Don’t Give Bad Comments Any Value

    We have all heard someone say something to someone else that made us cringe as we heard it. Maybe it was a guy talking down to his girlfriend or a student bullying one of their peers in class. This is something so common during and after a divorce between not only you and your ex it may even include the ex-family also.  While this can be hard to hear, it may not always be what it appears. When a person treats another human in a derogatory way, there can be multiple reasons for Read more [...]

Enjoy Holidays after Divorce

  Enjoy Holidays after Divorce Spending holidays after divorce may not be the most pleasant thing – wrong! Holidays after getting divorced could be the most freeing and rejuvenating experience. There is no reason to worry. With the holiday season around the corner, here are a few tips that could prove to be more than helpful during this season. • If you are worried about being alone during the holidays, there is only one recourse – Keep busy! If you don’t have anyone to spend your Read more [...]

*** My Own Diva’s Survival Tips ***

    The Divorced Diva'sTen survival tips for after your divorce: Divorced Diva survival tip #1: Change your thoughts and you change your world...don't be the victim anymore...BE the SURVIVOR starting now!   Divorced Diva survival tip #2: Throw yourself into a hobby...maybe something you have ALWAYS wanted to do but didn't have the time before. Right now it is important to STAY BUSY and keep going! I bought myself a nice camera and took up photography. What hobby will you take Read more [...]

The 5 Stages of Grief

  Definition: The 5 Stages of Grief - Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and Acceptance - were first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to describe a process which many people go through when dealing with a significant tragedy or loss. Description: The 5 Stages of Grief are: Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance With divorce in a way, we face a death - death of the dream of our future home and the expectation of being loved the way we deserve by the one we thought was Read more [...]

Take Time to Re-Evaluate Everything Including “Friends”

    Many people surround themselves with "friends" that do not appreciate them and eventually they are left feeling invisible and worthless in their own eyes and heart. The mind plays tricks and makes it so much bigger than it really is. Quite a few people now days can’t see past their own wants and needs. They really do act like the world revolves around them. Shoot, they are so self-involved that they are texting while walking and falling into sewers and fountains. LOL Seriously… Read more [...]

The Stress and Anxiety Over the Divorce Will Fade

    Making the decision to get divorced can be one of the hardest decisions you have faced.  Confusion, fear, anger, disappointment are all feelings you may experience.  Often you aren't just thinking about yourself and wondering about your own future, but are concerned about your spouse, their family, your family, possibly your children.  The Stress and Anxiety Over the Divorce Will Fade! It's okay to be scared.  It's okay to experience a wide array of emotions.  There's nothing Read more [...]

Things Do Go Wrong in Life If You Need Help it’s Just a Phone Call Away

    Things may be going wrong in your life now. I know life will get better. Life isn't always FUN; it isn't always FAIR. You have to take one day at a time. You must learn from your mistakes in order to have the knowledge and ability to find true happiness. Wouldn’t it be nice if life came with an owners manual? Not only would we know what could happen to us; we would also know how to fix it. All we can do is face it head on, and handle everything to the best of our ability, Don't Read more [...]

Stages of Healing from Abuse and Trauma

The journey to healing and recovery from abuse is long, sometimes painful, and VERY challenging. The journey is different for every victim/survivor. However, we each go through similar emotions manifested from our pain and confusion. The following lists the stages/emotional patterns in our healing process. As we heal, we oscillate between all of these. So don't worry if you keep revisiting "anger" or "bargaining." It happens. It's how our mind process the trauma and helps us heal. DENIAL Shock Read more [...]

Coping With Life After Divorce

It’s never easy to cope with life or face the repercussions of a broken marriage or a breakup of a long term relationship. Whatever may be the reason of your split and whether you wanted the break up or not doesn’t really matter much! The unwavering truth is that a divorce can knock the wind away from your sails, trigger all types of unsettling and painful feelings and turn your entire world upside down. Realizing that you are all alone to deal with crucial issues such as children, career Read more [...]

Tips to Get Through the Holiday Season After a Divorce

Here are some tips to get through the holiday season after a divorce!   Getting divorced or separated was never going to be easy. But why make it worse by punishing yourself during the best time of the year, which has to be Christmas. All you need is to plan out things in advance before it gets to you. Things will be different and also, difficult, it is best to prepare yourself and your children, if you have any, mentally and emotionally for the holiday season. If you have separated Read more [...]