Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down

      During my healing process too often I find myself sad, tense, worried, or just plain filled with the bad wave of healing. I don’t enjoy feeling that way at all.  Need Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down.  Here are some of my personally tested tricks to pull me out of that sad place and back to the positive waves of healing. 1. Look around you, “It could be worse.” You may be sad that you are alone but think about the person that is alone and homeless. Read more [...]

Two Wild Dogs Fighting and Title of My Books…

      People often ask me where the titles of the three "Dogs" books comes from, and I tell them that a few weeks after I was served with papers by the sheriff, a close friend of mine, someone who had gone through his own train-wreck of a divorce, handed me this story, and It became a guiding light for me, even after the divorce times were behind me. "The old Indian chief was teaching wisdom to his young grandson as they sat together on the mesa beneath the starry night sky. He explained Read more [...]

Taking Out Your Frustrations in the Water

        If you are struggling to cope with the general angst and belly ache of divorce, consider taking out your frustrations in the water. Your local swimming pool is a fabulous place to wash that person right out of your hair and to do something calm, healthy and meditative too. A good handful of simple lengths done at a gentle pace can be incredibly satisfying, particularly when you don’t set yourself a time goal. Let’s face it, there are enough other deadlines Read more [...]

Be Patient, Love and Above all be You

      Be Patient, Love and Above all be You In an ideal world, all relationships would thrive, we’d procreate the optimum 2.2 children and alongside them, rear uber-obedient companion dogs that the children would walk every day after they’d done homework and a handful of chores. The children would grow well, flourish in their educative years and contribute to their local communities via the voluntary sector and as a nuclear unit you’d watch reruns of the Walton’s on Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Numbness

  There is gonna be  times where you are gonna feel numbness within yourself ,  I know I do at times and lately I have been feeling that way a lot.. I struggle lately with the daily routine and all the changes I have had to go through this last year.. But there is one thing I  know is that I have learned so much about myself and I have also learned a lot about other's. I maybe dealing with some individual  issue's right now, like working at a job that I don't enjoy ,because of the negative Read more [...]

“Fifty Shades of Gray and More”

        “Fifty Shades of Gray and More" Originally aired April 27, 2012   Podcast: Play in new window | Download   Joanie, Lesley and Steve are back together on Single Again! Now What?  They kick off the show celebrating Joanie’s birthday and then take on the topic of the Top Five Men’s and Woman’s Needs in a Relationship. Our trio then discusses the book, Fifty Shades of Gray.   Toward the end of the show, Joanie offers a FREE personality Read more [...]

Seek Out your Friends

      Seek Out your Friends   If your ex was a control freak and trapped in a mental box, you can be sure that even after the divorce, they’ll chance their arm again and try to regain the control they (thought they) had. If you’ve broken away from that relationship and are now back on your feet, that’s where you need to stay. With enormous bravery you removed yourself from that oppressive situation and you do not need to revisit the horror or hurt ever again. It may Read more [...]

Give Your Home a Make-Over

      If you’re living in the property you shared with your ex, you might like to consider making a few changes.  Give Your Home a Make-Over! In previous tips we’ve extolled the virtues of how much better you’ll feel by changing a few items in your wardrobe, particularly night attire and underwear and in the lounge, how fresh new cushion covers can help make a difference too. However, if you really don’t want them crossing your threshold unless invited, you might like Read more [...]

Your Ex, the Internet and Social Media Part 2 “Even if it is Not Illegal Some Statements Hurt!”

      Paul and Lilly had gone through a very painful divorce, and like many during their separation, they both had unfriended each other. They did have adult children that were on both of their friend lists on the social network. Unfortunately, neither had blocked the ex nor set the privacy to friends only, and the default setting was used so friends of friends could read posts.   Lilly found out that Paul had been reading her posts and going to her page through the children’s Read more [...]

Divorce is Crap – Get Over it!

      Divorce is crap - get over it!’ It’s a strange take on what could easily be termed one of the most stressful life events, ever, but this is advice that may well be sent your way from acquaintances who have suffered terribly inside their own divorces. For some people, there are no soft boundaries for self-exploration during this difficult time; they prefer to take a cut and dry approach, hence the sharply direct tone in their words. Unemotional pragmatism is all they Read more [...]