Life after Abuse: Talk Yourself Out of Verbal Abuse

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   “The language we use to communicate with one another is like a knife. In the hands of a careful and skilled surgeon, a knife can work to do great good. But in the hands of a careless or ignorant person, a knife can cause great harm.”   This quote, which is written by an anonymous author, best sums up what Read more [...]

Infidelity and Dealing with Reasonable, Emotional and Wise Mind States

The emotions felt by the hurt partner immediately after finding out about an affair are simply overwhelming There are emotional stages of processing an affair and they similar to those dealing with death of a loved one. You have lost something you cherished and even if the relationship is saved it will never be the same. The difference in death and infidelity is when a person died they did not choose to leave you but in the case of infidelity they did choose to leave you. Accepting you were second Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “The Family Support Expo Offers the Upside to Divorce”

          Podcast: Play in new window | Download The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch welcomes our guest Stephen Rosenfield http://familysupportexpo.com and http://rosenfieldmediation.com. Stephen is using his work as a Mediator and making a distinction – with his mediation training and the launch of The Family Support Expo in Toronto, Canada on October 20/21, 2012.   Stephen Rosenfield Whether it is a health issue, or a transitional issue, these considerations are often branded within society. We have learned to hide our difficulties to avoid rejection and scorn. But hiding our problems only makes them worse. Read more [...]

Recommendation for Grieving During your Healing Process

    Allow yourself to grieve for the loss of the relationship.  It is a death of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled and in many cases the person at one time was your best friend. Despair is a natural reaction to loss, and the break up or divorce of a love relationship involves several losses: The loss of someone to share your life with and have companionship and shared encounters. The loss of someone to help, be it financial, intellectual, social, or emotional  The loss Read more [...]

Timetabling a Divorce is Tricky

    Chartered psychologist Felix Economakis famously said “The end of a relationship has a number of stages, similar to those of grief, namely denial, anger, bargaining, depression then acceptance.”  Timetabling a divorce is tricky why do so many try to do it? I might contend the order of a couple of them, but essentially I’d say he was right on the money. I would also add how lovely it would be if you could add ‘relief’ to the end of the list; oh, if only life were that Read more [...]

New Study Confirms: Male Depression Is Hard To Acknowledge

By Noah Brand  editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project People don’t want to see male depression, even when they have it, says Dr. Viren Swami’s research. An interesting new study from the University of Westminster seems to confirm what depression sufferers and mental health advocates have been saying for some time: when major depression occurs in men as opposed to women, both the depressed man and those around him are less likely to recognize the problem. This presents a serious obstacle to Read more [...]

You Are Not A Loser

By Noah Brand Seriously, you’re not a loser. Noah Brand explains why. As boys, we get told that there are winners and losers in this world, and it’s important to make sure you’re a winner. As men, we discover that that’s impossible. There’s always some metric by which we’re inadequate, always some ideal we’ve failed to meet. And so the labels of “loser” and “failure” creep in, become the nouns we define ourselves by. Inevitably, once those words become nouns, they begin poisoning Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #27

Inspirational Quotes "People will always have their opinions of you despite who you are and what you are capable of. So always be true to yourself, your opinion of yourself is all that matters!" - Unknown “Eventually soul mates meet, for they have the same hiding place.” – Robert Brault “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” – Dr. Martin Luther King “There is no I am right and you are wrong. There is only your truth and my truth.” – Kellie Kuecha Read more [...]

Moving On From Divorce

  The  moment has  happened: you and your spouse are divorced. It can be easy to ask yourself "what did I do wrong", but that kind of thinking hinders the process of coping with divorce depression. This time in your life is one of the most stressful events to ever occur in anyone's life, and there's no need to add to it with self-doubt and blaming. Without moving on from divorce, you can suffer from chronic health problems, such as heart disease and diabetes. Your marriage may be over, Read more [...]

Genetic Despair: Depression and Me

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of The Good Men Project   Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.   This is the fourth in a series of essays on depression by some of the Good Men Project’s most valued voices. The first three parts are here, here, and here.   One cold morning in the early 1930s a Kansas farmer waded out into the middle of a creek on his property, put a gun to his head, and killed himself. He left behind a family, including a teenage boy who I Read more [...]