Stories of Survivors: Stories From Those Who Overcome Domestic Violence

  18 months ago I had the idea to collect stories from survivors of domestic violence and put them into a book. The focus of this project is not to make money, but to make a difference in a fight that is so near and dear to my heart. Being a clinician who has done a large amount of group work, one thing I have found to be amazingly true is that we learn more from other people who have been through the same thing than “experts.” That is a major reason that I wanted to do the project, but Read more [...]

Life after Abuse: Talk Yourself Out of Verbal Abuse

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   “The language we use to communicate with one another is like a knife. In the hands of a careful and skilled surgeon, a knife can work to do great good. But in the hands of a careless or ignorant person, a knife can cause great harm.”   This quote, which is written by an anonymous author, best sums up what Read more [...]

A Relationship With an Abusers?

  If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you may be/have been in a relationship with an abuser.   •Are you now or have you ever been in a relationship with someone who abuses you emotionally? •Are you always walking on eggshells around your partner, worried that anything you say or do could incite their anger and rage? •Does your partner criticize everything you do or say? •Does your partner try to isolate you from your family and friends? •Does your partner make Read more [...]

HOPE is just a phone call away. Help is Available if you Need it!

      If you’re feeling hopeless, HOPE is just a phone call away. No matter what problems you are struggling with, hurting yourself isn’t the answer.   The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is here to help.  By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. For Hearing & Speech Impaired with TTY Equipment: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889)   If you are in a relationship that is violent, Read more [...]

12 x 4 x 10 – Diary of Abuse

12 x 4 x 10 - Diary of Abuse by Misty Frith I am a deputy; I protect people like me I am a paramedic; I fix the wounds you cannot see I’m always strong for others, making sure they cannot see The terrified, crying side of me It’s been two years since I asked for help, to keep him away from us Here, we are again in court, dealing with the fuss When I come to Indy, I have to take pills Panic attacks over take me, they come on like chills A scar on my nose, from a punch to the face A scar on Read more [...]

Guidelines to Follow if Still Have to Be In Contact with Your Abuser

  Here are some guidelines to follow if still have to be in contact with your abuser.    - Tell the abuser that you will not accept the statements that define you and list examples. - Tell your abuser that you will video all meetings. Then keep a video camera with you. - Limit contact with the abuser. - Say "What did you say?" if you do hear verbal abuse - Be prepared to leave the presence of the abuser if you are abused - Hang up the phone if you are abused. - Try to keep any Read more [...]

Help in the Fight to End Domestic Violence

One year ago I had the idea to collect stories from survivors of domestic violence and put them into a book. The focus of this project is not to make money, but to make a difference in a fight that is so near and dear to my heart. Being a clinician who has done a large amount of group work, one thing I have found to be amazingly true is that we learn more from other people who have been through the same thing than “experts.” That is a major reason that I wanted to do the project, but there Read more [...]

Male Inspired Divorce Poetry will be Available Early 2014

  Male inspired divorce poetry will be available early 2014     All things being equal, the men's version of Poetry of Divorce should be available in the Spring of 2014.Poetry of Divorce is a collection of upbeat, stark, witty, gritty yet essentially encouraging poems, by Tracey West.Through her sharp and comedic pen, they outline everything from the uphill struggles, to the absolute adventures faced by many men, as they attempt to carve a coherent route through the most emotionally Read more [...]

Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem

    Encouraging Thoughts to Help Improve Your Self-Esteem  Thoughts that inspire exploration and reflection (again, compliments to my beautiful therapist) Happiness can be defined in many ways, but what IS it that gives us this wonderful sensation that emanates from deep within ourselves? The answer comes from deep within. Self Esteem or Self Respect is not given to use through praise, gifts or attention. It’s about ourselves learning how to do things for ourselves, how to be responsible Read more [...]

Two’s Company, Three’s a Crowd: Avoiding Triangulation in Your Future Relationships

  Abusive relationships leave our self-esteem debilitated. People who have experienced abuse in their previous relationships have become paralyzed with fear-- fear of not being able to love again, fear of not being loved again and that fear of experiencing failure in their future relationships. You may currently be healing from abuse, and you think that it may still be too early to enter into a new relationship, and you are right. However, there is nothing too early about learning and understanding Read more [...]