Communication

        Many times when couples are having problems in a relationship, unfortunately communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding or creating a new type of relationships, just as communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind.     Healing in the relationship cannot Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Stepfamilies: Losses and Loyalties”

        Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Stepfamilies: Losses and Loyalties” Originally aired August 12, 2012     Podcast: Play in new window | Download Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck welcomes Patricia Fares-O’Malley, PhD. She is a psychotherapist,  hypnotherapist, teacher, stress and grief management specialist.   Patricia Fares-O’Malley Todays program zero in on the challenges stepfamilies face, and Patricia help us know what it takes for blended families to Read more [...]

Okay, Ladies, Woman Up…Father’s Day is Coming!

  By Gretchen Schiller Last year on Father’s Day it had been a year since Charles and my divorce. It took me awhile to come up with a gift idea that Ana Lu could make for him. This is perfect for single moms on a budget who are trying to think of a thoughtful gift. Really, for all of us busy moms and consequently last minute shoppers. It has sat on the shelf in his house ever since. Only 15 bucks, easy peasy and he loves it…     • Go the the store and buy a window Read more [...]

Oops, I Acted Like an Idiot

  By Gretchen Schiller Poised for a Fight Ana Lu and I walked up the stone pathway to the house. Charles greeted us at the door and invited both of us inside, knowing I needed to pick up a box that was in the garage. The first thing I noticed upon entering was that Ana Lu’s little desk had moved again. I made a bee-line for it. Picked it up and moved it back to its original place in the corner.                                                 Read more [...]

Baby Brings Dad Unusual Attention from Beautiful Women

Photo by Gint Aras Originally appeared at The Good Men Project on  October  26, 2012 Writer Gint Aras probes the odd phenomenon  of babies attracting babes…to his wife’s amusement Prior to having Kira, my first child, I used to imagine what attention a baby  might attract in public. I was mostly curious but also mildly anxious. I live in Oak Park, Illinois, a suburb boasting good schools, beautiful parks  and playgrounds, and a diverse culture of bookworms and patrons of the arts,  Read more [...]

Try this Today: Secret Wink

By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Secret Wink. A secret sign between you and your munchkin. Over a year ago… “Ya know, Sweetie, I was thinkin’ about it Read more [...]

The Peaceful Pretzels

    By Gretchen Schiller “POUNDER of MINI PRETZELS!” The over-sized bag screams at me while I hurry down the chip aisle in the supermarket. Ugh, nothing smaller? I scan the other bags of pretzels, to the right, to the left, and see that half of them scream “POUNDER!” and the other half with a more modest label – “16oz” – for the same ginormous bag of pretzels. This is far too many pretzels for just Ana Lu and me. Yet Ana Lu likes to have a few pretzels in her lunchbox Read more [...]

Try this Today: Daily Notes While out of Town

    By Gretchen Schiller This “Try this Today” tip is from when I went out of town for a Writer’s Conference. I did not plan on sharing the daily notes I wrote for Ana Lu because, well, quite frankly, because I didn’t think of it. So I’m going to throw my “artistic license” card on the table, confess that I deviated from grammar, etc. and trust that you all won’t be a bunch o’ haters while reading my messy-mommy-notes. Because although I didn’t plan on sharing them, Read more [...]

Custody Calendar for Your Child

    By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Custody Calendar for Your Child Adult children of divorced parents shared that one of the greatest challenges Read more [...]

Did You See a Ghost Too? Divorce is a Marriage That Has Sadly Died.

By Gretchen Schiller Despite Life-Saving Measures After all logistical matters of divorce are settled: separate homes, bank accounts, phone bills and papers signed, then… silence. Similar to weeks spent organizing a funeral for the death of a loved one, busily contacting family and friends, choosing a date for a memorial service, finding a funeral home, writing an obituary, then… silence. We grieve the loss of our loved one that passed away; we ache for them and forever feel the void Read more [...]