It’s Easy to Feel Emotionally Scarred

        It’s incredibly easy to feel emotionally scarred by the actions of an unpleasant ex but don’t be frightened off of other members of their gender for life. Take things as slowly as you need to once you’ve come to terms with your divorce and remember that being in a relationship isn’t a necessity, but it can be a wonderful place. Learning to trust again, allowing yourself to love again and letting down the barriers enough to let a new partner into your life Read more [...]

Cheating & It’s Impact

  Infidelity is one of the worst things that you can ever do to your partner – so why do so many actually commit such a crime? In our previous article we spoke about what infidelity actually is. Today, we want to concentrate on what the biggest reasons are for each gender. What are the most common excuses given for cheating? Also, what kind of impact can it have on a divorce proceeding and beyond? If you have previously been involved in cheating in the past, whether you were the one cheating Read more [...]

T’s Top 10 SAFETY TIPS for Online Dating

The Internet is still pretty safe, even for seniors, according to WiredSafety.org. People are emailing, private messaging, chatting with one another, and making cyber-dates. Online dating will be a fun and fulfilling if you take a few precautions to ensure your safety and success. ■ Do Not Give Out Personal Information - Use a third party email address instead of one with your own and do not link it to any of your accounts. For example, set up a Google account without any of your personal information Read more [...]

Givers Takers and Dating

    One thing about online dating: everybody lies. The girls lie about their weight. The guys lie about their age, and even the online dating service lies — about how many miles it is to the person you are winking at. This understanding came to me that dark weekday night as I drove 48 miles down the interstate to a rendezvous at Borders with a girl that according to the online dating service said was “under 25 miles.” Maybe as the crow flies or in a time warp. Who knows. No Read more [...]

Why Being a Good Man is Definitely a Feminist Issue

    By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project   Noah Brand makes the case that gender theory applies to both genders.     This article is a response to “Why Being a Good Man is Not a Feminist Issue” by Tom Matlack.   The reason I agreed to come on board as editor-in-chief at the Good Men Project is that this site is doing something nobody else is doing, at least not on this scale. Its core mission is born of personal and transformative experience Read more [...]

Rejection, Part One

By Noah Brand Two quotes about men being rejected by women, one of which meant a lot to me growing up, and one of which moved me more deeply than I expected. The first, from Stephen King’s classic horror novel Christine, in which the unpopular and awkward Arnie discusses how he found the nerve to ask out the beautiful new girl at school: …Ned was telling Lenny that he’d asked her out and she’d said no, but in a nice way… like maybe if he asked her again she might try it out. … The Read more [...]

Co-Parenting a Child with Someone who Suffers From a Personality Disorder; Here are a few Things to Consider

      Co-parenting - Co-parenting (or Co-parenting) means sharing physical or legal custody of a child when you are separated or divorced. Here are a few things to consider when you are Co-parenting a child with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. Personal Safety - Personal Safety is a list of actions that are designed to keep situations from escalating and to make sure that Physical, Emotional and Verbal abuse is avoided or stopped at the first moment it begins Read more [...]

Co-parenting a Child with Someone who Suffers From a Personality Disorder

    Co-parenting means sharing physical or legal custody of a child when you are separated or divorced. Here are a few things to consider when you are Co-parenting a child with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. Personal Safety - Personal Safety is a list of actions that are designed to keep situations from escalating and to make sure that Physical, Emotional and Verbal abuse is avoided or stopped at the first moment it begins to happen. It contains ideas on when to Read more [...]

Let the Restaurant Help You

      I have written this from a woman’s perspective, but the same idea holds true for a man. I know men do not think as much as women do regarding their own safety. If you could hear some of the stories that men have told me through the years, you would understand men are at risk also. Gender has nothing to do with if the persons intent or desire is to cause harm to another.  Let the restaurant help you on your next date.   When meeting someone for a first date, I recommend Read more [...]