Enjoy Holidays after Divorce

  Enjoy Holidays after Divorce Spending holidays after divorce may not be the most pleasant thing – wrong! Holidays after getting divorced could be the most freeing and rejuvenating experience. There is no reason to worry. With the holiday season around the corner, here are a few tips that could prove to be more than helpful during this season. • If you are worried about being alone during the holidays, there is only one recourse – Keep busy! If you don’t have anyone to spend your Read more [...]

Okay, Ladies, Woman Up…Father’s Day is Coming!

  By Gretchen Schiller Last year on Father’s Day it had been a year since Charles and my divorce. It took me awhile to come up with a gift idea that Ana Lu could make for him. This is perfect for single moms on a budget who are trying to think of a thoughtful gift. Really, for all of us busy moms and consequently last minute shoppers. It has sat on the shelf in his house ever since. Only 15 bucks, easy peasy and he loves it…     • Go the the store and buy a window Read more [...]

Oops, I Acted Like an Idiot

  By Gretchen Schiller Poised for a Fight Ana Lu and I walked up the stone pathway to the house. Charles greeted us at the door and invited both of us inside, knowing I needed to pick up a box that was in the garage. The first thing I noticed upon entering was that Ana Lu’s little desk had moved again. I made a bee-line for it. Picked it up and moved it back to its original place in the corner.                                                 Read more [...]

I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar? (I Need a Man!)

    by Gretchen Schiller   I am woman, hear me roar… “I NEED A MAN!” No shit, right? I was just as horrified as you were when that echoed through my mind. But it did. So here I am throwing it out there in case you Pretty Mamas have felt the same on occasion. In Helen Reddy’s infamous song, “I Am Woman,” we can all agree that the context of her lyrics preached the opposite; women do not need men.       Here’s the deal. I’m tired of the conviction, Read more [...]

Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Communication With Ease (even with your ex)!

  Have you ever asked yourself these questions concerning your ex, children, co-workers or even your boss? - Why did you do that? - What were you thinking? Trying to understand another person's behavior can be very stressful and frustrating.  The first step to help you deal with your frustration is to remember that everyone is unique. We all see the world from a different perspective. With that being said, would it be fair to say that if I understand you and you understand me, chances are Read more [...]

S.O.S. Chili – Failproof Spring Cleaning in Less Than 20 Minutes!

  By Gretchen Schiller “This chili is fantastic!” The Trader Joe’s employee eagerly agrees and gets his spiel underway, “And it’s low-fat, cheap and has lots of protein!” He had me at low-fat. The six cans of chili for only $5 dollars didn’t hurt his pitch either. I enthusiastically pile six cans into my cart. Well, stamp “SUCKER!” on my forehead and call it a day. Can’t wait to get home and enjoy my new favorite Turkey Chili for dinner! An hour later. Dinnertime. Huh. Read more [...]

Try this Today: Secret Wink

By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Secret Wink. A secret sign between you and your munchkin. Over a year ago… “Ya know, Sweetie, I was thinkin’ about it Read more [...]