Inspirational Quotes #27

Inspirational Quotes "People will always have their opinions of you despite who you are and what you are capable of. So always be true to yourself, your opinion of yourself is all that matters!" - Unknown “Eventually soul mates meet, for they have the same hiding place.” – Robert Brault “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” – Dr. Martin Luther King “There is no I am right and you are wrong. There is only your truth and my truth.” – Kellie Kuecha Read more [...]

Moving On From Divorce

  The  moment has  happened: you and your spouse are divorced. It can be easy to ask yourself "what did I do wrong", but that kind of thinking hinders the process of coping with divorce depression. This time in your life is one of the most stressful events to ever occur in anyone's life, and there's no need to add to it with self-doubt and blaming. Without moving on from divorce, you can suffer from chronic health problems, such as heart disease and diabetes. Your marriage may be over, Read more [...]

Genetic Despair: Depression and Me

  By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of The Good Men Project   Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.   This is the fourth in a series of essays on depression by some of the Good Men Project’s most valued voices. The first three parts are here, here, and here.   One cold morning in the early 1930s a Kansas farmer waded out into the middle of a creek on his property, put a gun to his head, and killed himself. He left behind a family, including a teenage boy who I Read more [...]

Splitting Matrimonial Assets is One Thing, Splitting the Business is Another

      If you ran a business with your ex, splitting the house and matrimonial assets is one thing, splitting the business is quite another. Even the most straightforward of businesses will be complicated enough to divide and it may be prudent to speak to an accountant in the very early stages to assess where you are and how they best recommend the hammer to fall. Once this has been established, the solicitors will have to draw up agreements to reflect your decisions but of course, Read more [...]

Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]

Emotional Aftermath to Mop Up

  As if a feisty divorce wasn’t enough to cope with, all too often there is emotional aftermath to mop up as well. It might be yours, or one of your children's, it might even belong to a close confidant who has supported you through your divorce.   Manifestations of post-divorce angst might rise in the form of depression or a silent retreat, it might be anger-filled resentment, and it could even be a complete slip off the rails with a meltdown thrown in.   Whatever form it Read more [...]

Late Night Call May be Reaching Out for Help or Something Else

      There are few topics I’m reticent to dip into because of the enormity of them. This is one such and if this tip is relevant to you, please seek further advice and assistance, it is not something you need to deal with on your own. The divorce is over and you get a late night call from your ex saying, “I can’t live without you. You can’t do this to me, I’ll kill myself.” Where on earth do you go from here? Threatened self-harm or suicide is indeed a cry for Read more [...]

If They Show You Attention DOES NOT Mean….

    The first person that shows you attention may not be the right person for you! Many people find themselves going through a string of unhealthy relationships, which are not fulfilling. This happens very often because after a divorce it is very common; to feel starved for attention and become attached to the first person who shows them attention. Just a simple touch or smile when someone has not received one for months or years may be mistaken for a potential relationship. Unfortunately, Read more [...]

The 5 Stages of Grief

  Definition: The 5 Stages of Grief - Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression and Acceptance - were first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to describe a process which many people go through when dealing with a significant tragedy or loss. Description: The 5 Stages of Grief are: Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance With divorce in a way, we face a death - death of the dream of our future home and the expectation of being loved the way we deserve by the one we thought was Read more [...]

Writing Your Way Out of the Darkness

    Depression hits one in four of us here in the UK and life altering events like divorce often sit at the heart of the cause. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and it’s very treatable. Solutions to combat it can be found in medication, counseling, alternative therapies like meditation and acupuncture amongst many others. Writing your way out of the darkness can also be incredibly powerful and if you are ready to put some of your thoughts on paper, the ‘Diary of Divorce’ might Read more [...]