Post Divorce Christmas Part 4 – Divorced Parents and Christmas with Children

  Divorced Parents and Christmas with Children The first thing you should know is that you are not the only one spending the holidays alone. Christmas and other seasonal holidays can be difficult if you are newly divorced. It can be tougher when there are children involved. It is tough but do-able. Separated families often feel that someone else is having a better Christmas than them. This is not true. They may also feel distressed worrying about their children especially if they are spending Read more [...]

Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test.

      Are You a Soft Target for Manipulators? Take the test to see and if you are, learn what you need to work on so you will no longer be a soft target for a manipulator. Read each statement below. If the statement is true or mostly True for you, circle T; if it is false or mostly false, circle F. Be Sure to circle either T or F for every item. No fence-sitting. Who’s Pulling Your Strings? T F   1. I should always try to please other people and make them happy. T F Read more [...]

Significant Dates Change Color

    After a divorce, previously significant dates change color and feel a little strange, mostly because you’re not sure how you are supposed to feel about them. That date stays on the calendar and comes around every year! The birthday of your ex is a good example. What do you do? Send a card, don’t send a card; to be honest, that’s an easy one to deal with by comparison to your wedding anniversary. Whether you spent a year together or three decades or more, that date signifies the Read more [...]

What Counts as Cheating?

        Cheating is difficult to define.  In a really broad sense, cheating includes betraying a partner's expectations about the type of contact allowed with others. When a partner, breaks one's expectations about exactly what is appropriate, individuals feel betrayed. Relationships are not based on logic; however, they are influenced by our feelings. Cheating is complex because the meaning varies so extremely. However, when someone violates a partner's expectations, the Read more [...]

Inspirational Quotes #36

Inspirational Quotes #36 “I may not be perfect, but when I look at my children I know that I got something in my life perfectly right.” – Shut Up I’m Still Talking “Heaven on Earth is a choice we must make, not a place we must find.” DrWayneDyer.com “How can you change the world? That’s easy… one random act of kindness at a time.” – Wolfie "People who are attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t be by your side forever.  But the people who can see Read more [...]

A Stranger is a Future Friend that I haven’t Learned Their Name Yet!

  I am happy that in my life and here is an example why. The woman I viewed as my “best friend” for over three decades told her cousin I had gotten divorced and gave him my number. I lived on one side of the country, and he lived on the other. We texted, emailed, and talked on the phone for about three months. I asked him if he was involved with anyone and he always reassured me that there was no one in his life. He then asked me to come and visit him since I had not been anywhere in Read more [...]

“The Starter Marriage”

          Everyone gets a first one to Disparage I call it The Starter Marriage   The first one comes with High hopes and Expectations to live up to faithfully   Resulting in rumors and Explanations, but when the faithful see Loyalty get tested And true love falls apart The Starter Marriage Initiates an urge companions thwart Or at least prolongs uneasiness Nine months down the road So a lovely better half Has time to drop a load In time to find Read more [...]

5 Tips That Will Help You with That First Date

    We all get a little intimidated on a first date. If you have been out of the dating world for a while, it is even harder to get back in the swing of things. Here are some tips I used for my first dates. 1. Keep your expectations realistic: We all have flaws and you and your date are no exceptions. Remember NO checklists but do have your deal breakers. Ask yourself these three questions first: Do I like them? Are they easy to talk to, and you feel comfortable? Is there any attraction? Read more [...]

Missing the Physical Aspects of a Relationship is Normal

      Missing the physical aspects of a relationship is normal. How you handle it could send you down a path you don’t want to be on. With the loss of any long-term relationship, you'll encounter things you start to miss. Such things as, a loving hug from the opposite sex, a smile when a person watches you walk up, the list goes on and on. Fortunately soon after my divorce, an excellent friend sat me down and said “guard against becoming ripe for the picking.” I really Read more [...]

A Distraction Technique to Make Your Mouth Water

    Today’s tip is a distraction technique to make your mouth water. According to About Divorce, it takes 3 to 6 months on average from the date when the divorce petition is lodged with the court until the Decree Absolute or Final Order. Different courts have different timescales and the process will take longer if either of you delays at any point. A few months is a conservative estimate and if you are ticking the days off until you hit the magic 100, you might find yourself disappointed Read more [...]