It’s Impossible to Control a Narcissist’s Behavior

  It’s important to understand that it’s impossible to control a narcissist’s behavior. Neither the narcissist’s spouse nor children are responsible for his/her behavior. Narcissists are who they are. The best the other parent can do for their children and themselves is to separate themselves as much as possible from the narcissist. First and foremost, former spouses of narcissists need to seek professional support for themselves and their children. It’s important that both children Read more [...]

Your Ex is History Don’t Bring Them on Your Date!

  Your Ex is history so don’t bring them on your date! Regardless of how much effort we may make toward leaving our past in our past, we are haunted because of it. We have been troubled by an affair our ex had, or we have been frightened of the raised voice that accompanied a meltdown that lead to physical or verbal abuse. Without realizing it, many individuals develop an inclination to hightail it away from people who even just in the slightest way remind them of their ex-spouse. This Read more [...]

Be Prepared for your Initial Meetings

    Be prepared for your initial meetings with your solicitor / lawyer, you will be expected to provide them with a diverse array of information. It will help them and save you time and money if you prepare your responses efficiently in advance of any meetings. Your initial meeting should certainly include as much of the following as is possible. Clear and concise reasons why you want a divorce including information on any domestic abuse (emotional, mental, financial, sexual and physical), Read more [...]

A Relationship With an Abusers?

  If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you may be/have been in a relationship with an abuser.   •Are you now or have you ever been in a relationship with someone who abuses you emotionally? •Are you always walking on eggshells around your partner, worried that anything you say or do could incite their anger and rage? •Does your partner criticize everything you do or say? •Does your partner try to isolate you from your family and friends? •Does your partner make Read more [...]

HOPE is just a phone call away. Help is Available if you Need it!

      If you’re feeling hopeless, HOPE is just a phone call away. No matter what problems you are struggling with, hurting yourself isn’t the answer.   The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is here to help.  By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. For Hearing & Speech Impaired with TTY Equipment: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889)   If you are in a relationship that is violent, Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

Abbreviations used by MEV

    Here is a list of the abbreviations used by MEV. "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations: N/NPDer - Narcissist P - Psychopath NP - Narcissistic Psychopath NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder PA - Passive Aggressive NS - Narcissistic Supply APD - Antisocial Personality Disorder BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder Bi-P - Bi-Polar NC - No Contact NW - Narcissist Wife NH - Narcissist Husband XN - Ex Narcissist XNW/WNH Read more [...]

12 x 4 x 10 – Diary of Abuse

12 x 4 x 10 - Diary of Abuse by Misty Frith I am a deputy; I protect people like me I am a paramedic; I fix the wounds you cannot see I’m always strong for others, making sure they cannot see The terrified, crying side of me It’s been two years since I asked for help, to keep him away from us Here, we are again in court, dealing with the fuss When I come to Indy, I have to take pills Panic attacks over take me, they come on like chills A scar on my nose, from a punch to the face A scar on Read more [...]

Guidelines to Follow if Still Have to Be In Contact with Your Abuser

  Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.    - Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples. - Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you. - Limit contact with the abuser. - Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse - Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused - Hang up the phone if you are abused. - Try to keep any Read more [...]

Additional Tips on Getting Over Your Ex

It can still be hard to bury all those memories and move on with your life even if you decided to end the relationship especially if they cheated on you. I have put together some Additional Tips on Getting Over Your Ex,  I have used to help me get past the loss of a relationship. Write it Down - When you have issues with your ex and you feel you must contact them now, DO NOT CALL or TEXT MESSAGE them at that moment. Instead, get a pen and paper and write it down (or type it on your computer) Read more [...]