The Internet, Your Ex and the Legal System

  Social media and various other mediums have now become a very acceptable form of evidence for court cases. Did you know that about 80% of attorneys use information from social networking sites as evidence in divorce cases and custody hearings? This area for fact finding has been growing at a tremendous rate for the past six years. Social media has made it much harder to keep information from your ex - they're able to find out everything you're doing. Even though, you think you have "hidden" Read more [...]

42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Eleven | Alis III

  42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Eleven | Alis III Warning some episodes have strong language!       Published on Nov 24, 2012 WritersImprovStudio From "we are totally happy" to "I don't know how happy I am" it takes less than three minutes. Seeing Felice so happily pregnant, makes Alis realize that she does not love Tomas as she said she does. She would never want to have another child with him - a shocking realization. 4 couples. 6 friends. 5 affairs. 1 intruder. Read more [...]

The Story Begins Mamma Bear Plus 6

          It has been a year and it is still difficult to share this story with anyone outside my small circle of close friends & family. I will be very discriminating on details, not sure there will ever be an acceptable amount of time between then and the present that will make me want to dig up and share those deep ugly mental images. It is not something that I thought I would ever want to talk about or share with anyone, but it is amazing what can be accomplished Read more [...]

Splitting Matrimonial Assets is One Thing, Splitting the Business is Another

      If you ran a business with your ex, splitting the house and matrimonial assets is one thing, splitting the business is quite another. Even the most straightforward of businesses will be complicated enough to divide and it may be prudent to speak to an accountant in the very early stages to assess where you are and how they best recommend the hammer to fall. Once this has been established, the solicitors will have to draw up agreements to reflect your decisions but of course, Read more [...]

Set Aside Your Immediate Stresses

If you are in the thick of it all right now with no immediate end in sight, forget solutions, try temporarily uplifting alternatives instead.   Set Aside Your Immediate Stresses for a bit. Plan a rib-tickling night out with friends to watch a comedic play or a toe-tapping musical at a local theatre. If you’re feeling like travelling up to The Big Smoke, catch some professional stand-up at a Comedy Store or something similar. Setting aside your immediate stresses, even if only for a little Read more [...]

Be the Bigger Person in the Room

      Immediately after the Big Red Button has been pushed (by you or them) try hard not to engage in any unnecessary emotionally loaded banter with newly titled ex, if your goal is to discuss important details. Be the Bigger Person in the Room. To be honest, it’s likely to be so highly charged, you are unlikely to get a great deal sensibly debated or organized. It’s unfortunate when intricate, relationship-laced conversations descend into a verbal brawl, as they are generally Read more [...]

The Anatomy of An Affair – Part 3

        Podcast: Play in new window | Download In this, the 3rd of our series, The Anatomy of an Affair, we focus on two phases of recovery. David Feder believes firmly that moving “from discovery to recovery” means much more than merely moving on and allowing time to pass. David says, “if you do that you are leaving the quality of your recovery and your life up to the Gods”. He asks, are you sure that is what you want to do? In this segment, we begin by having Read more [...]

42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Sixteen | Peter and the Lives of the Others

    Warning some episodes have strong language!       Published on Dec 29, 2012 WritersImprovStudio   'You'd think that when love ends, that it could just end, and it wouldn't have to be so bitter and complicated.' Alis asks for Peter's help, Peter offers Tomas his help, Tomas wants everybody to get out of his life. A couple has common friends. One day they separate. What happens to their friends? Will they take sides, will they get involved, will they even Read more [...]

Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down

      During my healing process too often I find myself sad, tense, worried, or just plain filled with the bad wave of healing. I don’t enjoy feeling that way at all.  Need Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down.  Here are some of my personally tested tricks to pull me out of that sad place and back to the positive waves of healing. 1. Look around you, “It could be worse.” You may be sad that you are alone but think about the person that is alone and homeless. Read more [...]

Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community

  I posted my Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community before, but learned the link did not work.  As such I got a copy of the mp3 from the organization that hosted the talk and I up loaded directly to the site and undated the post. This is a recording of a talk I was asked to give to an international audience for Better than Ever After Divorce.  Dee Adio-Moses asked me to talk on the topic after interviewing me about my book on her radio show.  Some of the topics Read more [...]