner try to isolate you from your family and friends? •Does your partner make Read more [...]

Bamboozling Task to Make Long-Term Financial Decisions

    It can be a bamboozling task trying to make long-term financial decisions about any capital you may find yourself in receipt of, post-divorce. Whilst you must recognize that we are are not IFAs, if you are in the UK you might like to consider putting your money into NS&I Premium Bonds in the short term, while you have a think about what you want to do. Instead of paying interest, the NS&I hold monthly prize draws with a £1 million jackpot and over a million smaller denomination Read more [...]

New Study Confirms: Male Depression Is Hard To Acknowledge

By Noah Brand  editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project People don’t want to see male depression, even when they have it, says Dr. Viren Swami’s research. An interesting new study from the University of Westminster seems to confirm what depression sufferers and mental health advocates have been saying for some time: when major depression occurs in men as opposed to women, both the depressed man and those around him are less likely to recognize the problem. This presents a serious obstacle to Read more [...]

While Finding Yourself, Stay True to Yourself!

  My entire dating life till the summer of 2012 consisted of a total of eight males since I was 15 years old and now I am over 50. I had been hurt so badly by my last relationship I decided to put on my tough coat and not let any man hurt me again. My plan was, never allow anyone to get close enough to know my true feeling.  I learned the hard way while finding yourself, stay true to yourself! Along my journey, I met someone I thought was very nice. Unfortunately, he didn't get enough time Read more [...]

300th Divorce Coping Tip of the Day

  This is actually the 300th Divorce Coping Tip of the Day that I’ve written. I think the essence of today’s sentiment would like to encourage you to take one day at a time. If I’d thought for one minute that I’d even be able to fill 300 slots with ideas and advice on getting through divorce, I’d have stumbled at the first block. Take all of your best intentions and convert them into bite-sized chunks, be they carving a route through a day filled with more angst than you can Read more [...]

Turning Something Else on to Help Distract You

  If you’re struggling to turn your head off at the most unGodly of hours, why not consider turning something else on to help distract you. There is a world full of 24-hour radio available, right at the edge of your fingertips if you have access to the Internet. With stations dedicated to every genre known to woman, plus others that niche on particular decades and others that focus on spoken interviews, stories and documentaries, you should easily be able to tailor match something to your Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Time to Rebuild

  Image courtesy of renjith krishnan / FreeDigitalPhotos.net   There comes a time when you lose everything, your best friends, the people you most care about, your faith in everything and even your dignity. Don't be worry, stay strong it's time rebuild yourself all over again.   This is your time to rebuild and you choose how you are going to do it.  Build a bridge, not a wall, believe in your value as a human who should be respected.  Stand up for what is right even if you are standing Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Divorce is only Two People Wide

  Divorce really is only Two People Wide Despite the way it may feel at times, a divorce is only ever two people wide. Try to reserve your energy to cope with necessary responses to your situation, as opposed to justifying or clarifying yourself to the array of onlookers who seem to delight themselves in your fueling the fire of your angst, also commonly known as ‘The They’.   Divorce Coping Tip of the Day and Poetry of Divorce     Poetry of Divorce: Read more [...]

“U” Come before Your “X”

"Why do we all want a great relationship? Because we get love, affection, attention, a sense of belonging, feelings of safety etc. from it. When relationships end, we still have this need within us. Since not fulfilling this need is very painful, our mind makes us feel like we did have love, attention, affection, a sense of belonging, feelings of safety etc. in our relationship. Moreover, now we miss that so much. Your mind tends to push all of the dirt under the carpet. Take some mental energy Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Believe in Yourself!!

    Always be and believe in yourself. Never try to hide who you are, the only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never regret the past. It’s a waste of time. There’s a reason for everything. Every mistake. Every moment of weakness. Every terrible thing that has happened to you. Grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect from others is when we show them you respect yourself. And most importantly, Read more [...]