Oops, I Acted Like an Idiot

  By Gretchen Schiller Poised for a Fight Ana Lu and I walked up the stone pathway to the house. Charles greeted us at the door and invited both of us inside, knowing I needed to pick up a box that was in the garage. The first thing I noticed upon entering was that Ana Lu’s little desk had moved again. I made a bee-line for it. Picked it up and moved it back to its original place in the corner.                                                 Read more [...]

Try this Today: Secret Wink

By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Secret Wink. A secret sign between you and your munchkin. Over a year ago… “Ya know, Sweetie, I was thinkin’ about it Read more [...]

Okay, Ladies, Woman Up…Father’s Day is Coming!

  By Gretchen Schiller Last year on Father’s Day it had been a year since Charles and my divorce. It took me awhile to come up with a gift idea that Ana Lu could make for him. This is perfect for single moms on a budget who are trying to think of a thoughtful gift. Really, for all of us busy moms and consequently last minute shoppers. It has sat on the shelf in his house ever since. Only 15 bucks, easy peasy and he loves it…     • Go the the store and buy a window Read more [...]

The Peaceful Pretzels

    By Gretchen Schiller “POUNDER of MINI PRETZELS!” The over-sized bag screams at me while I hurry down the chip aisle in the supermarket. Ugh, nothing smaller? I scan the other bags of pretzels, to the right, to the left, and see that half of them scream “POUNDER!” and the other half with a more modest label – “16oz” – for the same ginormous bag of pretzels. This is far too many pretzels for just Ana Lu and me. Yet Ana Lu likes to have a few pretzels in her lunchbox Read more [...]

Try this Today: Daily Notes While out of Town

    By Gretchen Schiller This “Try this Today” tip is from when I went out of town for a Writer’s Conference. I did not plan on sharing the daily notes I wrote for Ana Lu because, well, quite frankly, because I didn’t think of it. So I’m going to throw my “artistic license” card on the table, confess that I deviated from grammar, etc. and trust that you all won’t be a bunch o’ haters while reading my messy-mommy-notes. Because although I didn’t plan on sharing them, Read more [...]

Custody Calendar for Your Child

    By Gretchen Schiller Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Custody Calendar for Your Child Adult children of divorced parents shared that one of the greatest challenges Read more [...]

Did You See a Ghost Too? Divorce is a Marriage That Has Sadly Died.

By Gretchen Schiller Despite Life-Saving Measures After all logistical matters of divorce are settled: separate homes, bank accounts, phone bills and papers signed, then… silence. Similar to weeks spent organizing a funeral for the death of a loved one, busily contacting family and friends, choosing a date for a memorial service, finding a funeral home, writing an obituary, then… silence. We grieve the loss of our loved one that passed away; we ache for them and forever feel the void Read more [...]

Try This Today Series: Don’t Ditch the Photographs!

    By Gretchen Schiller | Feb 27, 2013 | Try This Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making the daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce to seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. Photographs Our immediate instinct after divorce is to remove all of the photos of our ex-husbands Read more [...]

Wedding Bands

      Sue decided it was time to get a concealed handguns license. She had the rifle that her father taught her to shoot with, but did not have a handgun. A good friend of her father is the gunsmith in the next town over, and the economy being the way it is, she didn’t have the money to buy a gun. The divorce had been over for a few years, but she had never gotten around to getting rid of the wedding rings that were in her jewelry box. Her dad asked his friend if he could put Read more [...]

After a Divorce History Sometimes Changes

    Just like everyone else, my ex-husband has his view of our past, and I have mine. They are probably two totally different memories. After a Divorce History Sometimes Changes.  I’m sure his new significant other doesn’t really know the type of person I am. This became evident to me the first time I met her. I moved out of state about a year earlier. My daughter and my two grandchildren moved with me while my two sons and grandson stayed close to my ex-husband. All of my children Read more [...]