Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community

  I posted my Talk given to the Better than Ever After Divorce Community before, but learned the link did not work.  As such I got a copy of the mp3 from the organization that hosted the talk and I up loaded directly to the site and undated the post. This is a recording of a talk I was asked to give to an international audience for Better than Ever After Divorce.  Dee Adio-Moses asked me to talk on the topic after interviewing me about my book on her radio show.  Some of the topics Read more [...]

A Success Story: – Infidelity – I Didn’t Let His Affair Destroy Me

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.” ― Katherine Owen, Not To Us About two years ago, I thought my life was falling apart. After the death of one of my parents, I found out my husband was having an affair and he walked out on my son and me at the weakest moment in my life. I sat in my house with my son who was a toddler, and didn’t understand what I did to deserve to lose my father and the Read more [...]

Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

Two Wild Dogs Fighting and Title of My Books…

      People often ask me where the titles of the three "Dogs" books comes from, and I tell them that a few weeks after I was served with papers by the sheriff, a close friend of mine, someone who had gone through his own train-wreck of a divorce, handed me this story, and It became a guiding light for me, even after the divorce times were behind me. "The old Indian chief was teaching wisdom to his young grandson as they sat together on the mesa beneath the starry night sky. He explained Read more [...]

Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Emotional & Sexual Building Blocks”

      Originally aired June 27, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman continues her “Building Blocks” series. Learning to reclaim passion and self esteem builds up emotional growth. Today we deal with Guilt Rejection, Grief and Anger and we consider whom it may be worse for, the leavor or the leavee? Juliana helps us know what everyone may be feeling.   For more on Juliana Neiman, visit: www.JulianaNeiman.com         We Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Watch Your Spending

  Don’t whack your credit card with a huge spend as you indulge consumer-based relief to alleviate your pain. Watch finances and your spending! It’ll probably because you have more stress than you have the ability to cope with.  The buzz you get from making the purchase will be short lived, and yes, you really do release excited endorphins when you buy stuff. It’s more likely that you’re seeking a few simple changes to your immediate surroundings. Why not visit the charity shops Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

Purchasing Habits Must Be Controled

  It is all too easy to slip back into the purchasing habits that you were used to, pre-divorce. If your ex was the major earner in your relationship and you aren’t receiving a great deal of financial support from them, you will have to set an urgent post-divorce budget to live by.   Credit and store cards will make temporarily uplifting but unnecessary purchases horribly accessible but you must remember, you will have to pick the bill up at some point; your ex may have been the Read more [...]

Civil Partnership

  Even though same sex ‘marriages’ are not recognized in the UK - yet - civil partnerships can fall foul to the same fate as heterosexual marriages; failure. If you are a in a civil partnership, you do have the same entitlement when it comes to property rights, pension benefits and inheritance tax exemptions and if you have children, you can obtain parental responsibility for your partner’s children. In much the same way as a marriage, the process for the legal dissolution of your Read more [...]