What Counts as Cheating?

        Cheating is difficult to define.  In a really broad sense, cheating includes betraying a partner's expectations about the type of contact allowed with others. When a partner, breaks one's expectations about exactly what is appropriate, individuals feel betrayed. Relationships are not based on logic; however, they are influenced by our feelings. Cheating is complex because the meaning varies so extremely. However, when someone violates a partner's expectations, the Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Unfaithful, on The Oprah Winfrey Network!”

        Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Unfaithful, on The Oprah Winfrey Network!” Originally aired August 30, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download     On this edition of Single Again! Now What?, Joanie and Steve take another look at cheating in relationships. Some couples find a way to work through the blow and sadness and stay together, while for others, divorce is the only option. The producer of Unfaithful, on The Oprah Read more [...]

The Anatomy of An Affair – Part 4

      Podcast: Play in new window | Download Part 4 of our series, The Anatomy of An Affair continues with David Feder.     David Feder In this show we  look into why affairs happen. David discusses talks about the different types of affairs and what recovery entails. We also explore what you should do when you suspect your spouse is cheating and help you understand why the affair happened.   For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAn Affair.com.   The Read more [...]

Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder

  Here are some traits of a person with Borderline Personality Disorder - MEV "Always" & "Never" Statements - "Always" & "Never" Statements are declarations containing the words "always" or "never". They are commonly used but rarely true. Anger - People who suffer from personality disorders often feel a sense of unresolved anger and a heightened or exaggerated perception that they have been wronged, invalidated, neglected or abused. Baiting and Picking Fights - Baiting and picking Read more [...]

Cheating & It’s Impact

  Infidelity is one of the worst things that you can ever do to your partner – so why do so many actually commit such a crime? In our previous article we spoke about what infidelity actually is. Today, we want to concentrate on what the biggest reasons are for each gender. What are the most common excuses given for cheating? Also, what kind of impact can it have on a divorce proceeding and beyond? If you have previously been involved in cheating in the past, whether you were the one cheating Read more [...]

Infidelity and You

It comes with many names, and rarely is it ever accepted – infidelity is one of the single worst acts somebody can commit in a relationship. Trying to deal with the act of cheating, or adultery, can be quite a difficult thing to deal with. The emotional dilemmas as well as psychological barriers it can creates in someone’s mind can be very hard to get over. Whether you have been the victim of infidelity, or have left a relationship because of your own actions, trying to understand just why Read more [...]

It Was as if I had Never Seen Her Before

  The neighbor, Katerina, hooked me up with a friend of hers, Mary. I found a friend for Katerina, and we all double-dated at the Blue’s Café. Mary and I left early to get out of the noise and to have a cigarette. We went to the Rusty Scupper, where we sat at the bar and exchanged life stories. I started to appreciate how gentle and pretty Mary was. But no spark. Katerina and my friend joined us a couple hours later. Evidently no spark there either. Carol and I met through an online dating Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Affairs, Control Issues and More”

    Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Affairs, Control Issues and More” Originally aired August 22, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Single Again! Now What? returns with our 29th episode. Joanie had a business assignment from her “real” work, so Lesley and Steve are handling court on a variety of subjects. Sleep deprived Lesley, sucks it up and puts a smile on her face for our loyal audiences and discusses Read more [...]

Do People Cheat Because of Biology?

      People cheat for many different reasons; complications in the relationship, the lack of closeness, or as a consequence of their libido. These are just a few of the common explanations, but there are two primary views regarding the reasons that infidelity occurs. The first explanation is by far the most well-known: Partners cheat as a consequence of complications inside their relationship something is missing, passion has faded, partners really feel lonely, and someone is filling Read more [...]