Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down

      During my healing process too often I find myself sad, tense, worried, or just plain filled with the bad wave of healing. I don’t enjoy feeling that way at all.  Need Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down.  Here are some of my personally tested tricks to pull me out of that sad place and back to the positive waves of healing. 1. Look around you, “It could be worse.” You may be sad that you are alone but think about the person that is alone and homeless. Read more [...]

Taking Out Your Frustrations in the Water

        If you are struggling to cope with the general angst and belly ache of divorce, consider taking out your frustrations in the water. Your local swimming pool is a fabulous place to wash that person right out of your hair and to do something calm, healthy and meditative too. A good handful of simple lengths done at a gentle pace can be incredibly satisfying, particularly when you don’t set yourself a time goal. Let’s face it, there are enough other deadlines Read more [...]

Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

Be Patient, Love and Above all be You

      Be Patient, Love and Above all be You In an ideal world, all relationships would thrive, we’d procreate the optimum 2.2 children and alongside them, rear uber-obedient companion dogs that the children would walk every day after they’d done homework and a handful of chores. The children would grow well, flourish in their educative years and contribute to their local communities via the voluntary sector and as a nuclear unit you’d watch reruns of the Walton’s on Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Numbness

  There is gonna be  times where you are gonna feel numbness within yourself ,  I know I do at times and lately I have been feeling that way a lot.. I struggle lately with the daily routine and all the changes I have had to go through this last year.. But there is one thing I  know is that I have learned so much about myself and I have also learned a lot about other's. I maybe dealing with some individual  issue's right now, like working at a job that I don't enjoy ,because of the negative Read more [...]

“Fifty Shades of Gray and More”

        “Fifty Shades of Gray and More" Originally aired April 27, 2012   Podcast: Play in new window | Download   Joanie, Lesley and Steve are back together on Single Again! Now What?  They kick off the show celebrating Joanie’s birthday and then take on the topic of the Top Five Men’s and Woman’s Needs in a Relationship. Our trio then discusses the book, Fifty Shades of Gray.   Toward the end of the show, Joanie offers a FREE personality Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Seek Out your Friends

      Seek Out your Friends   If your ex was a control freak and trapped in a mental box, you can be sure that even after the divorce, they’ll chance their arm again and try to regain the control they (thought they) had. If you’ve broken away from that relationship and are now back on your feet, that’s where you need to stay. With enormous bravery you removed yourself from that oppressive situation and you do not need to revisit the horror or hurt ever again. It may Read more [...]

Give Your Home a Make-Over

      If you’re living in the property you shared with your ex, you might like to consider making a few changes.  Give Your Home a Make-Over! In previous tips we’ve extolled the virtues of how much better you’ll feel by changing a few items in your wardrobe, particularly night attire and underwear and in the lounge, how fresh new cushion covers can help make a difference too. However, if you really don’t want them crossing your threshold unless invited, you might like Read more [...]