The King of the Mountain

    “Only mediocrity is safe. Therefore, be the best, and get prepared to be attacked.” ~Paulo Coelho   Despair permeated his teenage body, and his spirit. I could feel and smell his dejection as we sat inches apart in the front seat of The Red Scorpion after driving home from his Scout meeting that night. I partially understood the abyss he was teetering on, but I doubted the ability of any words of mine to relieve him. I just hoped that he would eventually understand Read more [...]

Sex After Divorce (for Mature Audiences Only)

    ...Over the years, one day at a time, the role for each partner in a bed evolves. Slowly what each needs from the other may not even be the simple animal coupling. It becomes about control and power, giving and taking, bartering and trading. About giving in or holding out. About comfort and belonging. If one gave it, then the other would get up with any sick child that night, and let the other sleep in the next morning. If the other gave it, the first would tell a little secret Read more [...]

7 Axions / Universal Truths – Zuda Yoga Teacher Training

  7 Axions / Universal Truths - Zuda Yoga Teacher Training 1.  You are exactly where you are supposed to be 2.  Fear and pain are life's greatest teachers 3.  Laughter and play are the keys to the fountain of youth 4.  Exercise and rest are the keys to vibrant health 5.  Touch and intimacy are basic human needs 6.  Everything is impermanent 7.  Everything is connected Widgets     Would you like to support DASNM?  If so, Read more [...]

My Husband Would Feel Fury and Frustration

  A separated woman recalls teasing and insulting her husband in front of others. — Reading Gint Aras’ The Butt of the Marriage Joke, about wives who make fun of husbands online, got me thinking and remembering. Posting tasteless memes seemed like child’s play compared to what I used to unleash on my partner. I am a separated 32 year old woman. I used to bash my partner verbally, in his presence and with an audience. I was the purveyor of silly jokes about men and husbands, thinly Read more [...]

Inconvenient Truths

    From "The Dogs of Divorce" By William Kenly The late-night hour brought no relief from the smothering summer air. Even the sounds of the crickets were muffled by the thick air. The dense air held the smell of the trees and the dead leaves from the woods beyond the driveway. Breathing was an effort. The humid air pressed close to my face, my chest, my body. Even the drops of sweat trying to ooze from my pores required effort because the humid air encased me. Not like a protective Read more [...]

Decide What YOU Want to be a Vulture or Hummingbird?

    It is time for you to decide what you want to be. Do you want to be like a vulture going around looking for death and destruction or would you prefer to be a hummingbird in search of the sweet nectar of life? When you keep reliving the past in your mind with anger aimed at your ex over the end of your relationship, you are devoting too much time and destructive energy with thoughts like the proverbially vulture. Whenever the negative thoughts creep into your mind, identify them, Read more [...]

Does God Love the Divorced?

      Does God Love the Divorced? Absolutely! Categorically! God’s love never fails. That means it doesn’t change based on anything you do, including getting divorced.   Does that mean that everyone experiences God’s love in the way that God gives it? No.   Why not, you might ask. If he’s God then it seems that whatever he does will just work. If he wants you to experience his love you will, won’t you? Let me ask you this question; was God able to keep Read more [...]

A Workbook / Working It Out On Paper / Questions We Can Ask Ourselves

Feel free to answer these 7 questions. Fill in the blanks and be honest with yourself.     1. What could we have done differently?   2. What was the turning point that made us stop getting along?   3. What can I take with me into my next relationship?   4. What baggage will I leave behind?   5. Can we be friends and on what level?   6. What does being friends with an ex really mean?   7. Did we ever really know each other at all?   Follow Read more [...]

You After Divorce: a Chinese Vase

Recovering after a divorce is hard. Not only do you have to deal with the ensuing emotional roller-coaster and recovery process, but also with an awful feeling of something having broken inside of you. And it’s no wonder, after divorcing, something indeed broke, and that is that innocent thought of Until Death Do Us Part. You come to realize that that is a very rare flavor of marriage, and you might even start doubting yourself and your ability to obtain it…you might blame your former spouse, Read more [...]

Why It’s Important To Be Yourself

    I want to ask you... Is there a hole in your bucket? Do you sometimes feel that no matter what you fill your life with, you’re never quite… satisfied? The most important factor for happiness Psychologists generally agree that the most important factor in happiness (after food and shelter and all that malarkey) is having positive relationships. We seem to instinctively know this and therefore naturally strive to be a part of something: a social group, a romantic Read more [...]