MEV Shares Her Letter ” A Beautiful Journey”

    "A Beautiful Journey" is a letter which I have typed out that my favorite shelter worker wrote me this morning, on my final day living at this women’s' shelter. It is words that can help us all. Enjoy My dear MEV, Your journey is the journey of a beautiful woman who inspired and gives compassion and ideals. I admire your strength even when you carry burdens and hardships. I admire your commitment to make things right and your ability to move forward and round up energy, even where Read more [...]

How to Help Kids Cope with Divorce

    A divorce is not only stressful for the parents but also for the kids involved. Children are bound to feel confusing and sad, and if it’s a bitter divorce then it becomes even more stressful for the kids to deal with it. Since, they do not have the emotional maturity to understand the gravity of the situation, there is a possibility that they might even get scarred for life. Therefore, as responsible parents it is your duty to make your divorce less painful especially if there Read more [...]

Divorced? Survive and Thrive After Divorce Boot Camp for Men and Women

Divorced? Survive and Thrive After Divorce Boot Camp for Men and Women As a Divorce Mentor and CEO of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children, I hear many of the following questions from my clients after divorce... "Now what?, Will I ever get my life back?, Will I ever be happy again?". Unfortunately, there isn't a step-by-step manual to answer these questions and to help you get back on track after your divorce. We can only wish. Wish no more. That's why as a corporate trainer Read more [...]

Your Estate, Chattel and Children

     Recently, I've covered some pretty grounding topics, namely death, your estate, children and money; today it’s time to blend these in the same tip. The time period between splitting up and getting the ball-of-divorce rolling can be a little grey in respect of your worth following an untimely demise, despite the fact that you might think once you’re living independently from your ex, what’s yours really is yours. If you have children, it is unsurprisingly layered in even more Read more [...]

Potentially Stressful Mix When Sorting Out a Divorce

  Shared property and children make for an interesting and potentially stressful mix when it comes to sorting out your divorce.   There are a great many critical factors to explore fully with your solicitor, lawyer or the Citizen’s Advice Bureau if you are in the early days of your proceedings and busily collecting information. Topics for discussion will include whether it’s in joint names, whether you have a prenuptial or a cohabitation agreement etc.   If you are married, Read more [...]

Guidelines to Follow if Still Have to Be In Contact with Your Abuser

  Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.    - Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples. - Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you. - Limit contact with the abuser. - Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse - Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused - Hang up the phone if you are abused. - Try to keep any Read more [...]

ThredUp: Children’s Clothing Swap

      Buying clothes for kids can get expensive! I will never forget when my nephew grew twelve inches in twelve months. Kids just grow so fast most of the time they don’t have a chance to wear anything out. Dress clothes are so expensive, and many time kids will only wear them a few times before they have outgrown them. When my kids were young we made use of the local consignment store. There is a new type of consignment store, and it is online. Many people are saving money Read more [...]

What Led You To Her? Decisions Made In Childhood?

    Our emotional histories depend on little decisions which, however small, are irreversible.  ___ One of the questions people often ask a married man is, “How did you meet your wife?” The question is loaded, of course, and an answer like, “Well, I was hanging out at this party in Linz and ran into a girl in a kitchen,” won’t suffice. Emotional histories fascinate us; the question is asking for a rich narrative. It’s a disguise for this: “What led you to fall for her?” ♦◊♦ I Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #46

    Inspirational Quotes Believe you can and you're halfway there." - Theodore Roosevelt "Mistakes are proof that you are trying." - Unknown “If we could look into each other’s hearts & understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance and care.” – Marvin J Ashton “Children are human beings to whom respect is due, superior to us by reason of their innocence & of greater possibilities Read more [...]

Finances and Divorce

    Every bureaucratic element of divorce has it’s sticky points, but I think working out a fair division of your joint finances is probably the worst, unless you have children that is, then it’s a whole new ball of wax. If you are in the midst of a relatively amicable separation / divorce and are planning to negotiate the financial agreement nicely, that’s amazing and all well and good. You won’t incur huge court costs or legal bills for solicitors who will be more than happy Read more [...]