No Magic Recipe for a Fast Fix

    Stress-busting can become an occupational hazard while you tread water through and after a turbulent divorce.   It can easily blow up and manifest into physical symptoms that leave you feeling utterly depleted, void of all confidence and unable to focus on the here and now.   I wish I could give you a magic recipe for a fast fix, unfortunately I cannot, but I can tell you that things don’t have to play out as a foregone conclusion.   You might think that you Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Sunrise is Another day Closer

  Find out what time the sun rises on TimeAndDate.com (http://www.timeanddate.com), pack some eye protection and plan a trip out to a local viewpoint to watch the start of a brand new day. Sunrise happens surprisingly quickly and if you've never taken the time to observe it before you might be surprised to see how speedily the Sun lifts from the horizon. At times,  it may felt as though your divorce moved like slow flowing lava, but take solace in the fact that YOU ARE “that Sun rising.” Read more [...]

What to do With Things They Left Behind???

    If you have a garden shed full of your ex-partners tools and DIY equipment and they have no interest in removing them, it’s worth exploring the less painful routes to ridding yourself of them and ceasing those constant, niggling reminders. Whatever you do, don't throw the items out with the rubbish! ... A little bit of internet research will uncover several charities who would benefit enormously from your generosity and would be delighted to take them off of your hands. Read more [...]

How to Help Kids Cope with Divorce

    A divorce is not only stressful for the parents but also for the kids involved. Children are bound to feel confusing and sad, and if it’s a bitter divorce then it becomes even more stressful for the kids to deal with it. Since, they do not have the emotional maturity to understand the gravity of the situation, there is a possibility that they might even get scarred for life. Therefore, as responsible parents it is your duty to make your divorce less painful especially if there Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – You are Worthy of Patience and Self-Love

Learn to love every inch of you, including any wrinkly, saggy, old, achy or well-worn bits. Collectively, they go to make up the whole that is you and you deserve love in the highest degree. This best starts with recalibrating the view we have of ourselves and loving who we are. Invest in a long, hot relaxing bath with some of your favorite aromatherapy oils in the water, lavender and rose geranium are soothing and healing. Add a little music and gentle lighting and wash your body slowly, don’t Read more [...]

Keep the Thoughts in Your Head

  If you reach the point where you wish your ex were dead, you really need to step back from the plate and find some clarity and sense in the layers of that morbid thought.   There’s thinking it, there’s saying it out loud to yourself, there’s telling someone else and there’s telling the ex.   The elevation from the primary to the latter is quite a jump and the last two might get you into all sorts of trouble if, by some incredible twist of fate, they met an untimely end.   Yelling, Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Talk to You Doctor

      Adrenaline is a naturally occurring chemical event in your body, which you have limited control over. It often kicks in when your body is in a fight or flight situation and can occur when you feel most vulnerable. A rush of it can result in your legs going physically wobbly, your hands shaking and voice quavering. Don’t worry, it can be calmed and rectified with medication from your doctor, and it’s worth making an appointment to speak to them to discuss it. It may Read more [...]

Change is NOT Allowed – Enjoy Dating

    Be yourself and don’t be with someone that you want to “change!” Unfortunately, many believe they ought to concentrate on the good aspects of your potential partner and overlook the tiny problems which are not compatible. Many take this a step further and do not communicate to the new partner issues that they're feeling. The notion of picking your battles is definitely an important part of the way you approach conflict in marriage because there will almost always be some Read more [...]

Divorced? Survive and Thrive After Divorce Boot Camp for Men and Women

Divorced? Survive and Thrive After Divorce Boot Camp for Men and Women As a Divorce Mentor and CEO of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children, I hear many of the following questions from my clients after divorce... "Now what?, Will I ever get my life back?, Will I ever be happy again?". Unfortunately, there isn't a step-by-step manual to answer these questions and to help you get back on track after your divorce. We can only wish. Wish no more. That's why as a corporate trainer Read more [...]

Your Estate, Chattel and Children

     Recently, I've covered some pretty grounding topics, namely death, your estate, children and money; today it’s time to blend these in the same tip. The time period between splitting up and getting the ball-of-divorce rolling can be a little grey in respect of your worth following an untimely demise, despite the fact that you might think once you’re living independently from your ex, what’s yours really is yours. If you have children, it is unsurprisingly layered in even more Read more [...]