Two’s Company, Three’s a Crowd: Avoiding Triangulation in Your Future Relationships

  Abusive relationships leave our self-esteem debilitated. People who have experienced abuse in their previous relationships have become paralyzed with fear-- fear of not being able to love again, fear of not being loved again and that fear of experiencing failure in their future relationships. You may currently be healing from abuse, and you think that it may still be too early to enter into a new relationship, and you are right. However, there is nothing too early about learning and understanding Read more [...]

Projection: Your Partner is Not a Mirror

    Projection in relationships is one of the most common reasons of abusive relationships. This is a defense mechanism of most people that they are not aware of. Projection is what other people do in order to manage and cope with their feelings. Psychological projection is about projecting your undesirable feelings to someone else instead of dealing with it yourself. When this is done in a relationship, it becomes an abusive one. When Projection becomes Abusive This abusive behavior Read more [...]

Divorced and Scared NO More Author Updates

    *************************************** Thank you so much for your support of DASNM.  On November 14 we will have been on the internet for 1 year.  Time has flown by and this one woman blog has turned into a website with over 20 contributors.   All the contributors and I would like you to know we appreciate your feedback, comments and emails so very much.  If you see any way we can improve the website or anything you would like to share with others PLEASE don’t hesitate to let Read more [...]

Be The Expert of Your Own Life

I often get asked what my greatest passion is, not just in interviews or Q&A sessions after talks, but by friends as well.  That's always been a difficult question for me to answer, as I have so many different pursuits that I'm highly passionate about.  Friends know that I have a huge passion for writing books on the topics of relationships and dating, they know I have a passion for domestic violence work, a passion for giving talks on relationships, and a passion for countless other things.  Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “What Makes Us Crazy During Divorce and The Need to Protect Your Children”

    Podcast: Play in new window | Download     In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce, with Mark Banschick, M.D., we talk about what it is about divorce that makes seemingly “normal” people behave in crazy, and even violent, ways? Dr. Banschick explains that it’s more or less normal for divorcing individuals to believe they are the victim. This can even be the case for people who have had an affair because they might see the reason they did so was that their partner Read more [...]

Is it Unpleasant or Extreme Behavior

      If you are on the lead up to leaving and believe your spouse has been behaving unreasonably, you might want to sharpen up on the clearer definition of it, especially if you’re planning on divorcing them in the not too distant future. You will have to cite it in reasonable detail on your divorce petition. It is unpleasant or extreme behavior from your spouse which has led to you feeling you are unable to live with them anymore. There isn't a singular legal definition as Read more [...]

Relationships – Domestic Violence

    When you are young everything revolves around relationships...your relationship with your family, your relationships with your friends and peers, and your romantic relationships.  As we age and grow into who we are as people it is natural for the focus to be less on relationships with others and more on the relationship we have with ourselves; however, even as adults that often isn't the case. In our society we put a lot of emphasis on romantic love.  We watch romantic comedies, Read more [...]

Survivors of Domestic Violence, Let Your Story Empower Others

  Stories of Survivors: Stories of those who have overcome abuse As many of you know I am a private practice clinician  an author, and a tv show host...what you may not know is that my greatest passion is connected to a fight against domestic violence and serve as the Executive Director of a domestic violence organization, Acts of Random Kindness (or ARK.) ARK is in the process of collecting stories of survivors of domestic violence in various stages of rebuilding their lives and recovering Read more [...]

Things Do Go Wrong in Life If You Need Help it’s Just a Phone Call Away

    Things may be going wrong in your life now. I know life will get better. Life isn't always FUN; it isn't always FAIR. You have to take one day at a time. You must learn from your mistakes in order to have the knowledge and ability to find true happiness. Wouldn’t it be nice if life came with an owners manual? Not only would we know what could happen to us; we would also know how to fix it. All we can do is face it head on, and handle everything to the best of our ability, Don't Read more [...]

Learn Some Basics About Abuse Part 4 – Discovering Your Lost Self: Bye Bye Co-Dependency!

  Thanks You for reading this article. DASNM has two complimentary gifts for you. You will find the information for the free gifts by Scrolling Down after the article.   A lot of people stay in abusive relationships because of the fear of being alone or not being loved by other people. They will say for the longest time that they want out, but they end up not leaving. There are some people who do leave, but they tend to repeat the same self-destructive attitude in their new relationship. Co-dependency Read more [...]