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Assessing Emotional Maturity By, Justin Nutt, LMSW

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“Maturity of mind is the capacity to endure uncertainty.” – John Finley

All too often emotional maturity is viewed as a given attribute that a person achieves based on their chronological age. But the truth is that young or old, 6 or 60, isn’t what defines the emotional maturity of a person. The maturity of a person isn’t something that magically is bestowed upon a person when they enter puberty, graduate high school, or turn 21, it is something that comes from within and from mental development. This many times does not coincide with the physical maturing of a person. A truly emotionally mature person is not defined by the answer of one person alone, but by the combination of different areas as they relate to emotions and empathy towards others. Just as with physical maturity, where there are a number of different parts that develop at differing rates, yet all must develop to be mature, this is also true of emotional maturity.  The key to the assessment of emotional maturity within relationships is to ask yourself the following questions . . .

1. Do you listen to your partner’s thoughts in a respectful way and without passing judgment upon his or her thoughts and the beliefs which lead him or her to believe as he or she does?

2. Are you able to express to your partner your thoughts in a respectful manner while staying true to your own beliefs and without fearing you will be rejected for expressing them?

3. Do you recognize the emotions that you are having at the time they are present?

4. Are you able to control your emotions and the urges which may accompany them?

5. Are you able to express those emotions to your partner in a way which is acceptable?

6. Are you able to recognize your partner’s emotions and be respectful of them?

7. Are you able to cope with unexpected changes or events in a successful and healthy manner?

8. Do you act in a rational manner when under stress, both good and bad?

9. Are you accepting of the needs and desires of your partner and realize that they are as important as your own, and also feel desire, not obligation, to fulfill them?

10. Are you able to understand and express your own needs and desires to your partner and allow for her to fulfill them as well, while not being expecting of her to do so?

11. Are you capable of realizing when you have made a mistake and able to accept responsibility of those mistakes without self-degradation for them?

12. Are you accepting of the fact that your partner is human and prone to making mistakes and accepting of those mistakes without the passing of judgment upon him or her?

(Excerpt “The Good Guy, the Bad Guy, and the Ugly Truth”)


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Originally posted 2013-01-06 23:16:30. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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  1. Justin Nutt, a dating and relationship expert, is a therapist currently working in the Kansas City area with a specialty in relationship counseling and identity issues connected to self-esteem and self-worth, trauma, depression and anxiety. In November2012, ARK Counseling Services was opened by Justin and his fiancée, Shannon, in Paola, Kansas to provide mental health services to those in Miami, Linn, Franklin, and Anderson Counties Kansas. Justin holds an undergraduate degree in social work from the University of Kansas and a Master of Social Work from the University of Missouri: Kansas City.
    Justin is also the founder and Executive Director of Acts of Random Kindness (ARK), which was founded as a disaster relief organization in May of 2011 to help connect individuals and families with temporary and permanent housing, needed relief supplies, and food in the wake of natural disasters. As of June 4, 2012, Acts of Random Kindness began working to provide relief to the victims of domestic violence and is working to partner with domestic violence shelters across the United States to begin implementation of the Changing Patterns program, which is based on Justin’s book The Good Guy, the Bad Guy, and the Ugly Truth, as a part of treatment in shelters. All proceeds from sales of The Good Guy, the Bad Guy, and the Ugly Truth as well as other products or services purchased through his website are used to fund the domestic violence work of Acts of Random Kindness.
    Justin’s published works include poetry magazines, his first relationship therapy book; The Good Guy, the Bad Guy, and the Ugly Truth, and a special issue of the Journal of Evidenced Based Social Work. Justin is also a freelance writer for socialjusticesolutions.org, covering clinical aspects of social work private practice treatment. Currently in the process of publishing are a children’s book and a book on the history of the traditions which are a part of Christmas written by Justin. And Justin is also currently working on eight new works which are in various stages of development, with topics ranging from therapy books to a crime novel.
    Justin has entered talks with a director and producer to film one of his screenplays and on December 31st of 2012 Justin was signed to host an intervention/therapy style talk show for MCTV a local network station located in Miami County, Kansas.

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