The Internet, Your Ex and the Legal System

  Social media and various other mediums have now become a very acceptable form of evidence for court cases. Did you know that about 80% of attorneys use information from social networking sites as evidence in divorce cases and custody hearings? This area for fact finding has been growing at a tremendous rate for the past six years. Social media has made it much harder to keep information from your ex - they're able to find out everything you're doing. Even though, you think you have "hidden" Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – Healing is Like the Tide Going Out to Sea

    Image courtesy of EA / FreeDigitalPhotos.net   "Healing is like the tide going out to sea. You are floating along, and everything is going good. Then something happens, and it pushes you back toward the shore, and the pain. This happens over, and over but finally you do make it out to sea, and your new happy life. " - Tasher     Would you like to support DASNM?  If so, it is easy, visit our store and make a purchase or use this link  Amazon Purchases in support Read more [...]

If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived

  I have spent years counseling and watching the incredible struggle people find themselves in as the unexpected hits them in the form of a divorce. The loss of the dream they had when they committed to marrying is beyond words, yet very real. There is a knee- jerk reaction of going into denial and blame which includes them and yourself. Yet none of this will change what is going on. With time you will see If You Truly Heal There is an Amazing Life to be Lived!!   The breakdown of a Read more [...]

Silver Separation is on the Rise

    Splitting up in later years, or silver separation as it is more commonly known, seems to be a trend on the rise. Perhaps there’s a wave of modern, more self-assured and assertive souls who have realized their life does not have to roll to the bitter end, suffering in a bitter marriage. People who were super-busy ex-execs are often plunged into great periods with nothing to do, but collect their pension and spend it with their spouses. The trouble is, many realize they barely Read more [...]

Do We Embrace the Throw Away Attitude in Our Marriages?

            In the wake of a very high profile celebrity divorce case here in the UK, this morning I was asked to speak on a handful of mid-morning BBC radio stations on their case and the general topic of divorce and domestic abuse. I was asked several times whether people threw the towel in on their marriages quicker than had happened in the past. Prior to my research on the subject, I would have said that as a society (Western world anyway) we have embraced Read more [...]

Divorce Coping Tip of the Day – You Must Not Lay Blame for Their Actions on Your Shoulders

  We must take responsibility for our own actions and accept that we are not responsible for the behavior of others. Your ex walks their own path, just as you walk yours. You must not lay blame for their actions on your shoulders, even if you did leave them and, even if you didn't! Cut yourself some slack and understand this can be incredibly hard to do, particularly when they are behaving in a vile or out of character manner. We all have the power to curb negative responses to the actions Read more [...]

Finances and Divorce

    Every bureaucratic element of divorce has it’s sticky points, but I think working out a fair division of your joint finances is probably the worst, unless you have children that is, then it’s a whole new ball of wax. If you are in the midst of a relatively amicable separation / divorce and are planning to negotiate the financial agreement nicely, that’s amazing and all well and good. You won’t incur huge court costs or legal bills for solicitors who will be more than happy Read more [...]

Male Inspired Divorce Poetry will be Available Early 2014

  Male inspired divorce poetry will be available early 2014     All things being equal, the men's version of Poetry of Divorce should be available in the Spring of 2014.Poetry of Divorce is a collection of upbeat, stark, witty, gritty yet essentially encouraging poems, by Tracey West.Through her sharp and comedic pen, they outline everything from the uphill struggles, to the absolute adventures faced by many men, as they attempt to carve a coherent route through the most emotionally Read more [...]

Breaking a Few Eggs

    It’s almost impossible to make an omelet without breaking a few eggs and if you are just ending your relationship, you will almost certainly be feeling palpable trepidation for what has happened. If you believe you have did all you could to make things work and if you believe that you will be healthier, happier, calmer, safer or more, the other side of the relationship, then you have to trust your instinct and slowly and steadily, put one foot in front of the other and make it Read more [...]

The Anatomy of An Affair – Part 3

        Podcast: Play in new window | Download In this, the 3rd of our series, The Anatomy of an Affair, we focus on two phases of recovery. David Feder believes firmly that moving “from discovery to recovery” means much more than merely moving on and allowing time to pass. David says, “if you do that you are leaving the quality of your recovery and your life up to the Gods”. He asks, are you sure that is what you want to do? In this segment, we begin by having Read more [...]