If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived

  I have spent years counseling and watching the incredible struggle people find themselves in as the unexpected hits them in the form of a divorce. The loss of the dream they had when they committed to marrying is beyond words, yet very real. There is a knee- jerk reaction of going into denial and blame which includes them and yourself. Yet none of this will change what is going on. With time you will see If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived!!   The breakdown of a Read more [...]

Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem

    Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem  Thoughts that inspire exploration and reflection (again, compliments to my beautiful therapist) Happiness can be defined in many ways, but what IS it that gives us this wonderful sensation that emanates from deep within ourselves? The answer comes from deep within. Self Esteem or Self Respect is not given to use through praise, gifts or attention. It’s about ourselves learning how to do things for ourselves, how to be responsible Read more [...]

A Success Story: – Infidelity – I Didn’t Let His Affair Destroy Me

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.” ― Katherine Owen, Not To Us About two years ago, I thought my life was falling apart. After the death of one of my parents, I found out my husband was having an affair and he walked out on my son and me at the weakest moment in my life. I sat in my house with my son who was a toddler, and didn’t understand what I did to deserve to lose my father and the Read more [...]

Two Wild Dogs Fighting and Title of My Books…

      People often ask me where the titles of the three "Dogs" books comes from, and I tell them that a few weeks after I was served with papers by the sheriff, a close friend of mine, someone who had gone through his own train-wreck of a divorce, handed me this story, and It became a guiding light for me, even after the divorce times were behind me. "The old Indian chief was teaching wisdom to his young grandson as they sat together on the mesa beneath the starry night sky. He explained Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Numbness

  There is gonna be  times where you are gonna feel numbness within yourself ,  I know I do at times and lately I have been feeling that way a lot.. I struggle lately with the daily routine and all the changes I have had to go through this last year.. But there is one thing I  know is that I have learned so much about myself and I have also learned a lot about other's. I maybe dealing with some individual  issue's right now, like working at a job that I don't enjoy ,because of the negative Read more [...]

Communication With Ease (even with your ex)!

  Have you ever asked yourself these questions concerning your ex, children, co-workers or even your boss? - Why did you do that? - What were you thinking? Trying to understand another person's behavior can be very stressful and frustrating.  The first step to help you deal with your frustration is to remember that everyone is unique. We all see the world from a different perspective. With that being said, would it be fair to say that if I understand you and you understand me, chances are Read more [...]

Don’t Give Bad Comments Any Value

    We have all heard someone say something to someone else that made us cringe as we heard it. Maybe it was a guy talking down to his girlfriend or a student bullying one of their peers in class. This is something so common during and after a divorce between not only you and your ex it may even include the ex-family also.  While this can be hard to hear, it may not always be what it appears. When a person treats another human in a derogatory way, there can be multiple reasons for Read more [...]

Enjoy Holidays after Divorce

  Enjoy Holidays after Divorce Spending holidays after divorce may not be the most pleasant thing – wrong! Holidays after getting divorced could be the most freeing and rejuvenating experience. There is no reason to worry. With the holiday season around the corner, here are a few tips that could prove to be more than helpful during this season. • If you are worried about being alone during the holidays, there is only one recourse – Keep busy! If you don’t have anyone to spend your Read more [...]

*** My Own Diva’s Survival Tips ***

    The Divorced Diva'sTen survival tips for after your divorce: Divorced Diva survival tip #1: Change your thoughts and you change your world...don't be the victim anymore...BE the SURVIVOR starting now!   Divorced Diva survival tip #2: Throw yourself into a hobby...maybe something you have ALWAYS wanted to do but didn't have the time before. Right now it is important to STAY BUSY and keep going! I bought myself a nice camera and took up photography. What hobby will you take Read more [...]

The 5 Stages of Grief

  Definition: The 5 Stages of Grief - Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and Acceptance - were first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to describe a process which many people go through when dealing with a significant tragedy or loss. Description: The 5 Stages of Grief are: Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance With divorce in a way, we face a death - death of the dream of our future home and the expectation of being loved the way we deserve by the one we thought was Read more [...]