How to Help Kids Cope with Divorce

    A divorce is not only stressful for the parents but also for the kids involved. Children are bound to feel confusing and sad, and if it’s a bitter divorce then it becomes even more stressful for the kids to deal with it. Since, they do not have the emotional maturity to understand the gravity of the situation, there is a possibility that they might even get scarred for life. Therefore, as responsible parents it is your duty to make your divorce less painful especially if there Read more [...]

Additional Tips on Getting Over Your Ex

It can still be hard to bury all those memories and move on with your life even if you decided to end the relationship especially if they cheated on you. I have put together some Additional Tips on Getting Over Your Ex,  I have used to help me get past the loss of a relationship. Write it Down - When you have issues with your ex and you feel you must contact them now, DO NOT CALL or TEXT MESSAGE them at that moment. Instead, get a pen and paper and write it down (or type it on your computer) Read more [...]

Do we Sacrifice Ourselves to Stay in a Relationship?

      Do we Sacrifice Ourselves to Stay in a Relationship?  Sacrifice is a word that most people are scared of. Sacrifice is called selflessness. Meaning you're willing place your partner's happiness above your own (LOVE). Of course, you're going to run across a person(s) that'll take advantage of it and/or not appreciate it, but those are the chances you take in relationships. It's all 50/50 whether or not it works out, but you can't stay sulking, and thinki...ng you feel like Read more [...]

The Healing Therapy of Writing and Art

    At a cancer conference this fall, there was an enlightening session on using writing and art as a therapy for healing cancer. As I sat there listening to cancer survivor after survivor tell how they drew great peace and understanding from various forms of channeling their inner selves, it dawned on me that this is very much like therapy for people recovering form divorce. Some of the people talked about reaching their inner selves with singing, others with dancing, others from writing. Read more [...]

Keeping Your Children Out of the Icky Side of Divorce

  Here are a few bits of advice for keeping your children out of the icky side of divorce regardless of how long it has been since you separated or divorced.   1. When spending time with your child, don't speak negatively about your former spouse. 2. Do not argue with your ex in your child's presence, and especially avoid arguing when talking about the child. 3. Make sure you always arrive for visitations on time consistently so as not to offer any ammo for your ex. 4. Avoid talking Read more [...]

If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived

  I have spent years counseling and watching the incredible struggle people find themselves in as the unexpected hits them in the form of a divorce. The loss of the dream they had when they committed to marrying is beyond words, yet very real. There is a knee- jerk reaction of going into denial and blame which includes them and yourself. Yet none of this will change what is going on. With time you will see If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived!!   The breakdown of a Read more [...]

Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem

    Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem  Thoughts that inspire exploration and reflection (again, compliments to my beautiful therapist) Happiness can be defined in many ways, but what IS it that gives us this wonderful sensation that emanates from deep within ourselves? The answer comes from deep within. Self Esteem or Self Respect is not given to use through praise, gifts or attention. It’s about ourselves learning how to do things for ourselves, how to be responsible Read more [...]

A Success Story: – Infidelity – I Didn’t Let His Affair Destroy Me

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.” ― Katherine Owen, Not To Us About two years ago, I thought my life was falling apart. After the death of one of my parents, I found out my husband was having an affair and he walked out on my son and me at the weakest moment in my life. I sat in my house with my son who was a toddler, and didn’t understand what I did to deserve to lose my father and the Read more [...]

Two Wild Dogs Fighting and Title of My Books…

      People often ask me where the titles of the three "Dogs" books comes from, and I tell them that a few weeks after I was served with papers by the sheriff, a close friend of mine, someone who had gone through his own train-wreck of a divorce, handed me this story, and It became a guiding light for me, even after the divorce times were behind me. "The old Indian chief was teaching wisdom to his young grandson as they sat together on the mesa beneath the starry night sky. He explained Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Numbness

  There is gonna be  times where you are gonna feel numbness within yourself ,  I know I do at times and lately I have been feeling that way a lot.. I struggle lately with the daily routine and all the changes I have had to go through this last year.. But there is one thing I  know is that I have learned so much about myself and I have also learned a lot about other's. I maybe dealing with some individual  issue's right now, like working at a job that I don't enjoy ,because of the negative Read more [...]