Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Light Some Candles

The early evening can be one of the most troublesome periods of the day. The circumstances are perfect for letting a ripe imagination run away with itself, but you’d do better devoting energy to recharging your batteries at the end of a volatile day. Lighting a few tea light candles can mark the passage into the evening with a bit more serenity and calm. They are often used in churches and people are encouraged to light them for loved ones who have passed away or are ill. If you’re in a good Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Is Your Ex a Narcissist or Just an Asshole?”

Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Is Your Ex a Narcissist or Just an Asshole?” Originally aired April 26, 2012 Podcast: Play in new window | Download             In the revised DMS-Five edition, narcissism will no longer be considered a mental disorder as it has been in the past.  With this removal this question comes to mind, “If my ex isn’t a certifiable narcissist, is he/she just an asshole?”     Dr. Banschick breaks down the facts and explain narcissism as we once knew Read more [...]

Enjoy Holidays after Divorce

  Enjoy Holidays after Divorce Spending holidays after divorce may not be the most pleasant thing – wrong! Holidays after getting divorced could be the most freeing and rejuvenating experience. There is no reason to worry. With the holiday season around the corner, here are a few tips that could prove to be more than helpful during this season. • If you are worried about being alone during the holidays, there is only one recourse – Keep busy! If you don’t have anyone to spend your Read more [...]

Overwhelming Feelings of Sadness and Failure

  If you are wallowing in overwhelming feelings of sadness and failure in respect of your divorce, it will undoubtedly have affected your entire disposition. Let me take the liberty of reminding you that you are not a failure at all, these things happen, divorce is a pathway walked by close to 50% of the American and UK married population; they aren’t failures either, they are just regular Joe's and Josephine's like you and I. It might not feel like it right now, but you are so much more Read more [...]

Divorce is a Very Powerful Word

        Accept the fact that divorce has the ability to completely liberate you and debilitate you too. Divorce is a Very Powerful Word It's a very powerful word and state of mind and its energy should not be underestimated. Treat the entire divorce process with the utmost respect and do all you can to learn from the experience. After the event, find time for some careful analysis. Digest the lessons, really learn from them, and build on them with a view to it never Read more [...]

Release Yourselves from the Blame and Guilt

        We go over it over and over again, finding all kinds of problems with ourselves.  “I wasn’t good enough,” “I did everything wrong and did not please them enough,”  “I should have loved them more,”  “The other person was better at loving them than me,” ..... but the fact remains that the relationship fell apart.  So we need to release ourselves from the blame and guilt.  Do this for yourself your ex did what they did for themselves.     Would Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode Alone for the Holidays

          Podcast: Play in new window | Download This show starts the ball rolling with irritation. Steve was trying to help Joanie go on to Google’s Hangout for our original video podcast. Joanie couldn’t seem to work things out on her end bringing back the irritation Steve used to have with his no-tech ex. After an hour, they trash the idea and go back to using Skype. Have you ever fought with a partner over computer dilemmas? Then you’ll relate to this episode. Tis the season to get ready for the holidays, and for some, the holiday season can Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Are You a Good Kisser?”

  Originally aired July 8, 2012     Podcast: Play in new window | Download The crazy trio is back- Lesley, Joanie and Steve. Today we ask, Are YOU a Good Kisser? We are thrilled you have joined us to take some time to let go, laugh, have fun, lighten up or may be just the right thing you need to hear at this time in your life. Check out some of the fun stuff we talked about today (warning- this is only the tip of the iceberg): Are you a good kisser? Steve salavates over this Read more [...]

Seek Out Divorce Recovery Groups or Workshops Near You

  For some, walking a solitary path to healing from a divorce, is the way forward. For others, sharing their experience and empathizing with others who are at sea in the same boat, is the way to go for their recovery. If you feel you belong in the boat, it might be worth seeking out divorce recovery groups or workshops near you; there are lots and they seem to be quite a growing trend. A quick search on the Internet will bring up Divorce Care (US) and Divorce Recovery Workshop (UK) - there Read more [...]

Moving On From Divorce

  The  moment has  happened: you and your spouse are divorced. It can be easy to ask yourself "what did I do wrong", but that kind of thinking hinders the process of coping with divorce depression. This time in your life is one of the most stressful events to ever occur in anyone's life, and there's no need to add to it with self-doubt and blaming. Without moving on from divorce, you can suffer from chronic health problems, such as heart disease and diabetes. Your marriage may be over, Read more [...]