Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

The Right to Feel is Violated by Emotionally Abusive Behavior

    A right that everyone has in relationships, which is violated by emotionally abusive behavior is the right to feel: You must learn the difference so you will not keep getting into abusive relationships.   The Right to Feel - In a healthy relationship, each person is able to recognize what they are feeling at any given moment and feel it safely. They can talk about it with other trustworthy people. They are able to anticipate and fulfill their own needs. They are able to notice Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 4 – Discovering Your Lost Self: Bye Bye Co-Dependency!

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   A lot of people stay in abusive relationships because of the fear of being alone or not being loved by other people. They will say for the longest time that they want out, but they end up not leaving. There are some people who do leave, but they tend to repeat the same self-destructive attitude in their new relationship. Co-dependency Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 1

Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article. The symptoms of abuse are not always easy to spot and recognize. Even if you’re not in an abusive relationship it’s important to be aware of how to spot those who are being abused, how to deal with being abused, and how to cope with divorce that involves abuse. Many times when there is verbal or emotional abuse there are no Read more [...]

Reach Out – “Does It Get Any Better With Time?”

    Reach Out “Does It Get Any Better With Time?”   Member Requesting Input "I only started divorce proceedings against my abusive husband yesterday, I had to go through everything, and does the pain of going through the process get easier?"   Member Response 1 Way to go 🙂 It takes courage and strength to make a big life change. It is ok to get some professional help as you go thru. I am in counseling now to help me with the stress, depression, and all of the other Read more [...]

The No Contact Rule!

      The No Contact Rule!   1. No calls, no texts, no emails, no smoke signals, no carrier pigeons. Make a list of every nasty hurtful thing they said and did to you and keep a copy near every communication device you own. 2. No “accidental” meetings (if you can help it). Change your routine. Go to the gym at a different time or on different days. Find an alternate sports pub. Go to a different grocery store. Yes, it’s unfair that you have to change your lifestyle Read more [...]

Diary of Abuse October 2000

    He’s been nice while his mom has been here. He helps cook and clean. He still won’t let me take the car myself, he drives me to and from work. There has been no yelling for a few days, its so nice. As I was coming out of work tonight one of the guys threw a cup out the window and hit me with it just joking around. I started laughing at him and got in the car. I knew as soon as I saw Roger’s face I had just messed up. He started yelling at me and asking me how long I had been Read more [...]

Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem

  Thoughts that inspire exploration and reflection that are Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem (again, compliments to my beautiful therapist) Happiness can be defined in many ways, but what IS it that gives us this wonderful sensation that emanates from deep within ourselves? The answer comes from deep within. Self Esteem or Self Respect is not given to use through praise, gifts or attention. It’s about ourselves learning how to do things for ourselves, how to be responsible Read more [...]

Emotional Abuse Kepts You Focused on the Past

Emotional abuse kept you focused on the past; and seeing the future only through the negative perspective of the abusive relationship. When you were in an emotionally abusive relationship, your partner always remind you of everything you have ever done wrong – and their prediction that you will never change for the better. How did your partner know this? Actually, they didn't it was only their opinion. Emotional abuse brainwashed you into taking whatever bad things your partner said about Read more [...]

Healing is Hard Word! Especially from an Abusive Relationship!

Healing is work, the hardest you’ll ever do. It is not something that happens spontaneously as in the case of a scrape or bruise. It requires a great deal of conscious effort, research and help. It is easy to become trapped in an identity of being the ex. It is THEIR trap and their way of remaining in contact with you. Imagine that your ex-pathological has implanted a device in your soul that feeds on your pain and fears. In essence that’s what they do. It’s a way of staying connected with Read more [...]