What Counts as Cheating?

        Cheating is difficult to define.  In a really broad sense, cheating includes betraying a partner's expectations about the type of contact allowed with others. When a partner, breaks one's expectations about exactly what is appropriate, individuals feel betrayed. Relationships are not based on logic; however, they are influenced by our feelings. Cheating is complex because the meaning varies so extremely. However, when someone violates a partner's expectations, the Read more [...]

“Hold Me Up”

                   “Hold Me Up”   The grief is Heavy, but in the heaviness Every heart can be uplifted   Hope’s motif is then Embedded in A byproduct Love re-gifted I need you to hold me up Never let me down when I’m deep into it Give me the strength to go through it   Properly, I have to put this grief behind me Remove it from me finally Over time & under the watchful eye Clouded by Emotions that Read more [...]

Divert Your Energies

    It’s a foregone conclusion when you think about it; a person you’ve spent a great deal of married years with, is likely to be able to retain the ability to press your buttons years after your divorce. They know precisely where your Achilles heel is, they know what provokes you and they know how to stir up a storm that enrages you into action. It’s like a spectator sport to them. Well, if your emotions are suffering at the idle hand of a vitriolic ex, why not put the fire Read more [...]

Assessing Emotional Maturity By, Justin Nutt, LMSW

    “Maturity of mind is the capacity to endure uncertainty.” - John Finley All too often emotional maturity is viewed as a given attribute that a person achieves based on their chronological age. But the truth is that young or old, 6 or 60, isn’t what defines the emotional maturity of a person. The maturity of a person isn’t something that magically is bestowed upon a person when they enter puberty, graduate high school, or turn 21, it is something that comes from within and Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #39

Inspirational Quotes Strength of character isn’t always about how much you can handle before you break, it’s also about how much you can handle after you’ve broken.” – LiveLifeHappy.com "Push yourself because no one else is going to do it for you." - Savannah Colette “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” -  RawForBeauty.com "A person’s most useful asset is not the head full of knowledge, but a heart full of love, an ear ready to listen, Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “What Makes Us Crazy During Divorce and The Need to Protect Your Children”

    Podcast: Play in new window | Download     In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce, with Mark Banschick, M.D., we talk about what it is about divorce that makes seemingly “normal” people behave in crazy, and even violent, ways? Dr. Banschick explains that it’s more or less normal for divorcing individuals to believe they are the victim. This can even be the case for people who have had an affair because they might see the reason they did so was that their partner Read more [...]

Economic Reality of Divorce

  How does the income that ran one house now run two? It does not and that is a fact that must be accepted. Life after divorce is financially demanding. Most research shows that a person needs more than a 30% increase in their income on average to maintain the same standard of living. About one in five women fall into poverty, and three of four parents do not receive child support in full on a regular basis. A man’s standard of living goes down on average 10% to 40%. Here are two things that Read more [...]

Divorce Source Radio Episode “Stepfamilies: Losses and Loyalties”

        Divorce Source Radio Episode   “Stepfamilies: Losses and Loyalties” Originally aired August 12, 2012     Podcast: Play in new window | Download Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck welcomes Patricia Fares-O’Malley, PhD. She is a psychotherapist,  hypnotherapist, teacher, stress and grief management specialist.   Patricia Fares-O’Malley Todays program zero in on the challenges stepfamilies face, and Patricia help us know what it takes for blended families to Read more [...]

1 Through 20 Character Traits of a Narcissist

     Character Traits of a Narcissist   1. Self-centered. Their needs are paramount. 2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds. 3. Unreliable, undependable. 4. Does not care about the consequences of their actions. 5. Projects his/her faults on to others. High blaming behavior; never his/her fault. 6. Little if any conscience. 7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others. 8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others. 9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger Read more [...]

The Stress and Anxiety Over the Divorce Will Fade

    Making the decision to get divorced can be one of the hardest decisions you have faced.  Confusion, fear, anger, disappointment are all feelings you may experience.  Often you aren't just thinking about yourself and wondering about your own future, but are concerned about your spouse, their family, your family, possibly your children.  The Stress and Anxiety Over the Divorce Will Fade! It's okay to be scared.  It's okay to experience a wide array of emotions.  There's nothing Read more [...]