HOPE is just a phone call away. Help is Available if you Need it!

      If you’re feeling hopeless, HOPE is just a phone call away. No matter what problems you are struggling with, hurting yourself isn’t the answer.   The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is here to help.  By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. For Hearing & Speech Impaired with TTY Equipment: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889)   If you are in a relationship that is violent, Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Abbreviations used by MEV

    Here is a list of the abbreviations used by MEV. "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations: N/NPDer - Narcissist P - Psychopath NP - Narcissistic Psychopath NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder PA - Passive Aggressive NS - Narcissistic Supply APD - Antisocial Personality Disorder BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder Bi-P - Bi-Polar NC - No Contact NW - Narcissist Wife NH - Narcissist Husband XN - Ex Narcissist XNW/WNH Read more [...]

12 x 4 x 10 – Diary of Abuse

12 x 4 x 10 - Diary of Abuse by Misty Frith I am a deputy; I protect people like me I am a paramedic; I fix the wounds you cannot see I’m always strong for others, making sure they cannot see The terrified, crying side of me It’s been two years since I asked for help, to keep him away from us Here, we are again in court, dealing with the fuss When I come to Indy, I have to take pills Panic attacks over take me, they come on like chills A scar on my nose, from a punch to the face A scar on Read more [...]

Guidelines to Follow if Still Have to Be In Contact with Your Abuser

  Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.    - Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples. - Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you. - Limit contact with the abuser. - Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse - Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused - Hang up the phone if you are abused. - Try to keep any Read more [...]

Additional Tips on Getting Over Your Ex

It can still be hard to bury all those memories and move on with your life even if you decided to end the relationship especially if they cheated on you. I have put together some Additional Tips on Getting Over Your Ex,  I have used to help me get past the loss of a relationship. Write it Down - When you have issues with your ex and you feel you must contact them now, DO NOT CALL or TEXT MESSAGE them at that moment. Instead, get a pen and paper and write it down (or type it on your computer) Read more [...]

Help in the Fight to End Domestic Violence

One year ago I had the idea to collect stories from survivors of domestic violence and put them into a book. The focus of this project is not to make money, but to make a difference in a fight that is so near and dear to my heart. Being a clinician who has done a large amount of group work, one thing I have found to be amazingly true is that we learn more from other people who have been through the same thing than “experts.” That is a major reason that I wanted to do the project, but there Read more [...]

Do We Embrace the Throw Away Attitude in Our Marriages?

            In the wake of a very high profile celebrity divorce case here in the UK, this morning I was asked to speak on a handful of mid-morning BBC radio stations on their case and the general topic of divorce and domestic abuse. I was asked several times whether people threw the towel in on their marriages quicker than had happened in the past. Prior to my research on the subject, I would have said that as a society (Western world anyway) we have embraced Read more [...]

Male Inspired Divorce Poetry will be Available Early 2014

  Male inspired divorce poetry will be available early 2014     All things being equal, the men's version of Poetry of Divorce should be available in the Spring of 2014.Poetry of Divorce is a collection of upbeat, stark, witty, gritty yet essentially encouraging poems, by Tracey West.Through her sharp and comedic pen, they outline everything from the uphill struggles, to the absolute adventures faced by many men, as they attempt to carve a coherent route through the most emotionally Read more [...]

Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem

    Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem  Thoughts that inspire exploration and reflection (again, compliments to my beautiful therapist) Happiness can be defined in many ways, but what IS it that gives us this wonderful sensation that emanates from deep within ourselves? The answer comes from deep within. Self Esteem or Self Respect is not given to use through praise, gifts or attention. It’s about ourselves learning how to do things for ourselves, how to be responsible Read more [...]