Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down

      During my healing process too often I find myself sad, tense, worried, or just plain filled with the bad wave of healing. I don’t enjoy feeling that way at all.  Need Help Boost Your Mood When you Feel a Little Down.  Here are some of my personally tested tricks to pull me out of that sad place and back to the positive waves of healing. 1. Look around you, “It could be worse.” You may be sad that you are alone but think about the person that is alone and homeless. Read more [...]

A Success Story: – Infidelity – I Didn’t Let His Affair Destroy Me

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.” ― Katherine Owen, Not To Us About two years ago, I thought my life was falling apart. After the death of one of my parents, I found out my husband was having an affair and he walked out on my son and me at the weakest moment in my life. I sat in my house with my son who was a toddler, and didn’t understand what I did to deserve to lose my father and the Read more [...]

Try this Today: Enjoy the Same Moon

  By Gretchen Schiller  Try this Today Series. Everyday application for healthy co-parenting. In earlier posts, I mentioned how I’m working hard toward making a daily choice to try to strengthen the bond between Ana Lu and her dad instead of allowing the toxic poison from the divorce seep into her innocent life. So I’m going to try this today. Maybe you can too. *This also works well for married couples; a spouse on a business trip…a spouse working late…grandparents who live Read more [...]

FEELING STUCK?

    Feeling Stuck? Fresh out of ideas…can’t move forward…zero energy…all is blah… We feel stuck in the muck…can’t move…ugh! We may feel stuck…but the world…the universe…is in constant motion…and, even if we can’t feel it…we’re along for the ride and in motion too… This moment is not exactly like the moment before…the earth has rotated…ever so slightly…we’ve breathed a new breath…a new exchange of oxygen and carbon dioxide…a breeze ruffles the Read more [...]

Taking Out Your Frustrations in the Water

        If you are struggling to cope with the general angst and belly ache of divorce, consider taking out your frustrations in the water. Your local swimming pool is a fabulous place to wash that person right out of your hair and to do something calm, healthy and meditative too. A good handful of simple lengths done at a gentle pace can be incredibly satisfying, particularly when you don’t set yourself a time goal. Let’s face it, there are enough other deadlines Read more [...]

“ The Subtotal Of All I Am ”

    Multiply And divide me Gracefully subtract what’s still inside me Not before you add it up Even though you’ve had enough The subtotal of all I am Is equal to what you’ve become So equate this to true love and Multiply the sum           Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out  these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Few Poems From Words I Found In Divorced Spiritchilism By Definition This Has Everything To Do Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Emotional & Sexual Building Blocks”

      Originally aired June 27, 2012       Podcast: Play in new window | Download Sex Therapist, Juliana Neiman continues her “Building Blocks” series. Learning to reclaim passion and self esteem builds up emotional growth. Today we deal with Guilt Rejection, Grief and Anger and we consider whom it may be worse for, the leavor or the leavee? Juliana helps us know what everyone may be feeling.   For more on Juliana Neiman, visit: www.JulianaNeiman.com         We Read more [...]

Seven Simple Steps to Single

  By Gretchen Schiller “Sooo…when do I update my Facebook relationship status to ‘Single’?” She asked me while walking down the sidewalk. My friend and her husband are in the process of getting divorced. “Uhm, I’m not sure really, maybe not just yet, maybe when you move out, ya know, have your own apartment…?” Drawing out the word apartment, emphasizing my answer is really a question. “Yeah. Probably. OK. That sounds right. OK.” She looked down at the pavement, focused, Read more [...]

Be Patient, Love and Above all be You

      Be Patient, Love and Above all be You In an ideal world, all relationships would thrive, we’d procreate the optimum 2.2 children and alongside them, rear uber-obedient companion dogs that the children would walk every day after they’d done homework and a handful of chores. The children would grow well, flourish in their educative years and contribute to their local communities via the voluntary sector and as a nuclear unit you’d watch reruns of the Walton’s on Read more [...]

“I Stood Next To A Mountain”

      I stood Next to a mountain Stared up at its peak It did not Grant me solace Neither did it speak It seemed to look down on me From another place in time In that incarnation I Couldn’t find the will to climb As if noble heights remembered Nearly every thing I should That day a mountain moved me…   …Standing next to where I stood   Follow me on Facebook Tony Haynes Check out  these and some of my other books on Amazon.com SpiritChili A Few Read more [...]