Keeping Your Children Out of the Icky Side of Divorce

  Here are a few bits of advice for keeping your children out of the icky side of divorce regardless of how long it has been since you separated or divorced.   1. When spending time with your child, don't speak negatively about your former spouse. 2. Do not argue with your ex in your child's presence, and especially avoid arguing when talking about the child. 3. Make sure you always arrive for visitations on time consistently so as not to offer any ammo for your ex. 4. Avoid talking Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “It’s All About The Kids, “Stupid” – Parenting During Divorce”

              Originally aired April 24, 2012     Podcast: Play in new window | Download     How do we come up with the right parenting plan or how parenting time is shared?  In this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest Dr. Phil Stahl has insightful answers and thoughts on parenting.   Dr. Stahl is a practitioner, author, and teacher, specializing in high conflict families of divorce.  He is considered with Read more [...]

42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Eleven | Alis III

  42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Eleven | Alis III Warning some episodes have strong language!       Published on Nov 24, 2012 WritersImprovStudio From "we are totally happy" to "I don't know how happy I am" it takes less than three minutes. Seeing Felice so happily pregnant, makes Alis realize that she does not love Tomas as she said she does. She would never want to have another child with him - a shocking realization. 4 couples. 6 friends. 5 affairs. 1 intruder. Read more [...]

The Story Begins Mamma Bear Plus 6

          It has been a year and it is still difficult to share this story with anyone outside my small circle of close friends & family. I will be very discriminating on details, not sure there will ever be an acceptable amount of time between then and the present that will make me want to dig up and share those deep ugly mental images. It is not something that I thought I would ever want to talk about or share with anyone, but it is amazing what can be accomplished Read more [...]

Splitting Matrimonial Assets is One Thing, Splitting the Business is Another

      If you ran a business with your ex, splitting the house and matrimonial assets is one thing, splitting the business is quite another. Even the most straightforward of businesses will be complicated enough to divide and it may be prudent to speak to an accountant in the very early stages to assess where you are and how they best recommend the hammer to fall. Once this has been established, the solicitors will have to draw up agreements to reflect your decisions but of course, Read more [...]

Set Aside Your Immediate Stresses

If you are in the thick of it all right now with no immediate end in sight, forget solutions, try temporarily uplifting alternatives instead.   Set Aside Your Immediate Stresses for a bit. Plan a rib-tickling night out with friends to watch a comedic play or a toe-tapping musical at a local theatre. If you’re feeling like travelling up to The Big Smoke, catch some professional stand-up at a Comedy Store or something similar. Setting aside your immediate stresses, even if only for a little Read more [...]

Be the Bigger Person in the Room

      Immediately after the Big Red Button has been pushed (by you or them) try hard not to engage in any unnecessary emotionally loaded banter with newly titled ex, if your goal is to discuss important details. Be the Bigger Person in the Room. To be honest, it’s likely to be so highly charged, you are unlikely to get a great deal sensibly debated or organized. It’s unfortunate when intricate, relationship-laced conversations descend into a verbal brawl, as they are generally Read more [...]

42 Seconds of Happiness | Chapter Sixteen | Peter and the Lives of the Others

    Warning some episodes have strong language!       Published on Dec 29, 2012 WritersImprovStudio   'You'd think that when love ends, that it could just end, and it wouldn't have to be so bitter and complicated.' Alis asks for Peter's help, Peter offers Tomas his help, Tomas wants everybody to get out of his life. A couple has common friends. One day they separate. What happens to their friends? Will they take sides, will they get involved, will they even Read more [...]

Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down

      During my healing process too often I find myself sad, tense, worried, or just plain filled with the bad wave of healing. I don’t enjoy feeling that way at all.  Need Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down.  Here are some of my personally tested tricks to pull me out of that sad place and back to the positive waves of healing. 1. Look around you, “It could be worse.” You may be sad that you are alone but think about the person that is alone and homeless. Read more [...]

Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]