Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Why do Some Married People Find it Acceptable to Poke “Fun” at Their Partners in Public?

  Please read my Editors Note at the end of this article.       Why do Some Married Women Find it Acceptable to Poke Fun at Their Husbands in Public? By Gint  Aras   I noticed that several married women I know on Facebook posted this joke on their timelines in recent days: Woman’s Ass Size Study There is a new study about women and how they feel about their asses. The results are very interesting. 10% of women think their ass is too skinny 30% of women think Read more [...]

NARCISSISTIC TRAITS

  NARCISSISTIC TRAITS   Turns every conversation to him/her expects you to meet his/her emotional needs Ignores the impact of his/her negative comments on you Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for their own behavior Expect you to jump at their every need Is overly involved with their own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs Has high need for attention: Brags, sulks, complains, Read more [...]

The Right to Feel is Violated by Emotionally Abusive Behavior

    A right that everyone has in relationships, which is violated by emotionally abusive behavior is the right to feel: You must learn the difference so you will not keep getting into abusive relationships.   The Right to Feel - In a healthy relationship, each person is able to recognize what they are feeling at any given moment and feel it safely. They can talk about it with other trustworthy people. They are able to anticipate and fulfill their own needs. They are able to notice Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 4 – Discovering Your Lost Self: Bye Bye Co-Dependency!

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   A lot of people stay in abusive relationships because of the fear of being alone or not being loved by other people. They will say for the longest time that they want out, but they end up not leaving. There are some people who do leave, but they tend to repeat the same self-destructive attitude in their new relationship. Co-dependency Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 1

Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article. The symptoms of abuse are not always easy to spot and recognize. Even if you’re not in an abusive relationship it’s important to be aware of how to spot those who are being abused, how to deal with being abused, and how to cope with divorce that involves abuse. Many times when there is verbal or emotional abuse there are no Read more [...]

Diary of Abuse October 2000

    He’s been nice while his mom has been here. He helps cook and clean. He still won’t let me take the car myself, he drives me to and from work. There has been no yelling for a few days, its so nice. As I was coming out of work tonight one of the guys threw a cup out the window and hit me with it just joking around. I started laughing at him and got in the car. I knew as soon as I saw Roger’s face I had just messed up. He started yelling at me and asking me how long I had been Read more [...]

Abusive Relationships Were Doomed From Day One

I hope we can help a few people see that you really did all that you could under the circumstances; these relationships were doomed from day one the only variable with these relationships is how long it takes for the victim to discover the lies or when the Narcissistic meets a better prospect.  They will be looking the whole relationship but they are not going to leave a sure thing until they meet a victim that can offer them something they need more than what you offer (you are probably drained Read more [...]

Avoid the Sociopathic Games

  Sociopaths are predators that love hurting other people. They are hard to identify, and victims are surprised to find themselves in abusive relationships. Victims of sociopathic games should ask for help in order to leave the abuser behind and bring normalcy to their lives. Staying in abusive relationships could result in damage of their physical and psychological health.   Sociopaths don’t have consciences. For them, everything’s a game. They don’t feel any remorse or guilt Read more [...]

Things You Should Know about Hoovers and Hoovering

  Hoovers and Hoovering are terms that came from the popular vacuum cleaner brand. Hoovering is the behavior common among abusers that is seen when the victim threatens to get out, or actually gets out of an abusive relationship. The abuser will suck the victim back into the relationship by playing with one’s weaknesses. It can be done by giving the victim gifts, promises, acts of affection, and compliments.   Hoovers and Hoovering have been made possible because of the fear of being Read more [...]