Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Watch Your Spending

  Don’t whack your credit card with a huge spend as you indulge consumer-based relief to alleviate your pain. Watch finances and your spending! It’ll probably because you have more stress than you have the ability to cope with.  The buzz you get from making the purchase will be short lived, and yes, you really do release excited endorphins when you buy stuff. It’s more likely that you’re seeking a few simple changes to your immediate surroundings. Why not visit the charity shops Read more [...]

The First Day of Anything Holds Immense Power

The first day of anything holds an immense power to feel quite significant. The first day of a special holiday for example, the first day of a marriage and the first day following the death of somebody very close to you. The first day after you and your spouse split up is likely to resonate with all three of those and more besides. Whether you left them or they left you, the echoes of what should have been happier times fill the void inside you and for a while, it is normal to feel positively Read more [...]

Bamboozling Task to Make Long-Term Financial Decisions

    It can be a bamboozling task trying to make long-term financial decisions about any capital you may find yourself in receipt of, post-divorce. Whilst you must recognize that we are are not IFAs, if you are in the UK you might like to consider putting your money into NS&I Premium Bonds in the short term, while you have a think about what you want to do. Instead of paying interest, the NS&I hold monthly prize draws with a £1 million jackpot and over a million smaller denomination Read more [...]

A Simple Redirect / Forwarding With the Post Office

If you’ve moved away from your marital home, it’s a fair assumption that you had very good reasons for doing so. Going back to your former home for any reason is likely to be emotionally taxing and it’s worth thinking ahead to ways you can reduce the amount of times you have to. Collecting your mail is an easy one to tick off the list by organizing a simple redirect / forwarding with the post office. It might seem irritating  but  you will not have toe endure the emotional pain of going Read more [...]

Be Patient, Love and Above all be You

      Be Patient, Love and Above all be You In an ideal world, all relationships would thrive, we’d procreate the optimum 2.2 children and alongside them, rear uber-obedient companion dogs that the children would walk every day after they’d done homework and a handful of chores. The children would grow well, flourish in their educative years and contribute to their local communities via the voluntary sector and as a nuclear unit you’d watch reruns of the Walton’s on Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Numbness

  There is gonna be  times where you are gonna feel numbness within yourself ,  I know I do at times and lately I have been feeling that way a lot.. I struggle lately with the daily routine and all the changes I have had to go through this last year.. But there is one thing I  know is that I have learned so much about myself and I have also learned a lot about other's. I maybe dealing with some individual  issue's right now, like working at a job that I don't enjoy ,because of the negative Read more [...]

Purchasing Habits Must Be Controled

  It is all too easy to slip back into the purchasing habits that you were used to, pre-divorce. If your ex was the major earner in your relationship and you aren’t receiving a great deal of financial support from them, you will have to set an urgent post-divorce budget to live by.   Credit and store cards will make temporarily uplifting but unnecessary purchases horribly accessible but you must remember, you will have to pick the bill up at some point; your ex may have been the Read more [...]

Civil Partnership

  Even though same sex ‘marriages’ are not recognized in the UK - yet - civil partnerships can fall foul to the same fate as heterosexual marriages; failure. If you are a in a civil partnership, you do have the same entitlement when it comes to property rights, pension benefits and inheritance tax exemptions and if you have children, you can obtain parental responsibility for your partner’s children. In much the same way as a marriage, the process for the legal dissolution of your Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Don’t Regret Anything

    History is what it is and it’s necessary to have a few chunks of it float under the bridge before you can begin to write the future. Regret is futile and will only leave you with a burgeoning pile of what ifs that you can never address. However, you can use bad events from the past to shape the way you deal with your future. By turning negativity onto its head and producing something positive, it gives your darkness a purpose. An example of this might be in training to be a counselor, Read more [...]

Assess the Responses

        I mentioned recently that the first meeting with your solicitor should be free if you've window shopped around and done your homework. Bear in mind, you also have an opportunity to lay out some of the details during the preliminary telephone call you have with them, as you assess the responses of the person you may decide to represent you in your divorce. Listen to their responses and trust your gut instinct; if they are overtly aggressive and appear rottweilerish Read more [...]