Three Types of Tears

Crying is a very common pastime when you are clenched in the wiry grip of divorce but did you realise that there are three types of tears. Firstly there are basal, which lubricate the eye keeping it clear of dust. It’s a fluid not dissimilar to blood plasma. There are also reflex tears which come to wash out irritants like onion juice, they are also linked with coughing, vomiting and yawning. The third type are emotional tears, more often provoked by sadness and stress but also from being enormously Read more [...]

NOBODY WINS THIS ARGUMENT

        When feeling really really really unhappy with circumstances as they are, we want change…we want improvement…and we want it NOW!  RIGHT NOW!!! …and that makes perfect sense…who wants to sit in the middle of a situation that is so dissatisfying…so painful…so disappointing…so NOT the way we want things to be, without wishing it to be different????? Here’s the thing, though…When we argue with this moment…when we fight what is, we’re just spinning Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #43

Inspirational Quotes “Smile when you hurt. Laugh when you want to cry. Have faith in yourself when nothing seems right. Believe in your heart. Trust that even though its hard now. In the end you'll be okay.” ~lou ♥ “Sometimes the person that has always been there for everyone else needs someone to be there for them.” - FRCBS Probably the wisest words that were ever uttered to me came from a therapist.  I was sitting in her office, crying my eyes out… and she said, so let me get this Read more [...]

Lighter Side Quotes #9

Lighter Side Quotes "Free Smiles! Free hugs! Prayers Free Too!" - Unknown “Stop crying about being a doormat and get the hell off the floor.” - Rottenecards "Chivalry isn’t dead; it just followed wherever being lady-like went." - Donna Messer "An apple a day will keep anyone away, if thrown hard enough." - Bad Idea T Shirts "Be Happy! Be who you want to be. If others don’t like it let them be. Happiness is a choice and life isn’t about pleasing everybody!" - Unknown “Tip for the ladies: Read more [...]

How To Handle Disappointment

  Are you one of those lucky sorts who always gets exactly what they want all the time, without fail? That’s you, right? No, I know you're not. And do you know how I know you’re not? Because those people do not exist, so you can stop hating them. Oh, you may think they exist when you see people who seem to have it all but, do you know what? They really don’t, they have their failures like the rest of us, but they just get up, dust themselves off and make the best Read more [...]

Sign Posts on the Journey Part I

    The following is an excerpt from a chapter in "The Dogs of Luck" by William Kenly. It describes the evolution of psychological and spiritual thoughts following my train wreck of a divorce after 24 years.   Boris Akunin has written almost a dozen mysteries set in a rural village in Russia in the late 1800’s. The hero is a slightly bumbling junior bureaucrat who has a stutter, a knack for clever disguises, and a systematically analytical mind. He finds himself in a position Read more [...]

Use a Breakup as a Comeback

    I was not the type of person who dealt well with rejection. My divorce was very hard for me. I am the person that was a social butterfly before there was a name for it but internally I am very sensitive which can be a recipe for disaster when attempting to express myself.  Many people have shared with me their number one emotion is anger.   They will go so far as to swear off their ex’s existence and decide not to deal with them. Not even looking at them if would accidentally Read more [...]

How to Get Over Your Ex

    There is not anything worse than ending a relationship, and after the relationship ends, it can take a while to get over. There is research that shows it takes exactly half as long as you have been with someone to get over them. This may or may not be true but you can do a few things to speed the process along. These are just a few tips to make the burn feel a little cooler. Don’t rebound though, I know you feel like a new flame will make the hurt go away, but it will just place Read more [...]

God Heals All Wounds

Time does not heal all wounds, but God does... So never lose hope... Sometimes you may think of giving up, but as long as our heart beats there is no such thing as never, and although things may not turn out exactly how we want them we must keep trying, and learn to make the best of what we have. Don’t wake me up, don’t you see I am dreaming of a place where I will never let go of your hand… When things get too hard, close your eyes and dream, dream of what you want to happen, and when you Read more [...]

VISION (have one!)

    …and why do we need a vision?  BECAUSE a vision is about looking forward…looking up …a vision is about creating a bigger, better, brighter future in our mind’s eye…  …AND we need a vision BECAUSE do we really really really want to keep looking back over our shoulder…sighing and crying in our pillow over what might have been…what should have been…???  …really???...  Well…if so, isn’t that choosing to remain unhappy?  And we want to make that choice…because……………………..?????  We Read more [...]