Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]

Emotional Aftermath to Mop Up

  As if a feisty divorce wasn’t enough to cope with, all too often there is emotional aftermath to mop up as well. It might be yours, or one of your children's, it might even belong to a close confidant who has supported you through your divorce.   Manifestations of post-divorce angst might rise in the form of depression or a silent retreat, it might be anger-filled resentment, and it could even be a complete slip off the rails with a meltdown thrown in.   Whatever form it Read more [...]

Late Night Call May be Reaching Out for Help or Something Else

      There are few topics I’m reticent to dip into because of the enormity of them. This is one such and if this tip is relevant to you, please seek further advice and assistance, it is not something you need to deal with on your own. The divorce is over and you get a late night call from your ex saying, “I can’t live without you. You can’t do this to me, I’ll kill myself.” Where on earth do you go from here? Threatened self-harm or suicide is indeed a cry for Read more [...]

If They Show You Attention DOES NOT Mean….

    The first person that shows you attention may not be the right person for you! Many people find themselves going through a string of unhealthy relationships, which are not fulfilling. This happens very often because after a divorce it is very common; to feel starved for attention and become attached to the first person who shows them attention. Just a simple touch or smile when someone has not received one for months or years may be mistaken for a potential relationship. Unfortunately, Read more [...]

The 5 Stages of Grief

  Definition: The 5 Stages of Grief - Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and Acceptance - were first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to describe a process which many people go through when dealing with a significant tragedy or loss. Description: The 5 Stages of Grief are: Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance With divorce in a way, we face a death - death of the dream of our future home and the expectation of being loved the way we deserve by the one we thought was Read more [...]

Writing Your Way Out of the Darkness

    Depression hits one in four of us here in the UK and life altering events like divorce often sit at the heart of the cause. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and it’s very treatable. Solutions to combat it can be found in medication, counseling, alternative therapies like meditation and acupuncture amongst many others. Writing your way out of the darkness can also be incredibly powerful and if you are ready to put some of your thoughts on paper, the ‘Diary of Divorce’ might Read more [...]

Stages of Healing from Abuse and Trauma

The journey to healing and recovery from abuse is long, sometimes painful, and VERY challenging. The journey is different for every victim/survivor. However, we each go through similar emotions manifested from our pain and confusion. The following lists the stages/emotional patterns in our healing process. As we heal, we oscillate between all of these. So don't worry if you keep revisiting "anger" or "bargaining." It happens. It's how our mind process the trauma and helps us heal. DENIAL Shock Read more [...]

Coping With Life After Divorce

It’s never easy to cope with life or face the repercussions of a broken marriage or a breakup of a long term relationship. Whatever may be the reason of your split and whether you wanted the break up or not doesn’t really matter much! The unwavering truth is that a divorce can knock the wind away from your sails, trigger all types of unsettling and painful feelings and turn your entire world upside down. Realizing that you are all alone to deal with crucial issues such as children, career Read more [...]

Reach Out – “Does It Get Any Better With Time?”

    Reach Out “Does It Get Any Better With Time?”   Member Requesting Input "I only started divorce proceedings against my abusive husband yesterday, I had to go through everything, and does the pain of going through the process get easier?"   Member Response 1 Way to go 🙂 It takes courage and strength to make a big life change. It is ok to get some professional help as you go thru. I am in counseling now to help me with the stress, depression, and all of the other Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #14

"Remember life is short, break the rules, forgive quickly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile!" - James  Dean “When you don't know what direction to go, use the needle of your compass to sew up your broken heart!”  - Facebook page Broken by Depression “Making someone laugh when they’re feeling down is one of the best feelings in the world.” - Lifequotesru.net “Keep the faith.  The most amazing things in life tend to happen right at the moment you’re Read more [...]